My husband and I fuss alot , we've been married for 2 years and he has messed around once already,do you thin

Question

this is a life time relantionship, or am I just kidding myself? I have a guy friend and he says that it is all a joke that my husband will never change , but I dont know what to think about all these things, we have a 16 month old baby and I think that he fusses to much around the baby but he thinks that all of it is alright , but I dont want to fuss with someone the rest of my life!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 1

He's not an alcoholic or drug user and he doesn't appear to be beating you --- he's just a fussy playboy.

Let him hang around for a few more years so the baby can know him better, also try to get marriage counciling.

Then decide the matter because no way should you be unhappy with the wrong man for the rest of your life.

Answer 2

Your friend is giving you some good advice....the old man will never change. And fussing and fighting around a 16 mo. old baby can cause some real emotional trauma for the child. Sounds like your man doesn't think of anyone but himself. Get some counseling NOW...or honey, pack your bags and leave the bastt=ard behind. It is a real joke and it's on you at the moment but you can take charge of your life and change that. Good Luck.

Answer 3

Well I don't think that your husband is a joke, I think he has issues. I think people can change but he really has to want to be different. I take it fusses is complaining and maybe arguing. It takes two to argue, Think of it has a slow dance if you quit dancing he looks pretty silly dancing alone, as he will fussing alone.. Good luck and ultimately you live with him not I or your friend and only you know how deep your love goes.. You have the answer. Sometimes we don't like the answer.. Good luck

Answer 4

I just went through something similar. I had my baby when I was 39 my EX was a major Alcoholic and batterer. It took 2 years to get out of the situation with a lot of rough spots but at least I had the guts to get out. Call here: 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) and see if you are a victim of Domestic Violence. My situation he never did anything physical to me, and 90% of the abuse is emotional and psychological. He caused me to have 2 nervous breakdowns. When I finally realized it and got out, the damage was so severe it was difficult for my family to recognize me and the experts to help me. Also you may want to consider hiring a private detective.

Answer 5

Pray on it -- but it sounds like he's a caring dad, even if you think he's a little too into the baby - that's just the initial "newness" of the baby - be glad he loves his child and if he's "messed around" well, forgive him and get on with your life with him - don't involve others in your business (especially those of the opposite sex) because they are often just going to cause problems - and they aren't in this marriage - just you two are - and God, hopefully. I say dumb the friend who is disrespecting your husband and using a mistake he made to try to plant doubt and separation in your heart/mind.

Answer 6

Seek counsel from a pastor. You made a vow for better or for worse. Is he abusive? You need to seek couseling together. It is tough the first few years of marriage and can get even tougher. But think of the child. Will it do him/her good to have an absent parent?

Answer 7

Your friend's diagnosis is right on target.To answer your question, it can be a life time relationship filled with fights, no trust and more added problems as the years go by.

Answer 8

well I think you already know the answer, you just want it confirmed by someone esle. you are the only one that can make that decision, pray on it.

Answer 9

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