Regarding sex....?

Question

I direct my question to the mature adults on this site. What advice would you give young people,I'm referring to under age individuals, who haven't had sex but are thinking about starting?

Answer 1

Do you know how to disarm a time bomb? If you were in your home and discovered a bomb and the timer indicated five minutes and counting down, would you try to disarm it or would you run the other way?
Sex is like a time bomb. It's real, people know it exists, but not everyone is knowledgable in how to properly deal with it. Handled wrongly it can distroy you through disease, unwanted pregnancy, depression, and guilt. If you have sex for the sake of sex without a spiritual commitment to the other person, you are doing nothing more than any dog could do. You a relegating yourself to the level of an animal that has no self control. People who have no self-control in this area will likely have none in other areas of life. If a guy will have sex with a girl for only the physical gratification, and the same for girls with guys, they will always place that gratification above commitment and can never be trusted not to cheat with someone else in the future. If you do not have respect for your body, no one else will either. True relationships are complimented through sex, not founded on it.

Answer 2

Be aware that there is an emotional side to this very physical act. People can be hurt emotionally if it isn't treated with care and respect.
It is a normal act and is truly best when shared in love.
Most (if not all) of us do it.
Understand that by being sexually active you feel that you can be responsible for the consequences of this. That means babies and STD's.
Both can occur with protection, and with ANY sexual contact.

Again: with ANY sexual contact.

Use protection, but also be sure you are ready to deal with the things that this phase of life will bring.

The best thing you can do is ask your parents, but if this is not an option try Planned Parenthood, school counselors or other trusted adults who can answer your questions and help you should you need it. The library is a good resources as well. Don't put too much trust into the Internet as there is a lot of misinformation on it.
Be careful. Have fun.

Answer 3

I would say, look at all the older, experienced people on here telling you to wait...I did, and I'm glad. I was 20.

Don't buy into the Hollywood hype about it being all romantic and wonderful. There are a lot of "unwonderful" things that go along with sex in the real world. First, sexually transmitted diseases, broken hearts, abuse, manipulation. Don't do it just because all your friends are. It is the one thing you cannot EVER get back and as hokey as it sounds, it is precious. Save sex for someone who is special, who treats you with love and respect. Someone who is really worth it. Let your lifelong memories of your first time be sweet, not bitter or a joke.

But most of all I would encourage you, when you do decide to have sex, don't be hung up about silly guilt or sin. Really enjoy the moment fully. Sin is simply a human construct designed to control the masses through fear. While you must take precautions, don't worry about God condemning you for it. Our bodies and our God-given sexuality are a gift to be enjoyed and savoured between mature, consenting adults.

Answer 4

WAIT!!!! Sex is too powerful a thing even for mature adults let alone someone underage. You may think you are in love forever, but it may be a passing love. Whatever you do, NEVER have sex with someone who pressures you in anyway for any reason. NEVER have unprotected sex; there are far too many diseases out there that you can get from sex and some of them can kill you. NEVER have sex without thinking what you will both do if the girl becomes pregnant. Will you be able to have an abortion? Will you be able to give your child up for adoption to have a better life? Will you be able to raise it to be a good person? You can get pregnant having sex just once, before you have your first period, even if the male pulls out before ejaculation. What happens then? If you worry about it only after it happens, it will be too late.

Answer 5

There is no such thing as under-age except in our laws, and besides, under-age people can still legally have sex with each other.

I'd advise that there are much better sources than here for information on this particular topic. People here seem too opinionated to offer objective advice. If I felt generous, I'd provide links to a few sex education sites, but normally I'd let them search on their own, like I did when I was younger.

I might add that sex often carries strong emotional connotations, which they should take account of before starting: for example, they should ask themselves if they are really ready for sex with this particular person.

Answer 6

My advice to give a young person thinking of having sex: It is best to wait until you find someone you love and your mature enough to get married. For some people, giving that part of yourself to someone doesn't matter that much to them so they sleep with just about anybody, young people are often faced with peer-pressure, so they tend to go with the flow of other kids their age or whatever their boyfriend or girlfriend wants to do in order to feel like they are part of the "in-crowd"....if I knew a young person who had thoughts of having sex, I would try to convince them to wait for marriage, but if I was sure they would do it before then, I would give them safe sex tips....If it was a girl I would definitely reccomend birth control and even carry condoms around in her purse, at least if she is going to have sex, she will be prepared for some guy who doesn't care about being safe and one who doesn't carry condoms around.....for a boy I would say always use protection! If your going to have sex, always use a condom, no exceptions! Some people will be in the moment, realize they don't have protection, and still go ahead and have sex anyways, you should teach the young person to control their urges if they don't have protection on them, to wait until they do....tell them about all the horrible diseases they could face, most std's are life threatening and there's no cure, that would be a good place to start.....if they feel like you really care about them and know that your looking out for their best interest, they will want to be responsible and take precautions....maybe it will even convince them to wait until they are more mature and married. I would definitely tell them that I wish I would have waited for marriage before I had sex, but even still I always used protection....I hope this helps you and I hope that you make a difference in a young person's life.....

Answer 7

Honey wait until you are older. You don't want to have any regrets or make any mistakes. Are you in the position to look after a baby right now? If not take your time and wait. Have fun with your friends leave sex to the adults. But if you can't them protect yourself, use condoms.

Good luck.

Answer 8

make sure that you are mature enough to know that you will get your heart broken. Use protection. Think it through. I was a virgin when I married, (by choice, I'm not ugly or anything) and I am VERY happy with my choice. There is nothing better than sharing something so intimate with only one person. But do what's right for you. Don't get prego or STDs!!!

Answer 9

Protect yourself...always use a condom.

The morality is from your own heart...when you are ready to have sex you will know.

Do not make it because 'others are doing it' but from a caring perspective with your partner. There is nothing more debilitating than having sex randomly and finding no feellings exist.

Answer 10

Think harder.Sex is a big responsibility and you should make sure that you can handle that responsibility b4 you have sex,not after.For the girls...Make sure it's what YOU want.A guy ALWAYS wants it.If you say NO now he'll still want it later so take your time and make it YOUR decision,not his.Guys... Just b/c it's there does'nt mean you have to show everyone you know.Women don't respect players anymore than men respect s.l.u.t.s.