If your neighbour-a 52 year old single man tried to lure your 8 year old daughter into his apartment ....?

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offering her video games and toys to play with there if she goes, and then when she says no he tries to convince her that he is her parents friend and asks her to keep the secret but come another day if she changes her mind. Other than calling the cops, what would you do? (The cops came but he said it was his twenty five year old son who did it and he has moved out of the country right after he did this)

I live in Canada, the man claims his son drove across the Border to the States for a long planned move that day.He says he doesn't know the Son's address in the USA but my building manager says this man has done this before and put the staff on high alert to watch him. I told the people I am friends with on the floor who have young kids not to send them to the garbage chute alone because of the danger this man poses. My daughter was walking behind her sister and brother and her 16 year old brother had just entered the apartment down the hall ahead of her-the man did not see him. I cannot tell you what I feel like doing to this man-but you can well imagine. He made a point of talking and laughing with me a few times so my kids would think he is my friend and believe him when he tells them that. The cops did not want my daughter to identify him face to face or through pictures as they would need more proof than that.They advised me not to let him know who reported him-that seems silly..

I thought surely he knows who he did this to? I didn't see him for several weeks-he was avoiding me-then one day he parked at the same time and he held some books to the side of his face when he saw me and my daughters and he ran away from us. I found out he had been reported to the Manager before but the person did not want to call the police-Head Office doesn't want to release this info in case the man sues them. The cops say the pictures he showed them of his son do look similar to him so even they are not sure -although it seems strange he blamed the son without asking the son if he did this.

PLEASE ANSWER MY OTHER QUESTION ALSO http://ca.answers.yahoo.com/question/?qid=20060701032850AAP50QC&r=w

To answer some of the questions-NO, Canada does not have a Registered Offenders list and the public are not privy to information about criminals. We don't use the term or charge 'felony' there is no 'three strikes and you're out' reference or law here. You could have 300 pedophiles, rapists or murderers within a 10 block radius and not one person has a way of knowing about it. The odd time a cop will break the rules and tell a reporter or someone in the community but as a rule of thumb-99 % of the time we have no way of knowing who our neighbours are or how much danger we are in. I thought I lived in a great coommunity with all great neighbours until this happened. I had no grumble with this man as someone who answered here just posted. I cannot believe that someone actually posted sypmathetic views to someone who would do this.I do not think I'm overreacting as the more I think about it-the more I think that no 52 year old man would have innocent intentions secretly inviting a 8yr old

..an eight year old little girl to his house. He's not mentally challenged.

Ok I phoned the police station and they said they are still investigating this man-(I didn't know they were) they gave me the name and phone number of the detective assigned to the case and said he will be back on shift monday night at 11pm. So thanks everyone. I will leave this question open to select a best answer.

Answer 1

I would make D*mn sure to tell my kids to not even go any were close to being near him. Is he a reegistered offender? has he ever been in jail for this?

Answer 2

Oh JW, I can't tell you how sorry I am :-(.
As others have said, child abusers do not change, they don't stop doing what they do; at best they move out and start somewhere else.
So if there is no legal or official way in Canada to put a warning sign around this person, I suggest you do it yourself. You've already talked to some people: my advice is choose a place where more members of the community usually meet and talk about it. It is very painful, but you might find that there are even more similar records which could help your case.
The key is communication. Don't let others stifle this and become something people gossip about in low voices. It has to be in the open; and the man will have a chance to defend himself if he can.
And of course talk to your daughter; talk to all your children (you are already doing a good job because she told you about this iincident). We cannot keep children attached to us as if they still had an umbilical cord; we have to give them the tools to live in this world. She needs to have these things explained to her clearly in a way she can understand.

Answer 3

This hits really close to home. When I was about 4 or 5 I had a friend that had this really cute puppy. I would go over to her apt and play with the puppy. One day she was not there but her uncle was. I was not as smart as your daughter and really wanted to play with the dog so I went in.

After I ran to a neighbor and told them what happen. My father was at work at the time, no mother. When my father got home I told him. I guess my father went to the house, but the "uncle" was not there and the father of my friend said he was out with them and could not have done what I said he did and suggested that I made it up. My father asked me if I wanted to go to the police and I said I would but he decided it was best for me to not. The family moved in less than a week.

I think that if a man does this type of thing he most likely has done it before and will do it again. Your 8 year old is smart and did the right thing. The both of you can save a lot of little girls from what happen to me. Make the police look further into the issue. Chances are he already has some sort of record. Do a search on his name and see what that pulls up. Get the word out so that others will know to stay away from him. Your daughter will feel empowered and have no doubts about herself and her safety. He will do it again, and again, and again....until someone is brave enough to stop him.

Here are some web sites you can visit. If your local police will not help I am sure you can get some advice from them on what you can do. God bless.

Answer 4

Press charges! Don't let the police drop this. Talk to the prosecuting attorney and file a complaint. This is the pattern of a person who has done this before, and will continue to do so in the future. Make life very uncomfortable for him. Ask all of your neighbors kids (with their parents present) if they have been propositioned by this man. Your daughter knows whether it was the 52 year old or his son who was trying to lure her. Don't stop pressing this issue until the man is convicted or moves away.

Answer 5

If your daughter said it was HIM and there was no "25 yr old son" even present , you need to file charges, why you're even asking us here i don't know. Also , i'm not implying anything here but you better make sure the whole thing actually happened in the first place. lastly , cause i know what some people use the internet for - if none of this ever happened and you're doing this as some kind of twisted revenge against a neighbor , you will most likely be caught and prosecuted yourself. JUst covering all possible angles.....

Answer 6

this guy is definitely a predator... looking for children to prey on.... its highly likely your daughter is not the first or the last child he will try to trap. boys as well as girls are in danger with this creep... some of them like both sexes! anyone that tries to lure a child with things that appeal to children, and askes them not to tell their parents is up to no good ..period! most likely there are other children in the neighborhood that have been targeted as well... so I would indeed try to ask around the neighborhood though some kids might be afraid to tell you in front of their parents, the parents need to know about this threat in their neigborhood! you cannot force this guy to move, but you can watch him like a hawk and let him know he is being watched and that he is not welcomed in the neigborhood !!!!! I would not be afraid to confront him and let him know that I know what he is up to... these people love to operate "under the radar" ,they feel safe and will more readily do what they do if they think no one knows and no one is watching them! as far as what a few people have said about watching your children #1 you cannot watch them 24 hours a day, its normal at a certain age to let your children go outside to play, walk home from school, take out the garbage, run to the corner store etc. etc. these are normal activities that teach kids to have some independence and life skills... the one who is wrong is the pedophile... you people need to stop this "blame the victim" mentality...I have no doubt JW loves her children very much and protects them as much as any parent could!! God Bless JW !

Answer 7

I would talk to every other parent in the neighborhood to find out if any of the other kids had similar experiences. There may be enough in the vicinity to get the police to take it seriously. If nothing else, it will put people on alert about letting their children play near the house.

Answer 8

Make sure my daughter never did it again, and then start a neighborhood watch. Make sure everyone knows what happened. Keep no secrets. After that, I would probably stab the man in the throat. 52 year old men shouldn't have any interest in an 8 year old.

Answer 9

I don't know what state you are in but I would file a complaint with my State Attorney Generals Office.

Somebody tried to "entice your child" which is an offense and it looks like your local police dept is not conducting an investigation.

If it is your neighbors son who did it and he moved to another country--the police can still file on him and have a warrant issued. You neighbor can provide his son's name, date of birth, ect and have him entered in NCIC...so that if he is lying and still in the states---.and ever stopped on a routine traffic stop---he will be immediately arrested.

I wouldn't let this slide. Either your neighbor or his son is a child predator....and who ever it is--- belongs in jail. If the police won't do anything---go to the media.

Answer 10

I'd talk to my daughter about the dangers of strangers. Especially if she is very trusting, naive, and friendly. She might not know better.

Beyond that, maybe if she is spending a lot of time alone, you should get her into some group activities with other children her age, or start spending more time with her yourself so she won't go looking elsewhere FOR that attention. Get it?

Cheers, and good luck.

Answer 11

make sure of the facts if this is fact then this man is scum and looses all rights as a result.
I would firstly go up to the pig and say very quietly and calmly
I know what you are and I advise you to leave. Give details if required. Say you need to start moving now or else you could end up very hurt or worse. give a deadline
YOU WOULD WANT TO BE VERY SURE THIS WAS FACT