i was in a motorcycle accident which left some scars on my legs.I met a nice young lady that i lik,but i am scared to wear shorts around her because i think she might not be interest in me because of the scars i have on my legs.I'm a african american black male and i would like to start back dating but i am ashamed of my scars.What should i do?Or what can i use to lighten or get rid of these dark scars?What does ladies think about scars?.
2006-07-01 02:55:23 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Beauty & Style ➔ Skin & Body
If she can't get past the scars, she is not the one for you. The beauty of a person is found within. You should tell her about the accident and let her know the traumatic effect it has had on your life including the scars that remind you daily of this accident. Most women are sensitive to stuff like this and will understand. You may not be allowed to wear shorts while out in public with her for a few years though!
2006-07-01 02:59:57 · answer #1 · answered by pretty_brown_eyes 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Scars are a sign of character; they show that you're not a soft, little metro-sexual girly-man, but that you've been through something, weathered some trouble and come back stronger, more able, more accomplished, more impressive and powerful. Many past cultures have rights of passage that purposefully scar a boy in order to make him a MAN and while our society is more civilized today, the best women still respond best to a MAN who has strength and confidence. So, you ripped your body to shreds and had to walk through fire like a warrior-in-training just to be able to heal. Congatulations, you are now a MAN who for the rest of your life can say confidently, "I can take a hit; a little pain doesn't scare me." Now the key is to PLAY the man. Go put your shorts on and never think these weak, insecure, pseudo-feminine thoughts again. When that girl or someone else comments on your scars -- or when you see someone looking at them, speak up, put some depth in your voice, narrow your eyes and put on a far away, thoughtful look and a big smile and say, "Yeah, had to teach the pavement a lesson that year; a little boy wouldn't have walked away from that one." Then if she or anyone else doesn't like it, you'll know that they're not the wise and knowing types qualified to be with a MAN of your strength to begin with. I've got more scars than I can count, I'm not even close to "pretty" and I'm overweight too, but when I walk into a room and look my wife or any other woman straight in the eyes and ask, "ya alright, girl? You need anything?" they blush from 19 to 69.
2006-07-01 03:30:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
wow you must be a really sweet guy to think about not wanting her to not like you because of your scars. I say if a lady can't get past a few scars then she wasn't worth your time in the first place. It shouldn't matter to her if you have some scars or not. If she seems cool with it, maybe try telling her the story of how you got them, a lotta ladies are like impressed by that stuff don't know why just are anyway i hope it all works out for you!!! good luck!!!
Hope this helped!!! :-)
2006-07-01 04:00:47 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are fortunate enough to be male and not female as women are far more interested in who the man is than the perfection level of his body.
Yeah, looks matter, but each woman has a different trigger. Sometimes its your chest or your smile or the way your eyes twinkle. Your personality is also the biggest factor.
I am engaged to a man who was in a fire. His body is a patchwork quilt of scars and unpigmented areas where they took skin grafts. Because he is so sexy to me, I actually see his scars as sexy too, and even to my amazement always have. I like to trace my fingers along them.
I also know that the fire and the impact on him are part of what has made him the interesting person that he is. (he was fortunate, his face healed perfectly)
He says that in the 10 years since the fire, the scars have rarely been an issue for him.
So, it may be worth it to YOU to keep the scars under wraps until you are more comfortable with a gal, but honestly, as you begin to grow on her, your scars will totally be a non-issue with all but the most shallow.
2006-07-01 03:02:40 · answer #4 · answered by Lori A 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Look here...... If we're lucky and blessed, life is a L-O-N-G journey for most of us. And for ALL of us, bad "things" WILL happen along the way. Your accident was unfortunate, but thank GOD you are still here with us! Remember, you are lucky to still have legs! Everyone has scars.... some show on the outside, some are in the inside. If this girl is going to dis you for having scars, lose her. Any girl who is right for you will love YOU for WHO you are, not what you look like. Be your courageous self, go put on your shorts, get out there and start LIVING YOUR LIFE !!!
2006-07-01 03:11:52 · answer #5 · answered by Primrose 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she doesn't like you because of the scars, you shouldn't want her to stay with you anyway, you can find someone better who will like you for who you are an not just for good looks. Plus, I wouldn't be ashamed to show her, because she might even like them. She would like to know the story behind them. I wouldn't care about scars on the man I liked. Don't be ashamed, it's nothing to be ashamed of. If you still feel bad about them, there are scar medications that you can ask about in a local drugstore that will lighten them up. Don't worry about them, start dating again, and wear shorts. :-)
2006-07-01 03:05:58 · answer #6 · answered by Nieds 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she cant get over the scars she isnt for you. My boyfriend has scars from his left arm across most of his stomach,at first he thought I wouldnt like him if I saw them but he is very wrong because I love him very much no matter where he has scars or how many scars he has. (His scars were from a motorcycling accident too!)
2006-07-01 03:14:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would tell her first, then show her. If she becomes repulsed and leaves, she is not the girl for you. There are some things in life over which you have no control and should just be accepted. As for lightening the scars, I would ask a dermatologist.
2006-07-01 03:05:18 · answer #8 · answered by CPH 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd let them show. I would be conversation starter. ;o)
If she doesn't like you just because you of some scars then she didn't like you all that well in the first place and you'd be better off with someone else who'd like you scars and all.
(I have scars on my abdomen from surgery I don't let them hang out but I would tell a person I was dating about it)
2006-07-01 03:02:52 · answer #9 · answered by classic_tigger 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
first of all, it wasn't your fault to have that scars, if your scars are driving your confidence down, go find solutions. maybe use sebo de macho, if it still didn't work, forget it!
Don't try to change yourself or even bother to make someone like you, the truth is, if that gal ever will love you in the mere future, your scars is the last thing she will ever look at for she will only see and feel the feelings that you share...
We, girls, don't really care, because love is something to be felt at heart... eyes don't need to be pleased.
2006-07-01 03:04:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋