I mean .. is it fair to say I'm cool but if a woman had as many partners as I why is she considered a s l u t?
2006-07-01 04:33:52 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
And I'm always careful. Never STDs or anything like that. I don't abuse women and a lot of them are still friends with me. But why are women looked at differently if they did what I did. And for the record it's 106 and counting...
2006-07-01 04:50:14 · update #1
This is a tricky question, given that I don't know you, your background, or where you want to go in life. Sex is often a disguise for something else that you need or are lacking. You should know, right up front... sex does NOT equal love. Sex is, and was always meant to be an EXPRESSION of love. But is a poor substitute for the tenderness and affection that comes with a loving commitment, full of trust and mutual respect. Male or female... an individual that seeks sex as a replacement for love, is selling theirself short. I hessitate to attatch any labels... judgment is dangerous ground, especially without knowledge of the situation in full. Often, victims of rape and molestation find themselves leading a promisquous lifestyle, to drown memories, fill an emptiness, or simply because their idea of love has been confused with sex, due to their unfortunate experience. Counselling may do you some good. Involving yourself in a church group, or talking with a trusted pastor, might be of some help and comfort to you, or any individual in this situation. Also, there are support groups, and self help books, to help you get a better understanding of your needs.
I am glad to hear that you are practicing safe sex... the STD's of today are nothing to scoff at. However, I am concerned that you are doing far greater damage to yourself, by bedding down with any woman that will have you. As much fun as you think you are having, I am concerned that you are hurting yourself, and damaging any chance you have for a meaningful relationship (which includes meaningful love-making with your future spouse) by your activities. I encourage you to seek help.
2006-07-01 05:20:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 2⤋
Having over 100 sexual partners is your business whether you are a male or a female. I am glad that you are practicing safe sex. While the number of partners you have is extraordinarily high it does not necessary make you cool or promiscuous. Remember there was a female in everyone of your experiences who is also choosing to have multiple experiences who are not interested in a permanent relationship at the time. No guy ever got to her...usually it is the other way around. Females are not any different in this respect than males.
2006-07-01 04:45:00 · answer #2 · answered by jodie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I don't think there's anything "cool" about sleeping with a lot of people, regardless of whether you're a man or a woman. I would rather sleep with people I care about, and be proud of my feelings for them rather than the fact that I can go out and spread my legs for any man who comes around. To me, that's not anything to be proud of. It doesn't say anything about you other than that you might have low self esteem and feel the need to be promiscuous to feel worthy.
If I were meeting someone or dating someone, I would not want to know how many sexual partners he'd had, I would want to know what kind of man he was. How he treats his peers, his parents, his family and friends. How he gets along with my family and friends. What his life goals are. What he's looking for in a partner. What his values and morals are.
To me, those things are all more important and infinitely more valuable than a number of sex partners he has had.
2006-07-01 04:37:35 · answer #3 · answered by Ashley 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How is it fair to think this is cool? Women tend to get emotionally involved when they are intimate with a partner. It's irresponsible as well because condoms are not fail safe when used correctly; you could have kids out there that you are not aware of, and you can still be at risk of some diseases.
2006-07-01 04:37:51 · answer #4 · answered by webfly2000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It tells me you're a s l u t as sex is just an act and meaningless to you. I would never sleep with a man that has slept with 100 women, yuk. I hardly believe you had safe sex every time either so be prepared to hear about your children in the near or not so near future, get that child support money saved up now!
Additionally, I'm inclined not to believe your number either.
2006-07-01 04:42:25 · answer #5 · answered by Kit Kat 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't know. But it may have something to do with the factor of opening herself to the possibility of becoming pregnant. While men obviously contribute to that factor - the woman - sadly - carries the ultimate responsibility for the pregnancy. ( I don't agree with that) A man can walk away (not if he's a good man) - but a woman must deal with that pregnancy. Just a wild guess.
2006-07-01 04:41:06 · answer #6 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because women are expected to be virginal and slutty at the same time. Unfortunately, it's an impossible expectation! I think you're fine as long as you would have no problem hearing that a woman had slept with 100 men.
2006-07-01 04:36:37 · answer #7 · answered by Rachel M 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't think your "cool",I think your SAD.Do you have a problem being with 1 woman or are you a woman hater.Why do you feel that it's OK to be with 100 women.It doesn't make you SPECIAL.Maybe you just can't get 1 woman to see you more than once.You need therapy.
2006-07-01 04:37:37 · answer #8 · answered by hippiegirl672003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It tells me that you will never be satisfied with one life long partner now because you have been too active. Sounds like a lonely life to come for you.
2006-07-01 04:36:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont think anything about you for doing that cos people have got to do what they want in life.
some people will slag you off cos they have narrow minds. personnely i think its good to experiment not just different sexual things but different people as well.
one thing i hate though is when woman are considerd as a sluts for sleeping with lots of people, are woman not supposed to have these experiences if we feel the need to???
2006-07-01 04:42:58 · answer #10 · answered by sasha 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋