i REALLY like this guy. the guy REALLY likes one of my mates. i don't know if he likes me but sometimes i feel he is looking at me. i don't wanna get shot down(obviously!). if i tell him that i like him, there's gonna be a load of tension in the air. plaese help me!!
2006-06-30 23:43:47 · 17 answers · asked by vip333 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
oh, yeah. my mate doesn't like him but plays him
2006-06-30 23:48:41 · update #1
This is always a tricky situation, and its often feared that the friendship might be ruined if the other person doesn't feel the same way. I think that if you two are 'best friends' and really close and have a healthy relationship, then if he doesn't feel the same way, maintaining the friendship should be easy.
I think you should tell him and for all you know he could be feeling the exact same way, and having the same fears! So take the risk. If you don't then you are risking a really good chance to be with someone in a relationship that you really care for.
Plan the right way to do it for you- whether that be on the phone, face to face, through a hand written letter, email or msn...whichever is best for you, the point is that you do it and get it out in the open of your relationship.
Just remember of all the great possibilities, that's why you should do it.
2006-06-30 23:54:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I believe that the best thing that you can do in this situation is to profess to your friend your feelings for this guy. In turn out of respect your mate should go to this chap and tell him honestly that he/she is not interested. After that is done you can make your move free of the feeling of tension because he knows that your mate is not an option anymore so he will be looking for other opportunities. Simply be open, honest, and up front. Ask him for some time together as a friendly date. You have to decide, which is worse, tension in the air, or a lifetime of regret?
2006-07-01 06:52:18 · answer #2 · answered by Michael H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be in that situation. How and why you should like a guy who is interested in one of your mates? It is absurd, when the situation is liable for a load of tension in the air as you describe.
2006-07-01 06:48:17 · answer #3 · answered by mkm 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just keep on doing what you are doing. If it is meant to be, it will happen. Do not tell him you like him or nothing. He will be able to sence that anyway from conversation. Let him come to you, and don't be "easy" to get. If he REALY likes someone else, why are you intrested? Let him make the first "TWO" moves. Keep on liking him, but also look for someone else to, to take away the tension.
2006-07-01 06:55:54 · answer #4 · answered by sweetness 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Respect your friend. They both like each other. So focus your mind on somebody else. You're just expecting that he'll return your affection that's why you're saying that he's looking at you! At least you know that you can't tell him your feelings because you might hurt your friends' feelings.
2006-07-01 06:48:52 · answer #5 · answered by eara1987 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The way that you posted the question, I am taking it as a mate being a lover, so....... if that is the case.. see if he will also be one of your mates.
2006-07-01 06:48:40 · answer #6 · answered by john's brat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to get him to notice you, start a conversation and ask him out. as long as everything goes along smoothly, there will be no tension. your friend shouldnt care if you take him.
2006-07-01 06:56:11 · answer #7 · answered by Army Boy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
find out if your friend likes him. if she doesn't then you need to tell him that you like him. I think there is already a butt load of tension already!
2006-07-01 06:46:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's tough, i'd say start with giving subtle clues to him and as said earlier try to find everything abt what's going on.....gd luck
2006-07-01 06:49:22 · answer #9 · answered by TalkToMe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Walk in the bathroom right after he takes a poop and you'll get over him.
2006-07-01 06:51:06 · answer #10 · answered by klunk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋