Where I work I get to meet a lot of business owners and lawerys. Which my husband hates!!! I got offered an answome job on Friday and the first thing my husband asked was if was a man that offered the job. Who cares if it was a man. Obviosly he thought I was intellegent enough to offer the job. Damn my husband know that my GPA is a 3.5. Why does my husband think I got offered this job for my looks and not my brain. What should I do?
2006-07-01 04:19:49 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Because he is a man and they all think women can't get a good job unless it is on looks are sex.
2006-07-07 18:34:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
That is a very ignorant way of thinking. I find that comment to be very insulting and you should tell him so. Apparently he doesn't think that beauty and brains can possibly coincide in a woman. Business is business, and believe me, you would not be offered an awesome job if you didn't have what it takes. Business people will not take the risk of having someone ruin any part of their business just because they are good looking. So they found someone that can handle the position and look good while doing it.
Sit and talk to you husband about how you felt when he made that comment. Tell him you found his comment to be very insulting to your intelligence and that you would appreciate him never making a comment like that again. Maybe he's afraid that you will meet a more powerful, rich, handsome man in this position. Assure him that you are there to work and not flirt.
Good luck & Congratulations.
2006-07-01 04:27:18 · answer #2 · answered by BluePassion 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope. I am perfectly satisfied with the jobs I had. I worked in the secretarial field and was the secretary to several science professors at a major university. I was never oppressed and was given a lot of responsibility on the job. Their work was fascinating and I was able to take part in it. I wouldn't want some of the jobs available now. Money isn't everything. A satisfactory job is also important. There is too much competition today for jobs. I'm glad I worked when I did.
2016-03-27 00:04:49 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you missed this one when your husband asked if another man offered you the job. Honey your husband is jealous of other men and knowing that you will be meeting them on the job is not calming to him. Have a serious talk with him and sometimes people need to read in between the lines to understand what the other person is trying to say. After the talk, you should have a better understanding of what is going on and can then make a decision pertaining to this job.
2006-07-01 04:54:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, a 3.5 GPA is good, but not great. Your not a genius. that does not change the fact that you can still earn a job on your own, but your husband is jealous that other guys notice you for things other then your brains. You should take this as a compliment, but need to let him know that he can trust you, if he can.
2006-07-01 04:38:08 · answer #5 · answered by dfl888 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From the way you wrote the question, you're not that smart. He may think you were offered the job because of your skills. The same skills a lot of women use to get ahead in this world.
2006-07-01 04:48:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I would wonder how many other people were qualified and didn't get it. Then I would go from there weither or not I was hired for my looks. I think the husband just doesn't want to waste your time and talent if you were just hired for your looks.
2006-07-01 04:49:36 · answer #7 · answered by sirfredrick_2000 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take the job.........drop the husband. He's trying to hold you back......with a 3.5 GPA, you're intelligent.....Use your brain!!!
2006-07-01 04:25:51 · answer #8 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he just jelious that you got offered a great job and moving up in this world . like I said he is jelious, let him know that you are his wife and no one is going to take you away fom him. Its a security thing.
2006-07-01 04:42:04 · answer #9 · answered by BigDaddy82 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He does not mean your brain doesn't count. He was insecure and jealous of men.
That means, he thinks you're just too attractive to be left alone.
2006-07-01 04:31:32 · answer #10 · answered by Timeless - watcher 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋