We've been a couple for more than 15 years, and sometimes it seems I take her for granted when all the day-to-day b.s. gets in the way. But I still love her deeply and want to rekindle those feelings we had when we were first dating.
2006-07-01 04:50:04 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
START TREATING HER LIKE YOU ARE FIRST DATING HER!!! How often do you buy her flowers or her favorite candy? When was the last time you on a whim took her to dinner at the last moment? Been to a movie lately? What little things did you do in the beginning? Write I LOVE YOU on the steamed up mirror afte your shower and when she next takes one it will appear just for her. Leave little notes in random places that say SHMIILY. Leave them in spots she may see them in each day. The sugar bowl, the tea bag box, taped to her toothpaste, on the milk jug, use your imagination. Then when she starts finding them, you know she will ask what it means. And if you haven't figured it out.....Showing How Much I Love You. If you have a park nearby, go to the deli and pick up some quick picnic items and have a special day at the park. If they have ducks there, take along some crackers and feed them. Just little things go a long way with us women, and we do LOVE to know our men still love us. One thing I love to hear too from my hubby is once in a while he will just look me in the eyes and tell me "I appreciate you for all you do and all you put up with!" Try it!
2006-07-01 05:02:16 · answer #1 · answered by TiaRanita 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have only been married for three years, but here are a couple of tips I have picked up. Always complement her on everything she does. Whether she is cleaning the house, getting dressed up, or fixing the car. After about six months this becomes habit for you, but she will never stop noticing the complements. 2. For no reason at all get her flowers once every three months. Every once in a while when I am at a supermarket I buy them just because. 3. Tell her she is sexy, buy her sexy things, and make sex interesting. I think it is the mans job just as much as the woman’s job to keep things interesting in bed. Sex is the foundation of a good relationship. If the sex is bad the rest of the marriage will follow. The sad part is that you can never rekindle those first date feelings; there is no conquest or mystery. However, if you look towards the future instead of the past you will be much happier. Finally never argue about money. Hope this helps
2006-07-01 05:01:35 · answer #2 · answered by aaronmk2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say and then ask her, "I love you so much, and I want to show you how much I love you? What would make you feel loved?" First, she'll probably be shocked you asked. Then, wait for her answer. Ask the question when things are good - otherwise, she might think something is wrong.
One thing I've learned - is we all show and need to see love in different ways. Some people need to hear the words and that's good enough. Some people need the romance - candles, roses, dinner and that's enough. Some people need help around the house to feel like they have a partner. Some people need all of the above. Ask and you'll find out and most likely impress her that you were willing to do what she needed. Best of luck and how lucky you both are to have each other for 15 years!
2006-07-01 05:03:18 · answer #3 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
shower her with lots of gifts. Have her go to a spa and you stay home clean up around the house and make a nice dinner for both of yous.
And let her know how much you love her. And that you are grateful for everything that she has done in the last 15 yrs. And that you love her so and you want to spend 15 more yrs with her.
And stop worried about the B.S. Little stupid things are not something to risk loosing that special someone. Or make them grow apart form you.
2006-07-01 05:05:22 · answer #4 · answered by you_me_set 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a easy question!!!
Take her out to eat to her fav. place. Order for her,,because by now you should know what she likes.
Take her back home, and pull out her favorite drink, the flowers you hid in the closet or bathtub etc.
Give her a cake that you also bought ahead of time a cheesecake w/ strawberries and bring along you own can of whipped topping to add to the fun! ,,,,,feed each other cake,,light a few candles,,,
run a bath for her,,,,while she is in the tub,,,turn the music on dim the lights,,, dance a little,, if that isn't for you,,then watch a romantic chick flick and let the night lead to what it does.
but, you have to plan in advance go to the store and get these things,, make reservations at her fav resturant. Buy her a simple gift............. a pair of earring from Wal-Mart would do......( of course real diamonds are a girls bestfriend,,,) but after this many years money isn't the issue,, you can take her to McDonalds as long as you planned it and make it special......she will always remember that you tried and went all out for her,, no matter how much you spent.
A fun thing to do is pick out the place where you ate at your first date....or go back to where you met.
If you have money to spend.. rent a hotel where....and have the hotel set out flowers, wine, and fruit..
See? I could go on and on...
2006-07-01 04:59:45 · answer #5 · answered by Paige 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok here ya go this is IT ....when she comes home from work have the house cleaned cook a small but nice meal if you have kids send them out to play for about an hour rub her feet with lotion and tell her you love her and what ever you do don't mention wanting SEX that will kill the whole mood BUT just giving her that lil bit she will love and respect you all over again and want to make wild mad love with you come next Saturday when the everyday B.S is over with and the kids are at friends houses spending the night GOOD LUCK and always rememeber saying I love you and I'm Sorry are the best words to a womens ears unless you say it so much its a LIE! so happy trails to ya dude!!! its hard these days
2006-07-01 05:03:34 · answer #6 · answered by Majenta 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Goggle "better marriage and better sex in marriage" I did and it is great. I too was exactly the same way. I started to do things around the house, a simple touch, kiss, a quick ,I love you works wonders. You will see, I was looking for the miracle answer too, but all it takes is the little things to get it all back. We even hold hands in the car and when we watch TV something that has not happened for 15 years. Mail me if you want more details, I am sooooo happy right now with my wife.
2006-07-01 04:59:38 · answer #7 · answered by Andy S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go on a another honeymoon. Take long walks, Make dinner for her, or take her out to one. Make a movie night for the both of ya'll. Take her out for some dancing or least some dance lessons.
Send her some flowers, candy, cards, maybe some cute balloons. Leave her a note, saying how much she means to you. Like I love you, You are my world, your my everything, and etc.
Write her a poem, serenade her with her favorite songs.
Take her to a concert, help her around the house, finish that honey do list that she wanted you to do.
Take her to get some glamour shots of her. Go on a vacation somewhere that ya'll never been before. Or to a place she always wanted to go to. Watch some home videos, look at some old pictures.
Make one of her fantasies come true. Kiss and cuddle. Just make her feel wanted as well.
2006-07-01 05:03:22 · answer #8 · answered by kygl28 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, don't try to live in the past, it wont' work. What you should really consider doing is finding something that you and your wife both enjoy doing. Just spend time with her and let her know everything you like about her. All those little compliments will really help you out. At first she may ignore you and act rude, but if you keep on doing it she'll eventually give in and start doing it back. It's a small, but crucial step to rebuilding your lost feelings for each other.
2006-07-01 04:57:51 · answer #9 · answered by Vanny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave notes for her, here, there and everywhere. We used to put them on the driver's side window of our cars while we were at work, on the bathroom mirror, in lunches, on the computer screen, by the coffee pot, etc...
By a bunch of M & Ms and take all the green ones out, put them in one package and give them to her. This works easiest with Peanut M & Ms. They are not as messy.
Do the laundry or dishes for her; give her the night off.
Cook her breakfast and serve it to her in bed.
Plan a get-a-way just overnight or two nights at a bed and breakfast in a quaint town nearby.
Shop with her. Buy her an outfit a month. She can tell her friends and colleagues, "This is October and the one I wore yesterday was July." It will thrill her that you bought the outfits together and you like how she looks in them.
Tell her how good she looks and don't forget to touch her when you do.
2006-07-01 05:00:47 · answer #10 · answered by Janet H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋