2006-06-30 19:37:55 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You are too hot, huh? Probably too hot to handle.
He is probably exploring his options as someone new has shown interest in him.
Hate the cliché, but move on for a while. If you want him and he wants you then you will be together through thick and thin.
2006-06-30 19:39:39 · answer #1 · answered by Oriental Delight 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you have been together too long to begin with. You have to have many relationships before you can find the "right one".
To think the first one is the "right one" is not logical thinking.
Remember the times you had and move on. You only get to live life once. Find a new boyfriend, find a hobby, anything. If he comes back some day, great, decide then what you want to do. To sit and wait you will only waste you own life away and regret it later.
2006-07-01 02:41:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I sympathize, really, I have a gf for more years than yours, and she wants to cool off too. It sucks, and it hurts. Relating to your situation, eventhough I'm a guy, I tried to patch up with her. But at the moment, she's adamant about it. Worse, I'm overseas right now, necessities you know. So I can't just go over to her and make up. In your case, as being the girl, I guess talking to him, and determining the real cause of his choice in this, would really help a lot in determining your future choices. Five years is a long time. Right now, I'm just riding the waves, letting things to settle down, and see what happens in the future. I always say things change. I just realized that some changes are more painful than I thought. To be honest, I'm in a bit of limbo right now, and I'm not sure my advice would help. I hope it helped a bit though. It's how I'm dealing with the situation. In retrospect, I hope it works out for you and I.
2006-07-01 02:48:37 · answer #3 · answered by chubby_claw 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well that i reasonable seeing how long you've been together, the best thing to do is just run errands and do things you couldn't do if he were still with you. Do not date again, then when he wants to start up again you might be in a bind with someone else, think of his feelings and yours. Keep a small contact while during the seperation so when its time to go back to eachother you won't have second thoughts. Good luck
2006-07-01 02:41:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him feel out the idea. Give him space. If he really loves u, he will be back. And while he is gone, {missing u} make a life for yourself. Don't sit around waiting for him. Because u will only make yourself hurt {u will have to much time to think about him and what he is doing}. So be too busy to need him and make sure he knows this, if he calls u and wants to get together.
2006-07-01 02:50:45 · answer #5 · answered by zoey_smith 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Swallow your pride, stand up straight and put a smile on your face. Go out with friends and meet new people. Keep your options open, and have a good time. If you and your boyfriend are "meant to be", it will happen. If not, it won't. But there is someone out there for every one of us. God will send you the right one at the right time in your life.
2006-07-01 02:42:07 · answer #6 · answered by kj 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it hurts sweetie, but there are so many other fish in the sea. It takes a long time to get over someone you have dated for that long I know I was with a guy for 8 yrs. If you get back together with him he will just hurt you agian. Just get your life staight and ignore him. There will be another guy and you will be so happy you will not even think of " what's his face" ever agian.
2006-07-01 02:43:25 · answer #7 · answered by Ellie S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
breaks are never good.. um... ask him why he needs to "cool off" chances are he's thinking of a way to end it. sorry to be so blunt but its honesty. OR he just needs to figure out if you're actually the person he wants to spend the rest of his life with.. my boyfriend took off for a week and i didn't hear from him the whole time... when he came back he said he needed to make sure he couldn't live without me.. and realized he couldn't so that's why he came back.. good luck!
2006-07-01 02:40:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
WELL THAT SOUNDS LIKE A WASTE OF FIVE YEARS. seems odd he'd wait so long to cool off! is there by chance another female that came into the picture or did you get one that's afraid of commitment?? did he give you a reason??
2006-07-01 02:40:41 · answer #9 · answered by SHE 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how old are you???? ur missing a wonderful world full of men, you should take your boyfriends advice, plus if you guys are ment to be with each other you'll get back sooner or later.
2006-07-01 02:40:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋