I realized i don't have confidence in my self, how do i gain it?

Question

My mother told me that i was really confident in myself at 12 while now at 19 i'm really shy, quiet and i'm a Leo is this normal, or am i in a stage right now?

My mother used to tell me that i has always being molested in school, you see i still remember that, because of the gossip that was always untrue. My mother made me feel better by telling me they were jeolous and i now know that having money and living in a poor city, and i remember that sometimes they invented that my father was a drug dealer and that is why we had so much money. I sometimes regret having a good life.

Answer 1

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Answer 2

I used to be totaly self confadent too until I hit this age and now when I ee another girl or bo my age, I compare myslef to them and I think I look horrible and I think all these bad things about myslef. Then I relize how many of my friends want to have my eyes, my mouth, my hands. Really odd little things but I'm still shy and nervious. But what I can tell you to do is just forget about it. It doesn't matter if you're wuiet as a mouse or loud as an elephant. More than likely you'll never see the people again and who knows? You may even make others feel better about being out there if ou start!

Answer 3

I want you to know I am no expert, but I can give advice based on my own experience. First, let me say, there are several idiot son here. You can't just "will" yourself better. I mean looking in the mirror, singing to yourself that you are a beauty, etc isn't going to help.

First, you need to decide, is it that you have no self confidence or are you just shy? Sometimes shy people just exhibit themselves differently. If that is the problem, you might want professional help so that you can overcome the limitations that being shy gives you.

Next, if it is self confidence, you also may need some professional advice. Self confidence is obtained during youth as parents, teachers, etc., tell you how pretty you are, how smart you are, how talented you are etc. If no one gave you this positive reinforcement, then you are lacking there. This is where professional help can do wonders for you.

Try again! You are worth the effort it takes to investigate your self worth and your abilities. Go for it! Life will be so much better for you!

Answer 4

Don't trust your horoscope. Definitely let go of your faith in your horoscope. It doesn't matter what time of year you were born in. To gain self-confidence, start by identifying every single positive thing in yourself, be it your appearance, your talents, etc. even if you have only little of them. Once you are aware of yourself, you should be able to carry yourself more confidently. Also, you should try talking to people who can make you comfortable about yourself. Your mother told you you were confident when you were 12. You should talk to her and to other people who can boost your self-confidence and help you become a better person who is self-assured. I know you are capable of a lot of things. We all are. Even blind and deaf people can work to inspire others who aren't as fortunate as people who have bodies that function normally. I'm sure with enough self-awareness and inspiration from the ones you love, you would gain your much-needed self-confidence. Good luck! You can do it.

Answer 5

The best way to gain confidence is to get real good at one thing. Doesn't really matter what it is, but is better if it is legal. Forget about asking Jesus for help. That's a cop-out lazy people use who don't want to put forth the effort.

Answer 6

All women should have confidence in themselves. Your question is a little hard for me to understand because if you once had confidence in yourself why is it you don't anymore.Unless something devastating happened to you you should always know how great you are. To gain confidence what you do is try many things and do many things and keep trying. Know how wonderful you are because you really are wonderful:)

Answer 7

Confidence is looking in the mirror each morning and knowing the truth about yourself. those awful rumors weren't true so hold your head up. 19 is a wonderful age! You should be in college deciding on a career..... oh, oh, oh... maybe you'd make a great counselor!! or a teacher!!

Answer 8

Its ok, don't worry. Everyone feels like this sometimes. Stop worrying and just do things, go visit people, help family. 19 is a fantastic age. Live it up girl.

Answer 9

Some people are just shy by nature.

Try getting into something you're good at. Your success will help you to feel more confident.

Answer 10

You know DON"T CARE WHAT OTHER PLL THINK JELOUSE OR NOT NOBADYS PERFECT SO THEY SHOULD STOP CRITASIZING woops I left the caps on sorry anyway just forget about it you want confedence show them you don't care and mabe get a bit of an aditude only on them kk

Answer 11

I do not know how to gain it. Though I had no confidence in myself to begin with...Just Miya telling me things that made me feel a bit better...