I have been single for a while now, all the time I think that I am nearing something special, it just falls to pieces. I am the last single person standing in my circle of friends. I am just so worried that I will still be single at the age of 40!! (I am 28) I am told that I am attractice and that I have a lovely personality. I do come across as confident and independent, could this be making men feel intimdated?
2006-06-30 23:25:20 · 36 answers · asked by Leacy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Men aren't intimidated by independant and confident.
Keep being you...don't change...
you want to be loved for who and what you are...
not what you portray.
It will happen...
your friends are a terrible gauge for your own progress and happiness.
Don't keep up with the Jones's...your time will come.
Keep enjoying life...
2006-06-30 23:31:12 · answer #1 · answered by Warrior 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Be yourself, of course. Independence is great, but if you project an image that you don't need any man in your life, some will stay away. 28 is still young. I'm 36, and I just broke up with my girlfriend of 3 1/2 years because she was so independent she made me feel like I was third or fourth on her list of priorities. After a while, I'd love to find an attractive, independent, confident 28 year old. If you compromise your values too much, you won't be happy with what you end up with. A man is out there for you that will match you on your needs and wants. Good luck and don't freak out.
2006-06-30 23:46:57 · answer #2 · answered by Spillski 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing wrong with being confident. but this can often come accross as arrogance which can be a turn off.
but i'm sure you will find love. Probably when your not looking for it.
personally I'm 32 and single and i often think i'm still going to be single until the day I die.
you may be trying too hard, most guys like to take it easy in a relationship. if your trying to rush things along this can also be a turn off. guys tend to like to go at there own pace.
stop worrying. i'm guessing its the guys loss if there killing the relationship early. try asking an ex what it was that made them end the relationship and see if it was something you did (unlikely) or more likely something they did or wanted from someone else.
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2006-07-01 00:05:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course you'll find love! You know what's wrong with you, is not your personality, but you just expect love everywhere! There's a saying like this, "Wait but don't expect. Love will find you in it's most magical way." And I agree to that. So don't worry that you're going to be an old maid! Besides, there's nothing wrong with you! Being confident and independent is not enough reason for men to feel intimidated with you. Besides, some guys like that kind of character. Don't go looking for love, ok?!
2006-06-30 23:36:33 · answer #4 · answered by eara1987 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel you are very comfortable with your present and scared of unknown , do not want to take any chance or risk to exploit the new world .
Yes you will certainly , find a charmin , if you just relax and flow like stream and air , do not bother about others . What they will think or say if you are with some one
Iam sure problem is not with you , problem is , you think a lot about others , who have no say in your progress or future . So please stop that negative feelings and go ahead to grab the opportunity now now now , tomorrow will be yours , only joy /fun
happiness and peace
2006-06-30 23:41:37 · answer #5 · answered by your noon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do you know what love is? do you have it to give? let me tell you you wont find it if you have no clue what it is coz you will be falling for the wrong thing,
men dont feel intimidated esp the ones an inde gal would be matched for coz they are already achievers dont look in a bunch of loosers look where you belong- the open minded ones, educated and all that, someone who will appreciate you as you are... you still too young gal relax...
2006-06-30 23:32:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
firstly i just want to let you know that there is someone out there for everyone. i was beginning to feel that same way about a yr ago. then the guy i had the hotts for started going out with me.. so try to not feel to down about being single. live life to the full and u neva know someone might just come wen u least expect it!
good luck!
2006-06-30 23:30:30 · answer #7 · answered by Laura 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there,s nothing wrong with being independent girl, and never ever be pressured because all your friends are hitched, and probably any man who gets intimidated is most likely a looser or a semi- looser, if you met a guy who believes in himself, even though he might not have a fat bank account he still going to respect you for the independent woman you are, so dont despair love life is short, enjoy yourself.
2006-06-30 23:58:35 · answer #8 · answered by 1minuteman 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you judge people, you have no time to love them.
if you are waiting for the right person then
By Al-Asr (the time).
2 Verily! Man is in loss,
3 Except those who believe (in Islamic Monotheism) and do righteous good deeds, and recommend one another to the truth (i.e. order one another to perform all kinds of good deeds (Al-Maroof ǡ㚑杩which Allah has ordained, and abstain from all kinds of sins and evil deeds (Al-Munkar ǡ㤟ѩwhich Allah has forbidden), and recommend one another to patience (for the sufferings, harms, and injuries which one may encounter in Allahs Cause during preaching His religion of Islamic Monotheism or Jihad, etc
so there is not Mr.Right anywhere here.every human has errors and mistakes.
just get who learns from his mistakes and tries to make things better
2006-06-30 23:38:04 · answer #9 · answered by saleem k 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will never find love if you look for it, it will find you.
like you say, you get close to somone and nothing comes of it.
its not that somone dont want to be with you its you wnat to be with them, when getting to know somone do you start thinking what might become of it or do you just not think and enjoy whats happening, its harder to say than do, i know. best advice i can give you is let others come to you, if you are independent and confident then great!, i would love to be with someone like that!
2006-07-01 09:31:11 · answer #10 · answered by Kickback 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋