Why do i fell guilty?

Question

Ok well i was goin out with this girl. She introduced her bro to my sis and they startin liking each other. But my sister cheated on him. He got all pissed and me and my friends got into arguements with him. He tried killing himself and failed. He was sent to a help facility and then my gf brokeup with me because she thought it was all my fault and she became a bisexual druggy. I don't know why i feel like in a way it'smy fault.

Answer 1

well no offence but thats just a f**** up situation.... i hate to break it to you bt you give yourself too much credit... yeah you were involved but so were all of them.. half the problem with the world is that we all blame someone else for our actions rather than realising that no matter what the outside influences were ultimately our actions and outcomes are the result of our own decicions!!!

Answer 2

DAMNNNNNNNNNN!,

That sounds like a book deal or a soap opera.

You poor thing u, all this happen after Ur sister decided to cheat, he gets pissed at U, then he tried to kill himself( foolish) now he's in a help facility Ur girlfriend ( his sister) breaksup with U because she feels it's ur fault and now she's a drugged out dike.

I have to tell ya the only one I feel sorry for is U

It's not ur fault ur sister cheapted, it's not ur fault that guy tried to kill himself and it's DAMN sure not ur fault ur ex is on drugs or that she's bi

so U should feel gulity about any of this,

But u should feel the need to write a book and sell it make money from it and forget about the nut and his dike of a sister

Answer 3

This is not your fault in any way form or fashion. You can not make any one stay with someone just to keep the other person happy. Neither can you stop a person other than yourself from cheating on someone else. Sounds like the people you are talking about might need some help in dealing with things life can throw at them. If you are still feeling bad about this and not sure of what to do then their is nothing wrong about getting help in makeing the right decision for yourself.

Answer 4

Dude no its not your fault. You did nothing wrong. What should happen is you all need to sit down and talk what happened. When I say you all I mean you, ur gf, her bro, your sis, and the guy ur sis cheated with. You all sit down with a shrink dude and talk about what happened. In my opinion this was all your sis's fault. She made the wrong choice. And if everyone else wants to blame you, then they're sooooo ignorant that they probably will end up in a worse situation.

If people keep blaming you, then just stick a hand in their face, tell them to back off and it's not your fault, then just leave them.

It's gonna be hard but its what needs to be done. It is out of your hands, since you did nothing wrong.

Answer 5

Well... having such a small amount of facts, regaurding the situation, it's hard to give a solid answer.
You didn't cause your sister to cheat on him.
As unfortunate as it is, that this young man tried to take his life... that's hardly your fault, either. People endure break ups all the time, and don't resort to suicide as a means of resolution. This young man was in need of psychiatric care, and is recieving it. Be grateful the outcome wasn't different. And as for your ex-girlfriend becoming a bi-sexual druggie... can YOU really take responsibility for that? People either have homosexual tendencies, or they don't... you can't "Cause" someone to like members of the same sex. And as for the drugs she is doing... unless you supplied her with them, and encouraged her to use them... you can't take responsibility for that, either. It sounds like such troubles run in her family (as her brother recently tried to end his life). However... there IS something you can do. You loved this girl, once... you cared about what she cared about (her brother, and the pain of his break-up with your sister)... go to her. Encourage her to seek help, and to find value in herself, again. It's easy to walk away... but is that how you would want to be treated? Get the folks in her life involved, if you can (parents, family, friends)... this girls is in trouble. She is worth saving, don't you think? Be a source of support... save her life, if you can. She needs you now, more than she ever has. I wish you well, and God bless.

Answer 6

It's not your fault. He had problems within that something else would have triggered to try to kill himself.There's no way you could be responsible for so much going wrong.This guy need profesional help and lots of prayer.

Answer 7

If all of this drama is going on in your life, you need to make a movie, move to a monastery, or write a book. If not, you have a creative imagination and I thank you for the story.

Answer 8

nothing is ever your fault your sister just liked another guy and went with him but don't be blaming yourself because the only person that should be blammed is your sister herself your bestriend will be ok and your gf shouldn't have broken up with you because she thought it was your fault...remember unless you did something bad nothings your fault

Answer 9

well dude look i would feel guilty as well if my gf became a besexual drugy but look
it is not your fault but look it is your sisters fault she is the cheating person
so dude look if you realy do love her try to help her and get her off the drugs and look
it is not your fault
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Answer 10

Its just sounds like you got involved with a disfunctional group. Emotions are raw....things like this happen...he chose to hurt himself...and she chose to be bi-sexual....move on.....becareful of the family dynamics before jumping to fast in the pit next time...LET IT GO...move on.