Looking at web sites I have noticed that some people that are divorced list themselves as single. I think this sounds more positive than divorced but am wondering If I there are any guidelines surrounding claiming divorced or single status.
2006-07-01 03:57:56 · 21 answers · asked by fdjgfdugyt 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
you don't have to always describe yourself as divorced, but in cases where kids are involved and they live with you male or female there is another partner in the relationship.
so in short if your divorced and childless then you can claim single as your status if you wish. but to be fair to the person you are considering dating if you are a parent and your ex is going to be in the childs life then claim divorced or seperated as i'm sad to say some guys are happy to date single moms but not divorced ones.
but ultimately the choice has to be yours.
2006-07-01 04:03:32 · answer #1 · answered by thebestnamesarealreadytaken9090 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can imagine that claiming divorce might make you feel like a failure. You are not, we take marriage in this country too lightly. Times have changed, we are not like our grandparents, where if you were unhappy in a marriage-you stayed. We all have decided that we would rather divorce than be unhappy. I don't blame people for that; but we all should really find the time to get to know someone before jumping into marriage. You don't have to label yourself divorced-you are single; but you do have to tell the person that you get serious with that you were married once, just to bring all the facts to the table. And remember, if you do find yourself wanting to get married again, think it thoroughly through.
2006-07-01 11:08:06 · answer #2 · answered by sylvergyrlie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nahh, there are no guidelines that state you must claim a certain status. It just depends on what you want others to know about you. I am 23 and divorced. I use the "divorced" status because at my age, being divorced may not be appealing to certain guys close to my age. If you wanna claim single, go for it!
2006-07-01 12:06:01 · answer #3 · answered by TracieLacy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
guidelines are created by people, it is all depends on weather you want to take charge or not and how much. notice man use Mr. so no one will know they are married , divorced, or single. why do you think it had happened? Not until early 1970, Ms. was begin to be use and became part of the in things. That is all because woman had take charge of it and so created it. you will always get what you want if you put your mind to it once you have decided what you want. Good luck, dear.
2006-07-01 11:08:11 · answer #4 · answered by shirley t 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I was divorce. I change my status to being single. Then when I started talking to someone, and they ask me if I was married before. Then I will tell them, that Iam divorce from my husband. Either way, they know your not with that person any more.
2006-07-01 11:04:40 · answer #5 · answered by kygl28 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
usually the one who describes themselves as 'single' and they are divorced, are the ones who screwed up in the relationship. I find that those men who descibe themselves as divorced, most often where the ones who were betrayed. Those who also say they are divorced want to be upfront to say that they were good enough for marriage once, they can be again. I find men who are single until their mid 30's or older somewhat peculiar, and think, "Why haven't they gotten married earlier? What's wrong with them?"
2006-07-01 11:06:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say honesty is the best policy. Like....wouldn't you want to know if some guy was "single" and 48 years old and maybe living with his mother?? What's wrong with this picture? Now, if he says 48 years old, divorced, you understand that situation. So..yes..say 'divorced' if you are so. Don't be ashamed of that.
2006-07-01 11:22:37 · answer #7 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your divorced, you can describe yourself as either. But being divorced isn't a crime, and if you're starting up a relationship with another person, why not just be up front and tell them. It doesn't make you a bad person.
2006-07-01 11:03:09 · answer #8 · answered by trueblond195 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You describe yourself whichever way you want to. It is a personal thing. Who is going to question you? It's a matter of opinion and how you feel about it. If you feel that describing yourself as single is a more positive way of describing yourself then so be it.
2006-07-01 11:13:02 · answer #9 · answered by BluePassion 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I lable myself as divorced because i see it as a stigma. a warning sign. "look at me, I suck at being married, so don't try bring up marriage"
the final orders haven't even come yet. i just don't feel like getting married again anytime soon and i don't want any young ladies to think that i'm the marrying type. well i am, but i just am not going through what i just went through again
2006-07-01 11:23:03 · answer #10 · answered by Cracker 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋