my sister is 23 this boy just turn 18 he talk to her only online the net never seend each but pictures and she have 4 kids and he know this he live in cailf. going to collage but he want to move here to be the father of her 4 baby,,,,what do u think abt this is it going to last they never talk on the phone ......as her sister what do i do be there for her
2006-07-01 05:20:59 · 24 answers · asked by angel 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Although there have been many who have met online and started a relationship that is lasting, this deal sounds kinda nutty. An 18 year old willing to be a father to 4 kids and none his own. On top of that, they only talk online. No, I don't see how this one could work but who really knows.
2006-07-01 05:25:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like your sister and this guy don't know each other very well, but it still won't last. 23 with 4 kids.....she needs to find someone older than her that is responsible and would want to help raise the kids. Since she has kids that's what she needs to be thinking about. Her kids need to come first and he doesn't seem like he would make a good father just yet. She needs to find someone else in life not only for her sake, but for the sake of her kids too. Hopefully she makes the right choice and ditches this guy.....if she only talks to him online then she might not know the *true* him.
2006-07-01 05:33:45 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your sister is out of her mind, so is this boy. It will never last I can tell you that. Just as simple as they met, they will break up. I feel sorry for the kids thoe, because your sister shows that she is irresponsible with the choosing of a man in raising her children. They both seem to have been in a bad relationship and were hurt bad. Now they are comforting each other and the poor kids are going to get hurt once this cheep-net date is over.
2006-07-01 05:35:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Generally, this one is bound to be doomed. He's only 18, he's not working, and he's not even a father! Boys don't get mature at 18 - don't we all know that. They may sound all saucy and romantic and responsible over the net, but you can never know what's over there in front of the screen.
But, if your sister is willing to take the risk, why not? I mean, it might be worth it. Just remember that she's risking the lives and future of her four children.
2006-07-01 05:43:20 · answer #4 · answered by Sab 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to say this but their is nothing you can do. Seeing how she is 23 and has four kids already seems like she is in love with the ideal of being in love and does not know how to be in a true releationship. As her sister the only thing you can do is express how you feel about this, but still let her make her on decision and always stand by her when she falls.
2006-07-01 05:27:27 · answer #5 · answered by justduh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Red Flag...He probably have some emotional problems that has not been addressed. Plus, he could be a potential child molester or have been molested himself.
I would have a serious talk and do some research on the net and in your court system (registered sex offered).
2006-07-01 05:27:41 · answer #6 · answered by sweet_justice99 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think this is a very amateur decision on the part of the 18 year old boy even though it's very brave of him to think of supporting your sister. your sister needs to fend for herself maybe also with your support, but to expect a stranger (since they have not met yet or not even spoken) is not a wise decision at all. this relationship needs a lot of time and a lot of working out together if it has to work in the long run.
2006-07-01 05:25:01 · answer #7 · answered by dxb 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
scary. i have in the past, met people on the Internet NOT from my area, or honestly my life style. hopefully she will come to her senses before too long. he sounds like a moocher, if she is 23 and has 4 kids, she doesn't sound like she gives a rats a$$ who she has in her life. Just protect the kids. Call your local Children's Services and see what you can do, if anything to protect them.
2006-07-01 05:30:04 · answer #8 · answered by Aunt Mair á?¦ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1st of all, ur sister shudnt meet the father of her 4 children online! what if he's acctually like, in his 50's or 60's and she's only 23? that'll be gross! DONT let her do this. it will never work.
2006-07-01 05:27:38 · answer #9 · answered by $ Richgirl $ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she is trying to find someone who will be with her.. it's hard for a 23yr old with kids to find someone their own age - that's why she's slumming in the 18yr old age bracket. tell her he is 18 and just out of highschool!! he just likes the idea of an older woman. he doesnt know what raising children entails.. set her straight, this could be disastrous
2006-07-01 05:24:24 · answer #10 · answered by squares 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋