My mom and dad are getting a divorce and i'm gonna have to choose who i want to live with and i don't know how to handle it how would you?
2006-06-30 17:31:50 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Well my parents divorsed when I was 8. My mom became bitter and depressed. One night she said she wished she never had me, and she always made me feel guilty about spending time with my dad. She would say bad things about him and I believed her. SO I never really had a real relationship with my dad, and I regret it now that i do have a relationship with him. (iam now 15) So dont let your parents make you choose one or the other, I would split time if I were you. And it is easy adjustiong, at first it might be wierd, but I adjusted quickly, and found it better because they are not always fighting, and they seem happier. That is once my mom stops being bitter about it. But other then that, it is great just look at the bright side, two houses, two sets of clothes, you can say well i will have mom get it for me and then dad will buy it for you.
2006-06-30 17:38:21 · answer #1 · answered by Jessica 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry to hear about the divorce. I don't think it's fair that YOU have to choose who you want to live with. That is a judge's job sweetie. You need to concentrate on school, and friends and extra-cirricular activities. Those should be your top priority. If your parents are trying to make YOU choose who to live with, then tell them you love them both the same and will not choose one over the other. They are the adults, and if they don't want the responsibility of how to work out visitation, they need to talk to a judge.
If you find that you are sad, or scared or even angry and confused, talk to a teacher, a friend, your parents, or a friend's parents who you feel comfortable with. Keep a journal too. Writing your feelings on paper can make you feel better after you finish. And who knows? Down the road you could maybe publish a book for other kids/teens who are going through the same thing you are now. :)
Keep your chin up and I hope everything works out for you! Hugs to you!!! :) :)
2006-07-01 04:14:51 · answer #2 · answered by Fiona70 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Chose the one that is convenient for you by way of school, friends facilities etc. You hav enough to deal with without having those turned upside down too. It will help if you have familiar and comfortable surroundings in that aspect
Remember - THEY are getting a divorce NOT you - it is THEIR battle not yours - so do not - I repeat - DO NOT take sides and DO NOT act a martyr.
The only person who is rsponsible for you is you - so just be happy - chose the one that is best for you and remember they need some support too - it is traumatic for them - you need to let them know you are on both their sides and will not choose one over the other.
2006-06-30 17:40:10 · answer #3 · answered by K. N 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it's up to you, then split your time. Live with one parent during the school year, and with the other during the summer.
2006-06-30 17:36:11 · answer #4 · answered by Sim S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
and dont let either of them talk badly, to you, about the other. Neither of them should be wanting you to take sides.
2006-06-30 17:52:05 · answer #5 · answered by ladyjailbird424 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would go back and forth. You should not have to choose. I am sorry.
2006-06-30 17:34:52 · answer #6 · answered by Texas Cowboy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
share your time between them. spend more time where you are most comfortable. don't talk badly about one to the other. good luck!
2006-06-30 17:37:01 · answer #7 · answered by fooz1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell your parents you hate them both for making you choose between them....and run away from home....
2006-06-30 18:47:21 · answer #8 · answered by lobotomy911 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pick a side. Else theyll fight over you
2006-07-07 11:00:31 · answer #9 · answered by jackmcleod_2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋