I just found out that my best friends daughter is having sex and she is now pregnant. Her daughter came to me coz she doesnt want to make her mum upset and angry. She knows that what her own mother went through when she found out that she was preg at a young age. I know i need to tell my friend but at the same time i dont want to break the girls trust. I need help? She is 14..
2006-06-30 19:30:12 · 29 answers · asked by Ammie J 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Ok I just wanted to add that I have not forgotten the boy... He is the popular one in school and she well isnt that popular and she doesnt want to get him in trouble she said that she was just happy that he was paying her attention. I am friends with the girl aswell. She looks after my daughter when I need her to.
2006-06-30 19:54:18 · update #1
Do this.. have lunch, invite them all over.. let your pregnant girl plan all of this.. but at your house.. so she can have you behind her for courage.. this way her mother will not fly off the handle in your kitchen and she will also have you there for support.. and you can get hand outs for her at the health department and give it too her.. OK
just be open with this child tell he that she really has to tell her for soon she will be showing and will not beable to hide it any longer..
hope it workdays.. then get her to the doctors.
2006-06-30 19:38:00 · answer #1 · answered by sillyatheart3 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Wow that is a tough one. All I can do really is imagine if a friend of my daughter came to me with this. (my daughter is this age) Hmmm.
Well, with a picture of one of her friend's in my head, what I would say to ***** is, "please go see a doctor. Before you do anything, go to a doctor and get it confirmed. If you are pregnant, a lot of people need to be told. First off, tell the baby's father. He needs to know. Don't put any pressure on him other than, this is what is. Next, you do need to tell your parents. I know you're worried about your mom, but what about your dad. Is he understanding? If not, well what you'll have to do is first of all decide how you want to deal with this. If you choose t have the baby, then you have ot speak to you parents. "
Then tell her you are there for her, no matter what. She'll need that.
2006-06-30 20:18:28 · answer #2 · answered by dreamcatweaver 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-14 03:23:45 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell teen that if she won't tell mom, you won't have any other choice but to tell her. Explain that you have trust with mom, too. Mom will be upset and angry, but she'll get over it. The longer you wait, the worse it will be. If you don't, it WILL come out that you knew and Mom will be even madder at you than teen because you know better.
Talk about consequences. Does she plan on raising the kid? Get an abortion? Giving up for adoption? Offer to be there with her when she tells Mom.
Where's teen's dad?
2006-06-30 23:22:25 · answer #4 · answered by mithril 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask the girl if you can help her talk to her mom. I wouldn't tell her she "has to go to her mother right now," because she'll feel threatened and may not trust you again. She is very vulnerable right now, and needs to know she has someone to talk to. Indeed try to convince her to get her mother's help, but do it in a way that she will accept. "Would you like me to be there when you talk to your mom?" ... or "I think it's best if your mom knows about this too, and I will be glad to go with you to talk to her." ... or even, "You need to be seen by a doctor soon. Your mom is the only one who can sign papers and provide insurance information. She will need to know about your pregnancy eventually......"
This girl is probably terrified, and not sure how to talk to her mom. I know it's difficult for you since you're caught in the middle, but somehow, things will work out. Good luck to you.
2006-06-30 22:41:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk with the girl and try to convince her that she needs to tell her mom....The fact that she came to you is really important so be very very careful so u won't break her trust on you... Try to explain to this girl that (and why it) is very important for the mother to know about the pregnancy, and then (that's the best you could do) arrange a "meeting" with the girl, her mother and you, tell the mother about the pregnancy....
2006-06-30 20:22:34 · answer #6 · answered by smaragda 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell the girl that you have to tell her mother, because this secret is too important to keep. Ask the girl if she would rather tell her mother herself, or if she wants you to do it. Tell her that these are the only options. You can offer to go with her for support if she chooses to tell her mother herself. Remind her that since her mother has been through this she will probably be sympathetic, and if her mother is very upset remind her that you will help her all you can.
2006-06-30 20:40:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A 14 Y O PREGNANT IS SOMETHING ANY MOTHER WOULD WANT TO KNOW IF IT WERE THERE OWN. SO DON'T YOU THINK THE TRUST ISSUE SHOULD HAVE CAME IN A LONG TIME AGO WITH THE GIRL AND HER MOTHER. SHE NEEDS TO BE ABLE TO TRUST HER MOTHER TO HELP HER AND NOT DISOWN HER. U HAVE THE RESPONSIBILITY OF CONVINCING THIS CHILD THAT THE BOY(LETS NOT FORGET ABOUT HIM) PARENTS NEED TO KNOW AND BOTH SETS OF PARENTS NEED TO HAVE A VERY SERIOUS AND LENGHTHY CONVERSATION ABOUT THEIR SNEAKY CHILDREN.
2006-06-30 19:45:15 · answer #8 · answered by Niinnaa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Buy something for a baby, like diapers, clothes or a rattle. Put it in a gift bag and leave it somewhere the girls mom would find it, like the front door. Don't leave any kind of message or a way for her to find out that it was you. Hope this helps.
2006-06-30 19:40:08 · answer #9 · answered by HPEmomofone 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Explain to the child,that you want her and her baby to have the best care possible,and tell her mother,without her there. Explain to your friend,that she told you in confidence. Either way,the mom will know soon as she starts showing. I know you want to be loyal to the child,but you can't teach her to lie to her own mother,either
2006-06-30 21:30:43 · answer #10 · answered by dragonfly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋