To all you Christians..Please help. I need help finding this scripture...?

Question

Please, if you can help me find scripture that shows that a man should love is wife, not walk around not speaking to her, arguing over keeping an account with his ex-wife, and generally being so holier than though, as if he can do not wrong, I would really appreciate it, thanks.

to what a geek, He used the bible to make to try and judge me, and now I want to show him in the bible where he is wrong. I have not memorized versus like he has, even though I truly believe that I have a more personal relationship with God than he does.

Answer 1

The bible contains one promise for the wife, that she submit to her husband. There are either 6 or 9 promises that apply to the husband. The most important of these is that the husband must love his wife as Christ loved his church. And Jesus gave his life for the church. Basically the bible commands men to love their wives enough to die for them. The way that the word love is used here is not the current popular meaning which is a description of an emotional feeling that wells up and is dependent on the actions of another. It is speaking of an act of the will. In other words it is saying that as a husband you should treat your wife with the outward actions, signs and words of one who would be willing to lay down his life for her and be, in fact, willing to lay down your life for her.

I am ashamed that I cannot tell you where this is right of the top of my head, because it is pretty famous and gets talked about all the time. I think it might be in Galatians. It is in the New Testement somewhere after Acts II. There are free, online concordances that you can use that will locate every single reference to a given topic for you.

Sadley most people live there lives doing what pleases them and never thinking of others or what God tells them is best for THEM. I cannot say that this applies to your husband, not having met him nor having heard what he has to say about you. Remember, there should be three in every marriage, husband, wife and God. I'm not saying that if you invite Jesus, God, into your marriage that everything will be sunny from the moment you do it, nor am I saying that if you do not it is doomed to fail. What I am saying is that having God in your marriage is it's own reward. Trust me. It really is. And if husband and wife are focusing on their relationship with God as much as or more than what bothers them about their partner, then the perspective is completely different.

I can tell you this though, you should never allow someone else's behavior to determine your own. If you are doing what God has asked of you. If you are honoring his will for you in your marriage then God will honor this as a gift given personally to him by you. We should all consentrate on laying up treasure in heaven and not on earth.

In parting, remember this, in marriage counselfing, it is a well known fact that by a large majority, most of the couples that stay together and do not divorce complain about the exact same issues that couples that do get divorced complain about. And, that couples that go into therapy, when questioned 20 years later consistently rate themselves as happier than they had been with each other 20 years earlier. As well, people that divorce once generally find they have the same, exact issues with their 2nd spouse as they had with their first spouse and that the issues cropped up the exact same distance into the 2nd marriage.

Really what this means is that having a succesful marriage is largely a decision by both parties to 1) Forgive each other for not being perfect, 2) Decide they are not going to give up on the other person, 3) Decide that they are GOING to be happy. That's right, I said that they make a decision to be happy. This is what happy people do. They decide to be happy. Happiness is not a result of your conditions or the people around you. It is the result of a decision and the result of God and the Holly spirit. Also, The grass isn't greener on the other side and when you reboot your life, you aren't really giving yourself a clean slate. Why not, becuase you haven't changed yourself. You are still bringing you along on your life. Chances are that the person who was pissing on the grass and killing it before was you. And, that when you hit bumps in a relationship and THERE WILL ALWAYS BE BUMPS, what you need to do is get past them and over them. Find a solution to them, becuase if you do, 20 years down the road you will be past them and happy. If you do not, you will just deal with the same ones again 10 years from now or 5 years from now or 7 years from now.

And pray. Always pray. Ask God to help. Ask God, in the name of Jesus to step into your life and help you. It works. God will and does move mountains for people if they simply ask.

I will pray for you myself. I hope everything works out for you. I really do.

Answer 2

Ephesians 5:22-26

Answer 3

the word of God is a sword of the spirit, not to be used to attack people with. It seems to me your motives are all wrong.

I won't ever tell anyone not to read the bible or share scriptures, but there is a verse in the bible that also says, "by your words you will be justified, by your words you will be condemned".

Anyone can grab a verse from the bible and show me (and I'm sure you to) where I am failing. But if we start judging people for falling short without taking our own actions in to account we stand in greater judgement.

Anyway i think what you're looking for is in Philippians 4 or maybe Galatians.

Answer 4

Ummm, sorry, but the Bible isn't going to be much help there! It does say the "husband is head of the wife, as Christ is head of the church," (Ephesians 5:21). Paul does say to "submit to one another." If the husband is over the wife, as Christ is head of the Church, then I interpret that to mean that the husband should be willing to be loving and sacrificial, as Christ was.
Paul wrote about these things and followed the normal cultural practices of his time, so we have to recognize that and realize not every word is to be taken literally.
I would encourage you and your husband to talk with a marriage counselor.

Answer 5

1 Corinthians 13

Answer 6

1 Timothy 5:8

Answer 7

Ephesians 5:28
So husbands ought also to [Eph 5:25, 33; 1 Pet 3:7] love their own wives as their own bodies. He who loves his own wife loves himself;


Ephesians 5:33
Nevertheless, each individual among you also is to [Eph 5:25, 28; 1 Pet 3:7] love his own wife even as himself, and the wife must see to it that she [1 Pet 3:2, 5] respects her husband.

[1 Tim 3:2-4; Titus 1:6-8] An overseer, then, must be above reproach, [Luke 2:36; 1 Tim 5:9; Titus 1:6] the husband of one wife, [1 Tim 3:8, 11; Titus 2:2] temperate, prudent, respectable, [Rom 12:13; Titus 1:8; Heb 13:2; 1 Pet 4:9] hospitable, [2 Tim 2:24] able to teach,

Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything. Husbands, love your wives just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, and to present her TO HIMSELF as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. After all, no one ever hated his own body, but he feeds and cares for it, just as Christ does the church -- for we are members of his body. "For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh." This is a profound mystery -- but I am talking about Christ and the church. However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband. (Ephesians 5:22-33)

Answer 8

I think you're going for a combination of verses here. Part of your questions sounds a lot like 1 Corinthians 13:4-8, although that passage is about perfect love, not necessarily marital love. The main verse that comes to mind is Ephesians 5:25-33 "Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. After all, no one ever hated his own body, but he feeds and cares for it, just as Christ does the church— for we are members of his body. "For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh."This is a profound mystery—but I am talking about Christ and the church. However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband."

Hope that helps you.

Answer 9

Eph.5:23-31
Tit 2:4

Answer 10

Now this is the second reason for you [men] to cover the altar of Yehowah in tears - weeping and screaming - for will He turn toward your gift offering with favor, or be pleased with anything from your hand? Now you say, ‘What is the reason?’ For this reason - because Yehowah testifies between you and the wife of your youth with whom you have treated her hurtfully even though she is your partner and the wife of your covenant-promise. Did He not create everyone? So that all the remaining breath of life is His? And what did that one search for? Godly people! Now you men must be on guard regarding your own attitude so that you never treat the wife of your youth hurtfully. ‘For He hates divorce, says Yehowah, the God of Israel, ‘as well as the man clothing himself with lawlessness like a garment,’ says Yehowah of Hosts. ‘So all of you men guard your attitude and never be hurtful.’” [Malachi 2:13-16 NCMM]


Marriage in honor means that a husband holds his wife in honor - the wife who works her fingers to the bone for him and their children; the wife who in pain and difficulty brought children into the world; the wife who was the love of his youth, and whom he should not, upon becoming older, neglect or push aside. The Lord will punish the husband who no longer holds his wife in honor.
When a wife feels that her husband holds her in high esteem, surrounding her with care and attention, she win blossom. In this way mutual affection will be maintained and strengthened. The flame of love cannot be quenched by the waters of a busy household with its large and small irritations.