2006-06-30 22:56:36 · 15 answers · asked by Tevida 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just forgive
2006-06-30 22:58:48 · answer #1 · answered by ice cream with chocolate 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Taking an assumption that the "he" you are referring to is a person you are in a relationship with [as from your statement, it's not clear whether it's a brother, a father or any other male figure]
From the above perspective,let me say forgiveness is a complex of fabric closely knitted. To go about it is not just a mind notion that we can hurriedly stamp and pass. Some questions are like: - the extent of the hurt that resulted from his action; how long has the hurt remained in you?How deeply entrenched was this person in your heart?These need answers before forgiveness is settled.
One thing to note is that, those whom we tressure and mean a lot to us, hurt us the most!! When they do/say a thing to us, the impact is bigger than when another person does the same.The reason is that these people are residence in our heart ( centre of our emotions) so when they do a thing,it sends major ripples.
Take a close honest&sincere check of your heart. The affected you because the capacity to absorb it was "overdone". Ask yourself do you have the capacity to absorb the hurt and not get affected by it?
Know also that that won't be the last time he'll hurt you. {As people grow in a relationship, hurts are not absent as you know more of the other person}.
Why forgive... It should not be out of intimidation, fear, manipulation or have attachments to it. This must come from the same heart that was wronged and not from the mind for it to be effective. Other than him proving he has changed forgive because you HAVE DECIDED TO!!
Wish you well.... thanks
2006-07-01 00:02:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
depends on what they did in the 1st place. But, everybody messes up. I think you should look at it like this....do YOU know he/she changed? do YOU think this would be a good idea if yall got back together? YOU YOU YOU. They are the one who messed it up to begin with right? You have to do whats good for you. Then if they answers are yes, forgive them and mak sure you let them know that it hurt you. Ex... if they kissed your best friend.... make sure you say, I don't know what the hell you were thinking but that's not cool. Just kiddin' dont say that. Avoid the "you" and make sure you tell them how ya feel. If thats what you want.
2006-06-30 23:03:50 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can just let it go... that would probably be the best thing to do. If he's done it many times it may be hard but you should still try. If you want you can even try to get him to buy you something ^_-. Kidding there but forgiving and forgetting is good... sometimes. Hope I helped. :)
2006-06-30 23:01:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just forgive them
2006-06-30 22:59:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
u have to search ur heart for that answer....im in the same situation my self and what i have done is allow him to, in his own way, show me how hes changed and prove hes done it for all the right reasons... change is a fickle thing...is so easy to revert back to the way it was...so be careful and take ur time...if love is still involved in ur relationship then if it true love it will be...if its not it will show sooner or later to be fake...try letting him in just a little for now and see if it makes ur heart realise hes changed....only 1 person can frogive and forget someone else and thats u... tc ... : )
2006-06-30 23:06:55 · answer #6 · answered by angel_of_ur_heart35 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on how they hurt you..if its physical or verbal...then your better off with out them......that will never change....if its something other then that....then that's all up to you..but if you forgive them.... don't ever bring it up
2006-07-01 00:44:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It just takes time and determination i think.. it only makes you a bitter person if you can't forgive someone ... so do it for yourself.. your worth it ...I forgave the guy that used to bash my sister and try to molest me, i just feel sorry for him now.
2006-06-30 23:07:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
so just forgive......
we have come to this world to do something good then we should never be angry with anyone.......sometimes even we hurt others so it;s by nature allhave that .........
even my cousin hurt me .but i forgived her.........
so as i know i say forgive that person......
2006-06-30 23:04:15 · answer #9 · answered by sweety 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just forgive. If he/she changed to a evil just take revenge on him/her.. Hehe.. Great way isn't it??
2006-06-30 23:05:51 · answer #10 · answered by Tony 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋