pls read my previous questions n u'll know wat im refering to... i really cant get to sit down talk it out w him at all after the last failed attempt! I dun wanna lose this marriage but with this attitude of his, how to go on? HELP!
2006-07-01 04:24:41 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Listen honey, you have to work on yourself. Seems to me that you are really depressed. You have to realize that you need to get out of this slump if you are going to make anything happen. So start by going to counseling. Believe me it helps. I was in the same type of slump not too long ago, and everyone would tell me to go to counseling and I always put it aside, because, me? Counseling, no way! Well, I finally couldn't take it no longer and I decided to give it a try. Well, it was the best thing I did. I am now a stronger woman. They helped me sort my feelings out and figure out what it is I really want for myself and my children. I am finally happy again.
Maybe if you husband sees that you are getting help, he might want to try marriage counseling after that. But if not, so be it. You get it. You mention that you have a sickly son in another question, you need to get yourself together for his sake. Your husband and you are grown people, but your son is not and he is sick. So lift your head up, take a deep breath, ask God to guide you and move forward. Don't waste time feeling sorry for yourself all that does is hold you back. Be strong. Good luck
2006-07-01 04:39:08 · answer #1 · answered by BluePassion 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You can do one of the last things, make yourself smart and more beautiful so he doesn't get distracted to others.
And, show a neutral attitude, just live with him and do not try to solve all things immediately.
You can stay quiet and any morning, you can wake him up quiet friendly and in a lovely way, or any other weekend, bring him something nicely cooked by yourself.
Do it all in a cool way, and do not take tension, because your heart will say to you, that you are doing in a fair manner, and if your husband is really wrong, than Allah will reward you, and you'll get any other nicer husband.
But, please do your best to let this relationship go.
2006-07-01 11:42:58 · answer #2 · answered by mohammad_kamaal_786 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry your attempts to talk about it with him did not go well. But, if you really want to try and salvage this, then I agree that even if he won't go to counseling at this time, you start going. It can help you sort out your own emotions, teach you tips for communicating with him, and if nothing else, give you a place that is safe to really vent your issues.
Good Luck. :)
2006-07-02 08:28:05 · answer #3 · answered by Arlene06 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is he willing to go to marriage counseling? It can be difficult, but as long as both people are willing to make a marriage work it can be done.
2006-07-01 11:27:36 · answer #4 · answered by greentiger1978 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you really love him. ignore him and show him how it feels to be treated this way! he may already have someone else so just be prepared for the worst possible scenario!
2006-07-01 11:33:34 · answer #5 · answered by sorrells316 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you want to save your marriage, seek consultation NOW !
2006-07-02 02:15:01 · answer #6 · answered by tankee531 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋