i work 10 to 12 hours of iron work 5 to 6 days a week my wife is a hair stylist who stands behind a shair all day in air condition... i am hot sweaty and ready for a shower, meal and bed by the time i get home... how do i keep my wife satisfied with out so much sex... thanks
2006-07-01 04:12:38 · 16 answers · asked by weldersteve29 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Buy her some really good imtimate sex toys.
2006-07-01 04:16:18 · answer #1 · answered by jojof2004 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK FIRST~JUST BECAUSE SHE IS A HAIR STYLIST DOESN'T MEAN HER WORK ISN'T HARD TO~JUST MEANS IT IS HARD IN DIFFERENT WAYS~AND HOW TO KEEP HER SATISFIED~THAT IS SOMETHING YOU SHOULD DISCUSS WITH HER, SIT HER DOWN, REMIND HER NICELY OF HOW MANY HOURS YOU HAVE BEEN WORKING~TELL HER THAT YOU ARE REALLY TIRED AND YOU ARE SO SORRY~THEN YOU PROMISE TO TAKE HER FOR A WEEKEND SOME WHERE ROMANTIC SOME DAY SOON~TO MAKE IT UP TO HER~SEE MY HUSBAND/BOYFRIEND WORKS 7 DAYS A WEEK AND 12 HRS EVERYDAY~HE HAS BEEN FOR 2 MONTHS NOW~HE IS VERY TIRED ALL THE TIME, AND I AM A HOUSE WIFE~I STAY HOME TAKE CARE OF OUR (MY) DAUGHTER AND THE HOUSE~BABY HIM WHEN HE COMES BECAUSE I KNOW HOW TIRED HE IS~WE HAVE VERY LITTLE TIME FOR EACH OTHER~AND IT IS VERY HARD TO ADJUST~BECAUSE FOR THE PAST YEAR, WE HAVE ALWAYS HAD DINNER AT THE SAME TIME EVERY NIGHT~AND ALWAYS ATE TOGETHER AT THE TABLE~AND WE JUST HAD A SET COMFORTABLE SCHEDULE, WITH LOTS OF TIME TOGETHER, BUT YOU KNOW LIFE HAPPENS, SO WITH ALL THE CHANGES IT IS HARD ON ALL OF US~BUT IT WILL ALL WORK OUT~ JUST KEEP REMINDING HER THAT YOU DO LOVE HER~AND WANT TO BE WITH HER, BUT SOMETIMES, STRESS, CHANGES AND NEW THINGS, DON'T ALLOW FOR THAT TO HAPPEN!!! I WISH THE BOTH OF YOU THE BEST OF LUCK~AND HOPE THIS ALL TURNS OUT~ :) KEEP SMILING THINGS COULD ALWAYS BE WORSE!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-07-01 04:28:54 · answer #2 · answered by click 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My situation is similar.......hold her, tell her you love her, be cautious....because like me..she may think there is someone else vying for your attention and that's why you are too tired. I am not saying you are doing this...I am just telling you what goes through a woman's mind. She may not say it..but she thinks it. Show her loving affection in other ways.......
1. hold her close to you at night
2. reassure her you love her
3. Take a "sick" day once in a while...on her day off and stay in the bed with her.
4. Let her know that you are aware she works hard everyday too....just in a different way...she is a female and you a male...the labor is different but still hard for her too. Give her a massage....that may lead to intimacy as well.
5. The waskily wabbit...great toy...
Hope these suggestions help.....this is thoughtful of you to be thinking of your wife.
2006-07-01 05:34:11 · answer #3 · answered by Pammie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to explain to your wife that you are working all these hours and sometimes you're just too tired. If she can't understand that, she's being very selfish! Explain to her that sex isn't the only thing a relationship is based on. You have to be able to understand your partner's feelings. If she can't do that, maybe the two of you should seek marriage counselling. A counselor may be able to get it across to her.
2006-07-01 04:20:12 · answer #4 · answered by trueblond195 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time to reprioritize.
You can either allow an open marriage so that your wife can get more sex on her own, or you can look for a new job with less hours and labor so you can take care of business at home.
2006-07-01 04:17:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should inituate sex with her every day untill she gets tired of it, and she will quit feeling the need to have sex to get your attention, i think that is what she is doing, plus she may feel a little insecure because your not the one inituating it, I'm always the one turning my husband down, but if he stopped trying,,, I'd be a little scared he was getting it somewhere else, then I'd start inituating it , so.. use a litte reverse psychology on her,
2006-07-01 09:40:47 · answer #6 · answered by shelly65 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have sex when both of you have a day off.i hate to tell you this but you got to make love to your partner or they will find someone else.what both of you need to do is just take a day off and go some where (just the two of you)cause too much work isnt good for a relationship.you got to rekindle your fire once in a while,or it will go out.
2006-07-01 04:20:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well one thing that dozen require alot of effort and most women love it and its good old fashion hugging and nurturing.. most men can have sex but few know how to be loving and intimate. If you think your wife needs more sexual stimulation then you can give her.. Buy her a vibrator, there's no shame in that unless the vibrator becomes her main focus and I really doubt if that will happen... Just love her and hold her women never get enough of that!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-07-01 04:30:04 · answer #8 · answered by Kat (with wisdom under her hat) 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does she understand your feelings? Buy her some sex toys and encourage her to use them. You could even ask her to use them in front of you. You never know...by the time she gets going with them you may get so turned on by watching her that you will be ready to have sex.
2006-07-01 04:20:40 · answer #9 · answered by greentiger1978 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u cant a women has her needs and she is ur wife and u need to make sure u ask her and tell her how u feel and ask her maybe she might think there is something you can do to satisfy but.... TALK to her
2006-07-01 04:16:20 · answer #10 · answered by JAZY 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋