What do you do do when your child's godmother is marrying your child's father?

Question

The woman and I are still friends ( at least I'd like to think we are ) My daughters father and her godmother have been seeing each other for a couple years now. Which was fine with me. Recently I've found out they're planning to be married this summer! My friend never mentioned it to me herself, I found out from other people talking about it. I didn't expect to be in the wedding but it would've been nice to hear from her. ( she was one of my best friends at one time her being my daughters godmother). I've been invited to a couple parties for them but feel kind of uncomfortable going. My daughter's father and I don't really get along that good.The thing is we all have about the same group of friends. And we've known each other since we were kids. If anyone can recommend some good advice it would be greatly appreciated

Answer 1

take a fine *** hunk of man to the wedding ,dress your daughter in her sunday best, buy a dress in his fav color and buy them a fabulous gift,attend the wedding,wish them well,never let them see you sweat and remember she's getting your sloppy seconds!
hang in the mommie! lol

Answer 2

It is perfectly normal that you feel that way because your child's dad and your friend (your child's godmother) are engaged. Maybe your friend avoided telling you about her engagement because it would be awkward and she was afraid how you were going to react and that's how come you found out from other people. You don't have to go to their wedding or parties if you feel uncomfortable. You can save your sanity! You didn't mention if you were invited to their wedding? But if you were, then going to their wedding isn't going to help remedy your feelings about them, it will just add to it like an avalanche and it might get worse. You might get traumatized because their wedding might replay in your head and you won't be able to get over it. You don't have to actually see them getting married to know they're getting married, you already said that you were uncomfortable going to their parties, so what's more if you were to see them exchange vows? I say it will be much easier for you to get over it and you will heal faster emotionally if you don't go to their wedding.

Answer 3

I wouldnt waste good time attending a foolish event. Too much drama for my taste. If you dont feel comfortable going to the parties you've been invited to, I dont imagine you'd feel different going to the wedding. If it were me, I'd pass on it all....even if you do receive an invitation.

Answer 4

why would you be mad about not finding out from her or him, it has nothing to do with you, what do youwant them to let you know or ask if it is ok to have kids or to move ot a certain neighborhood?dont fee like you have to know, it is none of your bussiness and think about it, what if your ex gets mad at you for not telling him you are getting married or seeing someone? no he doesnt need to know and it is none of his bussiness even if his wife is your best friend, maybe they knew you would feel hurt if they told you andthey wanted to tell you on thier own time, this is there moment so why ruin it for them by going to the wedding, it will be like walking on egg shells if you go, everyone will be looking at you to see what you are going to do.dont worrry about it and just get over it and dont worry about it, this is your life, have fun and focus on yourself and your kid.good luck.

Answer 5

If you're friends and don't want the guy back, wish them well and attend the wedding if invited.

Answer 6

To err is humane and to forgive is divine.

Remember this for always.

Answer 7

try to be proud for them if they're happy try to be happy as well(=
everything will turn out alright