How can one "move on" and heal when you still have deal, on a daily basis, with your childrens other parent? How do you handle passing your children off every other weekend and holidays? what are ways to cope, handle and get over the daily hurt this creates?
2006-07-01 05:05:14 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well, you are divorced already, so make sure you leave the past in the past. As far as dealing with the other parent, well, you just have to. So the best way of doing that is to do it in a mature manner. There is no reason to fight with this person anymore. The only ties you have are the children. And that is all you need to discuss with eachother. I would work on having a decent relationship with their dad. Not for his sake or yours, but for the children's sake. Get over your hurts at this point. Start making plans for yourself and maybe some friends for when the kids are not around. Go away for weekends and holidays when they are with their dad.
Try to keep your relationship with the other parent friendly. Remember how it was when you used to get along, and remind him that you guys have to be good to eachother for the children's sake.
good luck.
2006-07-01 05:16:16 · answer #1 · answered by BluePassion 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is hard to do, but use this time to not think of this as the end, start taking up hobbies and doing things you enjoy. Find yourself and learn about yourself ...It is different when you are single vs being in a relationship. You will always have to deal with the other person because you have children together..But think of the benefits of having it this way vs the kids not having both parents in their lives. They will thank you in the long run for being a great parent...
2006-07-01 05:17:19 · answer #2 · answered by Not a Daddys Girl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After going through the difficult "breaking" of a relationship involving children, it is most important to concentrate your energy towards the children, letting them know they in no way have anything to do with the break up, and that you both still, and always will love them. It's easy to think of your own stress durring this time, but you must put thier feelings first. By spending time counceling them, you avoid concentrating on your own emotions, avoiding the temptation of falling into the "poor me" attitude that is so easy to get caught in at this time. Rest assured, you will meet someone better, for you in the future, it's only a matter of time.
2006-07-01 05:15:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well yeah it is hard i am sorry u r having to go through that but if ur marriage was bad just think that u r not haivng to go through that anymore and that u now have an opportunity to make ur life better and about ur children well at least u have him and not him and always use ur children as an encouragement to be happy and to make life better for u and ur children
2006-07-01 05:12:09 · answer #4 · answered by JAZY 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to treat him softly and show that u moved on...then u will find ur self moving on
2006-07-01 05:18:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
time heals
2006-07-01 05:07:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
therapy
2006-07-01 05:56:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋