2006-06-30 17:22:49 · 14 answers · asked by slayer_65_ 1 in Health ➔ Other - Health
I am so sorry for the lost of your grandpa.Is ok to feel the way you are feeling right now.You are not at peace because you think you was not very nice to him last time you see him before he died.Life is like it is.And is not your foult ,is about realshionship,concerns,love,care and best wishes we argue as family most of the time. Be at peace,and think ,if we all knew the date,day and time people,friend ,family and loved ones dearly to us were going to died -we would all be fake people...we would not really express how we feel or how theyre actitude sometimes hurts us,and inpact us in our daily life around them .Is ok,you sound repented.I am sure you grandpa understand you,even if he kind of upset you the last time..and each other huts each other feelings..Is only human. Go to his resting place by your self and have a talking with him,as as if he was alive...what will you wanted to tell him before he go.And ask him for forgiveness and also forgive yourself...and tell him you want to forgive him aswell. Talk to God and ask him to show you the way how to let others help heal your wounds ...Be bless .An be brave..Just remember the good times...at least try hard...and alowed your self to grieve the lost of your grandpa,and grieve for the way it end it -you can not change but reconsiliate to your higher power,your self and your grandpa even douh he is anymore phisically around,he will always be there close to your heart.I sure he was proud of you no matter what,and vise versa.good luck
2006-06-30 17:42:41 · answer #1 · answered by Canela 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its called having a conscience. You did a bad thing to someone, enjoyed it, had no regard about their feelings, felt like they deserved it and NOW, you feel guilty because you realize that you were behaving disrespectfully. Now you wonder if he forgave you or not. You'll never know. Just remember to act like each moment is the last and you will never feel guilty again and always try and forgive others so they won't have to feel the same guilt. I'll say a prayer for you and your family. God Bless You!
2006-07-01 00:42:19 · answer #2 · answered by Lets_see... 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's because U didn't resolve Ur diffrences with him in his
living yrs. Now U feel guilty. U R looking 4 & wanting
closure. He's gone now, so D best thing 2 do is, accept
D situation Ur in & try to forgive Ur self 4 not making nice
with him. Then make an effort 2 move on. He did love U!!
2006-07-01 00:39:33 · answer #3 · answered by citizen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because its called guilt and it will last forever. Oh, yeah it will ease up some, but you will never get completely over it. That is why everyone says to love someone like it was your last day. Just pray to him for forgiveness. Maybe that will lessen the guilty felling a little!
2006-07-01 00:28:29 · answer #4 · answered by brittme 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to here for you r loss i fee the same way! me and my father did not talk to each other fro 5 years and he just died in November we talked the week before but allot of tings were not solved between us, I felt that i missed out on allot by being stubborn but he did know that i loved him and i still cry knowing that i could have had Father for the past 5 years,the only ting i tell myself is that He Loved me and i loved him and it helps me through the day........I'M sure that you grandpa loved you and you obviously loved him and im sure he knew that!!!!! Don't be so hard on yourself people make mistakes and we learn from them it all in what we do with what we learn.
2006-07-01 00:34:35 · answer #5 · answered by kathy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guilt
2006-07-01 00:26:38 · answer #6 · answered by tazboyed 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it's something you will have to live with. Take one day at a time. Sometimes writing a letter to the deceased apologizing helps.
2006-07-01 00:27:31 · answer #7 · answered by flowerlover12003 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure he knows how much you love him. Always remember the good times you had with him and do not let those memories fade.
Always remember to choose your words carefully when speaking or arguing with a loved one.
2006-07-01 00:31:08 · answer #8 · answered by Pepper M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is natural to have terrible feeling because you can not tell him you are sorry. But, you know you are truly sorry and wish you would have apologized. So say a prayer and move on.
My prayers go out to you and your family.
I wish you peace and happiness.
2006-07-01 00:26:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you feel guilty...and you feel like its not fair that you didnt get to tell him you love him...i know exactly how you feel...but it was with my sister...and we were in a fight when she died...i felt horrible forever...but i know she knew i love her...she still does...and so does your grandpa...i'm really sorry about it too...i would have said it before but really a simple sorry cant fix death...if you wanna email me about it or something my email is green_eyed_and_beautiful@yahoo.com
2006-07-01 00:32:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋