staying for years and suddenly the other party comes in with a bombshell saying you should break up since he or she has found the better half.after this mayhem what would you do to get over this?
2006-07-01 05:32:49 · 9 answers · asked by countryboyhughes 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Time heals all wounds. Stay away from this person. It will get better everyday. Go out with your friends. Friends are great for this kind of stuff. They can keep your head straight. Obviously this other person was not worth your time. You'll meet someone that will respect and cherish you. Just thank God you didn't put more time into this relationship.
2006-07-01 05:38:19 · answer #1 · answered by BluePassion 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can feel your pain my friend. I am going through the same lonely pain that you are. Just 6 weeks ago my wife said that she did not love me anymore after 11 years. I have tried everything to get her back. Flowers, jewelry, promises, abosolutly everything. But I found out that the harder I tried to get her back the more she pulled away. It is a tough reality to face that you have absolutly no control over someone you love so much. You feel that if you try hard enough you can touch some place in their heart that will make them want you back. Unfortunatly that is not reality. Reality is that you have to let her go and work on yourself now. The hope of getting her back will only keep you from being able to move on and make yourself a stonger person. You need to become a better person for you, not her. Look in the mirror and ask yourself if you have reached your full potential, hell you might not even like yourself so much right now. You cannot let guilt and regret drag you down. You have no control over your past or her future, all you can control is your future. So do the best you can in that regard and the rest will work itself out. I am sure you have heard similar advice, and I am sure you have even tried telling yourself some of these things. A problem I seem to have is getting my heart to belive the things my mind is telling it. The trick is actually lifting your chin up taking a few deep breaths and doing it. One thing to remember is that right now there are thousands of people feeling the same pain that you are. You are not alone in your painful journey, hell I am right there with you. I am sure you get no sleep, feel upset constantly, have that empty feeling inside, and feel totally desperate. You and I have a mountain to climb, and the longer we sit at the bottom scared to climb the longer it will take to get to the top. We might even just spend the rest of our days looking up from the bottom. Talk to people who have been there they will tell you the climb is worth it. If you get feeling down email me and I will be glad to share some of my experiences with you. Good luck.
2006-07-01 05:40:14 · answer #2 · answered by Scott B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are male....: As a man having a womyn leave you for another man means one simple thing, you have emotionally unsatisfied OR harmed her. For a man, this means the relationship was so unhealthy to the point that the womyn went out to find someone new. To get over this mayhem, you need to let it all go because it's old news. Fix yourself, focus on your job or hobbies and then get back out there. Find a physical relationship to focus on until you want a marriage.
If you are a womyn...: As a womyn your man has just CHEATED on you and left you?? What the??? Men normally cheat, but they sure don't leave. This is a rare situation. The womyn who stole him from you is "better for him" physically and such a sleeze that she emotionally brainwashed him and stole him. You need to realize that he is crap. He is a big wad of crap that CHEATED on you physically, and worst of all BETRAYED you emotionally. Get out of the situation, clear your mind, get some friends together and live a little. Get back in the game when your ready.
2006-07-01 05:39:34 · answer #3 · answered by Poestalker 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In order to avoid sounding cliched, the situation is what you make of it. The only thing you can control is how you respond to a situation; you cannot control another person or the events that occur in your life. Think of it in terms of this: if you hold on to negative thoughts (negative perceptions of people or events), you will view everything around those people or events as negative. If you maintain a positive viewpoint, the people or events you're thinking of or experiencing will be positive even in the most difficult of times such as now.
No matter what happens, the sun always rises the next day.
2006-07-01 05:43:01 · answer #4 · answered by jknne2000 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm sorry to take heed to, yet i comprehend the way you experience because i'm interior a similar good situation. like be conscious for be conscious. He purely doesnt deserve you. even as college starts back, dont teach him that you're weak once you spot him because then which will supply him extra of an ego strengthen. And dont tell each individual the way you experience because distinct acquaintances will pass and tell him what you instructed them. purely imagine that if he stopped being concerned about you, you should end being concerned about him. enable him be, you could finally end up someone extra efficient quickly. if he damage you in the present day, someone will damage him tomorrow and thats even as he will keep in recommendations you, yet do exactly not overlook that you cant pass back to him because he will take income of you. once a cheater continually a cheater. everyhitng i instructed you is what my sister tells me. it really is how i deal with the cruel time i'm dealing with. its demanding yet you'd be ok quickly! good success with each little thing!
2016-11-30 02:30:46 · answer #5 · answered by ericksen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing you can do is nurture yourself and not jump into another relationship. Take time to reflect on what happened. Find a new hobby, travel, pamper yourself. You are number one and are the only person that can make you happy.
2006-07-01 06:22:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would start thinking of ME
i would take a few days of work
find some clubs to start something that i have always wanted to do
make new friends think of it as a new start for ME
respect
shaz
2006-07-01 05:47:51 · answer #7 · answered by sharon B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do your best to surround yourself with love ones and keep busy. you'll have to force yourself with this but you will fine someone eventually who will be your real soul mate gl
2006-07-01 05:51:03 · answer #8 · answered by suzanne t 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
flirt with other ppl to make u forget about them
2006-07-01 05:35:24 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋