My boyfriend always threatens to leave me when we have a heated argument. When we make up, he turn around and say that he would never leave and that I should not take him for every word he say when he is angry. I say things too, but I don't threaten to leave (or do anything I don't intend to do). I feel like I just live for the moment, and should not be hurt when (if) he leaves. Is this normal?
2006-06-30 18:11:38 · 24 answers · asked by confused 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You need to have a talk. Promise each other to fight fair. Let him know that the next time he's says he's leaving ...he better mean it ... 'casue it's going to be over.
2006-06-30 18:31:46 · answer #1 · answered by Sam 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
um .... the only thing i can suggest for u is to notice all red flags and if he really loves u he wouldnt threaten to leave u . Even if u argue thats so stupid then let him just leave , or just be friends and live seperately cuz this isnt healthy at all u shouldnt live for the moment u should always be building good memories im srry this is just not healthy get out of this realationship . Or u are just going to be depressed and feel alone and live with a cold guy .
2006-06-30 18:23:58 · answer #2 · answered by 96.7 KCAL ROCKS!!! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is good to you other then this, isn't physically/emotionally abusive, works, gives you attention, you don't have to leave him as others suggested, you have to teach him not to behave like that. Men are like dogs, sorry guys but it is true, you have to train them how you want them without them knowing that they are being trained. The next time that he threatens that, stop whatever you are doing or saying and start packing. He is going to ask what you are doing tell him that you will do him one better, you will leave. AND DO IT!!! don't tell him where you are going and disappear for 3 days to a week. NO CONTACT AT ALL!!!! Then, go home and unpack your sh!t and act like nothing happened. Over dinner bring up the fact that if he ever makes that threat again you won't come back. He is doing it to get a reaction, nothing else. Train him!!!!!!!
2006-06-30 18:20:06 · answer #3 · answered by simplyfabulous 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is normal for him to say that but its good that you think like that. When you guys get into it again you should calm down and try to talk to him and tell him "adult to adult i can't take the fact that you keep threatening me and in a relationship you need to take it serious and take me serious and it's bothering me and i don't think you should say things you don't mean" and if you really don't what to put up with that no more then you should be the one to leave if he doesn't take you serious.
2006-06-30 18:19:24 · answer #4 · answered by Veronica M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People say crazy things when they're angry. But you should let him know that it hurts when he's saying that. My boyfriend used to say such things too as a joke. I told him that I don't like him saying that even if it's a joke. Now he doesn't make those kind of break up jokes anymore. If he cares about you, he'll change. I think that you guys will be fine. Good luck.
2006-06-30 18:19:22 · answer #5 · answered by QQ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
salaam, im sorry to hear you want to leave. well at the end of the day it is no ones buisness it is between you and allah, he is the only one who can judge you on this. Although islam is a fith you can go into just like that. it is a serious thing not something you should mess around with, if you are going to be a muslim practice it as it should be. but if you no longer feel the connection with allah, then there is no need for you to remain in the faith. its your choice these countries that make these laws should concentrate on more important things then worry about what people believe. at the end of the day they are god and cannot make punishments. they do and i believe it is wrong. ma salaama :)
2016-03-26 23:45:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't live with him anymore. If he's threatening to leave allthe time, you'd be better off without him. Find someone new that will stay by your side, even after an argument.
2006-06-30 18:14:26 · answer #7 · answered by happy311 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I tell you call him on it. The next time he says that tell him then just leave go if that is what you really want go, If not then you never want to hear it again or he can really leave. I live with a guy that use to tell me to move and when I got treid and moved out then he wanted me back and has not said it again.
2006-06-30 18:15:42 · answer #8 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I now would make the bum leave . It's the start of verbal abuse the next step is physical abuse. Find a new boy friend , this one is no friend . I know what I'm talking about my daughter is a battered woman and after 15 years of abuse she left him and is doing great. good luck be strong
2006-06-30 18:22:50 · answer #9 · answered by basque girl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You and your boyfriend need to sit down and talk about this. This MUST be done when neither one of you are angry. Neither one of you should accuse the other of anything. It will have to be the session to better understand each other.
Ultimately, it is up to you if you want to continue on this relationship.
2006-06-30 18:17:15 · answer #10 · answered by tkquestion 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋