I was wondering how do you go about getting a devorse. I have been married going on 5 years this month. I am just getting tired of being pushed around when he dosn't get his way or verbal abused. I also have 2 young daughters and they don't need to see it eather. The only problem is I know he is not going to want to leave and I don't know anything about how to get a devorse. I need some advice please.
2006-07-01 05:23:57 · 16 answers · asked by ladyjamie 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I live buffalo n,y,
2006-07-01 05:33:18 · update #1
i've had this problem too. sometimes you just have to go with whats happening. plainly you could just take a little "vacation" away from him. just try not to fight with him, be a regular wife and be just normal. if he gets mad, just agree on certain things. so that you wont be against everything, and it wont turn into a horrible fight.
2006-07-01 05:42:54 · answer #1 · answered by domingobennett 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he does anything to you considered Physical abuse, such as hitting, pushing, etc., then you can call the police and get a restraining order against him and he will have to leave the household... That could be your first step, question is can you afford a lawyer, next question is. Are you a good wife and mother...What happens that he wants to push you around and uses verbal abuse,, usually there are 2 sides to these stories, evaulate your actions, and if you are a good wife and mother than you deserve to take action to eliminate the problem..
2006-07-01 12:35:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is the best advice that i can give.(and i'm not married) if you have the Internet look up divorce lawyers or divorce attorneys. you don't have the Internet then look in the white pages. but honestly if this man is verbally abusive and you have kids then I'd really really sit down and think about you getting away from with without him knowing. when guys are abusive and they hear or get something they don't like--that's not good....
2006-07-01 12:31:35 · answer #3 · answered by juicyfruitishandsome 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your being pushed around or hit you need to find a womens shelter and get out of there for your safety and the childrens.
You can go to we the people.com and order divorce papers for your state. They will send them where ever you need them sent to. You fill them out and take them down to your court house when you have the money together to file. You can call your courthouse to find out what the fee is. Also make sure to do some check on your state laws for divorce. You might be suprised on what you can ask for.
2006-07-01 12:40:41 · answer #4 · answered by B D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You obviously have the internet... and I know that there is NO answer you cannot find with unlimited internet access... so look around... search google or altavista for divorce lawyers and talk to some. It's not going to be easy to get through it, divorces are usually really messy if one person wants it and the other doesn't... good luck
2006-07-01 12:50:38 · answer #5 · answered by lizwatson109 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him NOW!! My sister was abused and it took her until he pushed her down the stairs at 6 mths pregnant to realize she had to leave him. Then, he started in on my nephew that wasn't even 1 yr old then.
Don't wait that long. Look in the phone book for divorce lawyers and start calling around. There are ones that have a free consultation. I would ask around your area to see who's the best.
You definitely don't want your daughters growing up to think that behavior is okay. And you don't want him to start in on them!!
Good Luck!!!!
2006-07-01 12:32:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't you have a family member that you can talk to? I don't
know anything about getting a divorce. I think you can call an
attorney and ask for advice without having to pay. If you do
call an attorney ask first if there is a charge for advice. You can ask around too for the best attorney.
2006-07-01 12:29:38 · answer #7 · answered by Bethany 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can't afford it seek a lawyer that helps low or no income people they can be found on the web at freedivorce.com and r nation wide just first find a safe place for you and the girls, he may become violent when you finally find the option you are looking for ask friends or family members for help in finding a lawyer or a place to stay. good-luck.
2006-07-01 12:32:11 · answer #8 · answered by Roe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to set up an appointment with a divorce lawyer. You can sit and explain to the lawyer your situation and he/she will advise you as to how to go about divorce proceedings. Maybe a legal separation will do. You never know. but that;s the first step. If you feel strongly about this, don't wait. Time makes is harder, take it from me.
2006-07-01 12:29:13 · answer #9 · answered by BluePassion 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would first make sure this is what you want.
If so, find a lawyer. You need a lawyer to fight for you. Get a women lawyer. Men are pigs and they will cause you trouble.
When my parents got divorced, my mom got a male attorney. He was a jerk. I got her to dump him and get a women. She was mean and ruthless, a perfect lawyer.
My mom got half of everything.
You can do it. The children will be better for it.
2006-07-01 13:24:08 · answer #10 · answered by javarick 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u can go the court house where u live and they should tell u how u can get a divorce that will not cost some much , or i think u can put in the newspaper and if he do not reply like in a couple of days u will get it but u will have to pay like a couple of bucks , i know here in north carolina it is like $135.00 to do that
2006-07-01 12:52:34 · answer #11 · answered by angel h 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋