Anyone else agree with me????

Question

I am a stay at home Mom. When my husband gets home I no longer exist as far as my kids are concerned. If they fall-Daddy, if they want to cuddle-Daddy, etc. Don't get me wrong, I think it's great they love Daddy so much, but isn't it frustrating? I just wanted to vent. Thanks

Answer 1

Don't worry, all kids know mommy best. I know it might not be the most glorious work and heartbreaking when Daddy comes home to a celebratory cheer, but the mother-child bond is very very strong. I'm sure that Daddy misses his kids all day, too, and I'm sure that he's jealous that you get to spend all day with them while he's cooped up elsewhere. Talk to your husband and tell him how you feel. Listen to him when he shares hid concerns, too. Chances are that you're both feeling the same way.

Answer 2

Yes it is frustrating, and I know exactly how you feel. But look at it this way. When daddy gets home think of it as your time to have a break from the kids. Let him look after them for the rest of the day while you have some mummy time, or whatever else it is that you can be doing that you can't do with the kids.

Answer 3

Be glad that your husband is so popular. When my dad came home at night we all went running the other way because all we ever heard was "wait till your father gets home"! I stayed at home with my boys when they were young and it's true that you get taken for granted because you're around all the time. That doesn't mean they don't love you- it's just different. Use your free time to catch up on all the things you didn't get to do for yourself during the day and let them have some Daddy time.

Answer 4

It might have to do with their age too. You didn't mention how old they were, but both of my kids went through a "daddy" stage....especially my son. My daughter went through it when she turned about 3 or so and just became a "Momma's girl" again about a year ago. Although her and her daddy have a "date night" every couple of months or so. Now my son started to want to be like his dad when he turned about 2 or so. And he still thinks his dad can do anything. Both my kids LOVE when their daddy comes home from work. To be honest...I do to. I can share the "parenting reigns" for the rest of the evening. Make sure that your kids see that their daddy want to see YOU too when he comes home....this will remind them that you are not just the "morning and afternoon babysitter" but that you are Mom and are very important to Dad as well.

Answer 5

My kids can be the same way sometimes. My 21 month old daughter especially. She has always been a momma's girl, but here lately she would rather have daddy. Sometimes I get a lilttle jealous, but then I realize that my children are so tremendously blessed that they have a daddy who wants to spend time with them and show them love. Think of it this way, your kids are with you 24-7. How much time do your kids have with their dad?

Answer 6

Its just that they see you all day and often you are the "bad" parent and its like venting for them when Dad gets home. I have four children and I have often felt the same. Let me ask this question in reverse...Do you have a special niece or nephew or even a friend that has a child who you adore? When you see that child do you love, cuddle, and play with him/her? The children see this the same way as you see your children with their father. You don't see that child often but when you do it is only for short periods of time and its more like recess for you than the constant care and discipline you give your children. You can love that child and then leave it just as fathers do their own children. I have always said that I raise the children and their dad is playtime. Try to use this to your advantage and take the time that they spend playing with their father as a time that you can spend on YOU. Pamper yourself with a soak in the tub, paint your toenails, take a walk, just don't do house work at this time! Let him parent the children for a while and enjoy the fact that you have such a close family. After your soak join them in fun and cuddling. Take care and the best to you and your family. Your children love you and always will.

Answer 7

my dear after 25yrs of raising kids and i still have my kids at home to help with college.. and my daughter is married.. and i have my grandchild with me..

now to say this.. for 23yrs i have been a stay home mother and it is not a easy job.. you are a amazing women to do it there are not many of us left.. Let the kids go to daddy.. it is good.. my kids did not get that chance for he was a workicholic and well my kids lost out.. they have no relationship with there dad..

but me. lets just say i am ther AW.. they come to me for everything.. I have what they need to raise children. i have all the teachings to help them teach.... understaind.. in the long run..

they alway run back home too mom.. so let daddy have his time it is great bonding.. lets pray it never stops. if my kids had one wish it would be this.

WHY DID MY DADDY NOT LOVE ME ! GOD? CAN YOU MAKE HIM SPEND MORE TIME WITH ME? TODAY JUST ONE DAY!

Answer 8

LOL My kids say daddys #1 and mommys # 22. Children tend to strive more for the parent who is not around as much for attention. I know it can be very hurtful at times. Enjoy it though at least you are not doing it all by yourself and you have a great husband who will help. God Bless you and your family.

Answer 9

I read about this somewhere..
Its kind of like the kids are taking you for granted. You are a constant, and Daddy isn't. So when they can see him, the are exstatic!
Like...a new toy that they are only allowed to play with on certain occasions, as opposed to a toy that is always in their toybox, right at their fingertips. Which one would be more appealing?
They will outgrow this, and just so you know, I find it frustrating, too!

Answer 10

my son is the same way... he follows me around all day and wants my attention every second (and I love him sooo much, so for the most part, that's okay), but as soon as my husband walks in the door, i'm chopped liver!!! But his dad = FUN. He takes him on lawnmower rides, bike rides, and just plays with him, while I have to get laundry done, dishes done, etc. and be the structered one who occasionally has to discipline. I think it's pretty normal stuff, but yah, that can be slightly frustrating. Although it gives me some time off at night, and I can't complain there!