I need help from all women!!!!!!!!!?

Question

Women baffle me. (Duh!!!!) But I'm determined to better my relationships with them. I don't know why just yet.... (Moving on) Can I get some "detailed" pointers. Some good example's I've come across that were eye openers: Women really don't care about how something works, even if they look like they're paying attention while you're talking (Hours of wasted explanations on my part!!! Thanks estrogen). also, Never correct a woman's misspellings, they take it differently than a man would. Thanks for any help you can give. And try not to be vague please.... Example: treat them nice.

Answer 1

look at their face when you are talking to them, not anywhere else, not down, not on the tv behind them.

the flashy smile and cute lines are nice, but we know a player when we see one.

just be honest and be yourself. we hate finding out about lies (just like you do).

Answer 2

First of all, I'd suggest you stop generalizing. We are all individuals so when you say "women don't care about..." or "Never correct...take differently then a man.." you're assuming we're all the same. We are not.

It's ok to ask if we're interested before going into a lengthy explanation for something... 'cause it's true- some people are interested in some things and others are not- but notice I said people. You can't say women always are, or are not... because we're different.


And many people, especially when you first meet them can be polite and not want to tell you they're not interested. Now here there is a difference between women and men, generally- as women tend to be more sensitive to the other person's feelings then men- generally... but not always. And a women might be "more likely" to just listen politely and not want to hurt your feelings by staying they're not interested.

Probably you're confused because you're looking for patterns or rules that work for all women and you're not going to find them.

Listen and get to know a person, don't assume anything, and treat us as individuals who can be very different from each other.

Answer 3

Careful about the generalizations. I make a living out of figuring out how things work, and I love it.
Also, regarding the correction of misspellings (or grammar or word usage) - If you understand it, and it isn't something that is for a professional or business purpose, then let it go. That is just basic politeness, and applies to both men and women. Or at least do it nicely - like "Oh is that how that word is used / spelled? I always thought it was ....."

The "women take it differently than a man would" also needs comment. Men are often quicker to try to correct or teach things to women then they are to other men. Women are not stupid, we see this all the time and it is annoying. I play a lot of golf, and so does my husband. When we are on the practice range about 50% of the time some guy will come up and start giving me pointers out of the blue. My husband says that has never happened to him. Ever. And BTW, I am a better golfer than my husband.

My tip to you is to PAY ATTENTION to the person you are with. Don't try to come up with some canned set of rules that you try to apply to everybody. It will never work. Be sincerely interested and notice how she reacts (and you'll be able to tell the difference when she is really listening or just trying to be polite). I
There is no one set of rules that will work on every woman. If you treat us using a set of rules, we can tell and we know you haven't bothered to figure out what is special about ME!

Answer 4

I don't always understand women, and I am one. I can see how guys get confused. Not all women are the same personality-wise, but in general I would recommend:

Be friendly and respectful towards her friends, no matter how crazy, but don't flirt with them (charming is okay).

Be sympathetic if she is PMS-ing, but never ever tell her that's why she's acting a certain way, or she'll get really mad.

Don't try to fix everything. If a woman complains about a co-worker, she might just need to vent. If you try to jump in and offer solutions, she might get defensive and feel patronized.

Be flexible. If a woman plans a packed day with a million activities, and some don't make it on the final agenda, be the calm guy that can go with the flow.

However, don't be too calm. (Confusing, I know.) If she is flustered and frustrated, don't feed into that, but do acknowledge her feelings: "It's been a crazy day, huh?"

Listen for hints. If you are going to the store, and a woman says "we are out of product XYZ," what she means is "please buy product XYZ when you are at the store." Women speak in vaugue hints and then complain that guys don't listen. Its funny:)

Answer 5

let me tell you the first thing about women... never take advice from women about women. Let me prove that one to you. I once asked my sister two questions. The first question was "what do you look for in a guy?" I got the typical "i want a guy that treats me good, does sweet things for me, and blah blah blah". then i asked her to describe the guys that she has had the longest relationships with. well I'll be damned if those two answers weren't the farthest away from each other as they could be. Now some girls you ask may get a good piece of advice in there once and awhile, but let me tell you the three "C's" of what a women looks for in a man. Confidence is probably number one. Not to be confused with arrogance, confidence is not having a self esteem problem. Know in your head that you are good enough for a women, but don't think that you are better than her. The second: Control. Control is about being your own person and in control of your own life. Being a decision maker and being confident in the decision. Taking charge of a date for example. None of this crap about i don't know, what do you want to do. This is where many many men falter. Control in this manner is not about controlling what a woman does. it's about being a take charge guy. One word of caution about this is that there may be feminist or two out there that don't like this kind of crap. Those women need to be kicked to the curb. The third is a challenge. Never let a woman think that you are a loser. Women want what other women want. Let her think other women want you. never wait around for a women and beg her like a puppy dog. you have your own life, live it. and if you don't, pretend. go out with your friends, go on dates with other women. And if and when you start dating a women, remember that you still have friends. never let a women tell you "let me think about it". that's just postponement for her to tell you no with hopes that you will forget about it. I'm not in any way telling you to treat a women like crap. a lot of people assume that from me when i tell them this stuff. you need to treat your woman good, but do not be her little bi***. Bottom line, women want a man to be a man. The big protector. Be a gentleman. Open doors, and treat her like a lady, but be a man about it, not a p**** whooped fool.

Answer 6

All women want is to be heard completely even if it sound like Blah,Blah,Blah. We feel self satisfied if we no we been heard and you can actually answer what were trying to say.Doesn't take much and then we'd be glad to listen to your Blah, blah, blah, as really we are not all that different.Give some respect and you get the same. Look somewhat interested and again you get the same.We are really simple, and Yes even when were PMS-ing Remember we look good and feed us some salt then chocolate following in that order and then you can understand us as i said Before we are as simple or as complicated as you guys want to make it communication. Good luck Buddy! Now you no our secret!

Answer 7

Tell a woman she's beautiful more often than you tell her you love her, we crave reassurance that we look good to you. Don't just "uh huh" and "okay" on the phone, provide actual responses and act interested even if you aren't, it feels pretty crappy thinking we're boring conversationalists even if we are. Whenever we say a bad thing about ourselves, we want you to tell us otherwise, to reassure us that you don't think so. Don't tell us about how hot your ex's were, tell us how they don't even compare to us. Hold our hands in public to make us know that you are proud to call us your own. Stare into our eyes before and after sex so that we know you realize who we are. Cuddle after sex so that we know you weren't just in it for the sex. Never lie to us, we will catch you. Don't cheat, it kills our self esteem and even if you're forgiven it'll never quite heal and will indefinitely come up in later arguments. Never leave us hanging in bed, chances are you'll get off first so don't be afraid to go down on us or finger us to finish the job, it's important that both parties get off, especially if the man wants to have sex tomorrow. There are so many more tips...but that's enough for now.

Answer 8

LISTEN!! Treat her like she is your world. Honestly, women just want to be loved, cared about and talked to. Make sure that they are number one on your list. I mean dont be a hugh puss or anything, but treat her like the lady she is. Open doors, dont make her pay (all the time) treat her like your best friend, and your lover. Watch a movie with them, rub their back when they say it hurts. Just dont go over the top.

Answer 9

UUHHHHHHH,
B nice, but not too nice
B A gentleman, but not to much of a gentleman
B Honest, but not too honest
B Romantic, but not too romantic
B a good boy, but not to much of a good boy
B a bad boy ,,,,, Anyways you get the picture

Answer 10

WHAT the Hell R you talking about, sweetheart you need to proof read before you submit a question, you have a lot of run on sentences and your question don't have a point.