I´m getting married next august and my ex girlfriend is getting married also, we had been dating almost 5 years before we splitted up but she says she still loves me, she called me and told me that she knows that we won´t come back but she can´t get married without 1 more romantic affair with me, she told me that this is her last petition for me.
2006-07-01 02:13:15 · 38 answers · asked by leqtx 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Ummm... NO! A terrible way to start your marriage. It's cheating on your fiancee.
2006-07-01 02:16:48 · answer #1 · answered by slackster1998 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Remember she is your ex for a reason , doesn't matter if you or she decided to end it. Get on with your life. Now are you really sure that you want to get married at this point? If so then it is time to realize that affairs are a thing of the past and work on making the current relationship the best it can be. Put all your passion, energy and commitment into it and it will flourish!!!
2006-07-01 02:24:02 · answer #2 · answered by uniroyalfan 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you respect your fiance? If you respect her, there would be no affair with your ex-girlfriend before the wedding. Furthermore, this woman is out of your life for the most part, so why keep the relationship open with her? It is over and it is time to move forward to your future.
However, if you disrespect the relationship with your fiance and have a last fling with your ex-girlfriend, there will be no future. She may forgive you but in the long run will resent you and over time the resent will turn into hate.
Do the right thing and love and cherish your fiance. Keep the ex-girlfriend out of your life forever. Start your marriage on the right foot.
2006-07-01 02:19:29 · answer #3 · answered by Randy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OK, are you crazy? think about it, you are getting married, and so is she. Do you Respect your Fiance? I guess not if you are pondering this affair. Also, would you like it if your fiance was considering Fu**ing an ex boyfriend? However, in my opinion dint fall back move forward, you can't really love your fiance if you are considering this outrageous event.. Therefore, you are a prime example of a typical male . You will have no respect or morals and if you go through with this affair you have your continuance to deal with, only if you have one. USE YOUR HEAD (the one with the brain) AND DO NOT DO IT !!!!!!!! ........ If you go through with this affair you are a petty a**hole and should spend the rest of your life alone, because you are a liar to your self and every one you know. Forget your ex's ultimatum, that is her way of having you wrapped around her finger.
2006-07-01 04:51:13 · answer #4 · answered by kitty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK, the mere fact that you have posted this as a real question tells me you are nowhere near mature enough to take on the commitment of marriage, and neither is your ex, but that's another story. I think you already know the answer to this question, you were just hoping for someone to say "go ahead it's OK", and you would feel better. Hopefully they won't say that, and you won't do it. I assume you are engaged and if so you should be way past the point of asking if this is OK. Tell your ex to back off- you have committed to marrying your fiancee, and she is engaged as well, or tell your fiancee you need to break up because you are not ready to commit.
2006-07-01 02:25:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Say no- and start your marriage off right. How would you feel if your fiance had sex with an ex while engaged to you? If you wouldn't like it - then by George DON'T DO IT. You have no responsibilities to this ex girlfriend - she was a GIRLFRIEND and you are engaged now. If you don't have a strong enough committment to know that you should NOT under any circumstances be sleeping with other women now - you better take back that engagment ring.
2006-07-01 03:12:48 · answer #6 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, I feel REALLY sorry for her future husband. I hope you are the smart (and moral) one who stays as far away from that as possible. For that matter, I would let your fiancee' know to keep you accountable. Telling her and letting her know you are committed to her and only her will do a whole lot more for your marriage than secretly mulling over the should I/shouldn't I. I don't know if you are still friends with your ex, but a request like that should be enough to break all ties. Don't let her be one to ruin your potential future happiness and a wonderful marriage, these things can do great damage indeed. Best wishes for your future.
2006-07-01 02:22:29 · answer #7 · answered by Damaila 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't do it just b/c she doesn't value her relationship don't give in that's something you'll carry around with youforever and trust me the guilt will eat at you, then you have to know that what we do in the dark does come to light eventually may not be today, tomorrow but it does come out I would leave that situation alone! If she wants an affair so bad don't be the one to give it to her.
2006-07-01 02:18:18 · answer #8 · answered by Danette 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nice lady. I feel sorry for her husband.
If you are even tempted, then call off the marriage NOW. If sexual fidelity seems like a hardship, if infidelity is even a possibility, then you aren't ready for marriage. Marry only when someone fills your heart and mind so completely that you don't even WANT to, don't even THINK about being unfaithful.
2006-07-01 02:46:13 · answer #9 · answered by kill_yr_television 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Forget her. She is the devil in disguise trying to make you lose out on the true happiness that awaits you if you get married to the woman who is your fiancee and who would never ever split with you unlike this ex
2006-07-01 02:27:50 · answer #10 · answered by Kemo 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
don't do it. you'll taint and tamper with what you have now. she may not love her fiance enough to be faithful (geez she's wrecking it already) but you love yours. think about why you and her never lasted in the first place. this isn't the way to start off YOUR marriage. if she wants to screw around let her do it with someone else. i feel sorry for the guy that's gonna marry her. can you see a lifetime of bliss??
2006-07-01 02:18:16 · answer #11 · answered by origchick 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋