i am honestly NEVER getting married again! i promise this to myself!!! it all ends up. my grandmother was right...u can throw a men in a bag ande just pick one, cause they're all gonna end up doing the same ****!!! life is better alone with my kids than to keep choosing the same men.
we can see **** in others relationships, but not the one in front of use. i "knew" it was goin on...women just know! can't explain it eigther. i closed myself off for a very long time, just to here!
whatever
2006-07-01 04:10:05 · 9 answers · asked by thundakat312 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
never thought i'd vent like this, but i'm very thankful that i did not get any smart-a answers...i have a lot to think through, and no matter what have this effect my kids as little as possible! i have to take care of ME & THEM!!!
ty all
2006-07-01 07:47:26 · update #1
This is a imperfect world with a lot of sick people.. But some time you pick alot of roses with thorns until you pick the one that doesn't hurt you. I went thu a few husbands before I found my mr right.. One thing for sure its hard to make decisions when your angry and hurt. Once you work thu that I think you'll see what needs to happen.
2006-07-01 04:22:17 · answer #1 · answered by Kat (with wisdom under her hat) 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People cannot abuse you unless YOU allow them to do it. When you've been hurt, it's easy to "hate" all men (sounds like granny did too). They all have similar trates, but honestly, there are good men out there. They are just hard to find. When you get to the point where you can be open again, try again....closing yourself off doesn't do you any good. Make some new friends just to hang around with and "network"....enjoy your life instead of brooding over what you lost. You can't get anywhere in a relationship unless you are willing to be vulnerable with open arms and give all. That's the only way...and unfortunately it can get us hurt. However, for me it was worth the chance. Good Luck.
2006-07-01 11:18:44 · answer #2 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To find a nice kind respectful man that won't cheat on you or abuse you is like finding a needle in a haystack. If you are happier single then be single. Even though kids do need a father or a father figure. If you don't want to get married, find a guy you are friends with or in church that'll be a fatherly figure to your kids.
Don't be afraid to be a little stubborn and strong. Men respect women more if you tell them NO in the face and put your foot down.
I have a crappy dad and decided to let one of the older men to be like a father to me. It helped me a lot. Now that I'm 21 I don't really need a 'fatherly figure' we're still friends now, and he does respect women and he doesn't hit them either or make them feel like dirt.
2006-07-01 11:18:01 · answer #3 · answered by Rachel M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, what can I say. Somewhere out there in this great big world there's a good man who is just for you, but right now it seems, from my view, that it's time to take a breather from men, especially if you have kids in the house. Best wishes and let those feelings of resentment go, otherwise they will eat you up. Enjoy your weekend and holiday. Put those kids in the car and go do something that you'll all enjoy.
2006-07-01 11:20:22 · answer #4 · answered by Darby 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They take advantage of it, because they can get what they want out of you. Once they learn that they can get what they want out of you, you will notice that they will start asking for more things from you.
2006-07-01 11:16:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
im sorry your sooooo bitter, i would have agreed with you 10 yrs ago, but i found some one that isnt like any other. you will find yours trust me or he will find you!!i do believe ther is some one for every one out there!!
2006-07-01 11:15:30 · answer #6 · answered by sweetpea 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not all guys are the same. there are some of the good ones like me left.
2006-07-01 11:13:50 · answer #7 · answered by party_2_hearty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes i feel like that too;;;;;;but the thought of being alone forever scares me more
2006-07-01 11:19:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
TAKE YOUR TIME PICKING THE NEXT MAN. KNOW WHAT YOU'RE LOOKING FOR.
2006-07-01 11:16:56 · answer #9 · answered by BAG LADY 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋