i should mention that me and him have been at it for the longest of time but still shouldn't a father have been their, ever since i have agreeded with myself that he is not my father anymore. am i being childish
2006-06-30 17:12:53 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
He is your father BUT that goes to show him that you DON'T need him!! He graduated from school on your own and you can keep your head up high for that if this was high school you graduated from go on to college and by someone and show him that you did it without him!! Let it go I know it's easier said than done but obviously you are a better person! Keep up the good work!! Reach for the stars and show him who the real star is!! Good Luck...
2006-06-30 17:17:46 · answer #1 · answered by Chuya 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes I reckon you should be mad as hell with him , that is an aw full thing to do to you . It doesn't matter how long you have been fighting for or what you have been fighting over , he should have been there for your graduation unless he was in jail or hospital I can't think of any reason why he should of missed it.
Congratulations to you on your graduation anyway, you can be really proud of your achievement, I didn't even get a school certificate and dropped out when I was 14yrs and 9 mths old to become a Butcher, now I which I had stayed on at school and gone to Uni. Good on you.
2006-07-01 00:24:07 · answer #2 · answered by shotie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, your father should have been there for your graduation.
And always remember that you father will be your father forever.
My dad used to say forever is a long time & you know he was right. As long as you tell yourself that he is not your father anymore, if something happens & he is no longer here for you it will hurt you way more. My father died in 1998. One of the most horrifying things I have ever faced in my life and it still feels like
yesterday. but he is here with me, in my heart.
Not to be cruel or anything but I think both of you are being a bit childish. Have a graduation party and invite him. Video tape it.
This way if anything happens to either one of you<
voice and hugging him. It is magnificent. God Bless & be strong.
If your dad didn't show up, it wasn't because he doesn't love you
it was more than likely because he was ashamed of how
things changed between you & him;
2006-07-01 00:27:38 · answer #3 · answered by ~Sheila~ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no way, your dad is the one with the problem. he will regret when he gets older that he didn't bond with you when he had the time. Maybe talk to him over the phone and ask why he didn't make it. Don't explode over the phone while talking to him, that's not very successful. Just tell him everything, how you want him to be there for you, how you want a dad that you can call secure. It's time to get these things across to him. (just like on Summerland when Cameron's dad had a drinking problem and abused him. They talked it out and his dad seeked help) just tell him how important he is to you and stuff. You are most definately not being childish though. Hope it works out, Valerie
2006-07-01 00:20:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like you are hurt and still care about him. If you and him have been at it for some time maybe he is hurt too. He will always be your father even if you want to dis own him. Let him know it really hurt you that he wasn't there. I think you need to know why he didn't go before you decide he isn't your dad anymore. Try to remember dads have feelings too. Sometimes daddys even cry.
2006-07-01 00:42:00 · answer #5 · answered by ging 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have the right to be mad but if you already told yourself that he wasn't your father anymore then you should have known that he wasn't going to show up, and at least this wasn't your wedding a graduation is very important but at least you know how much you can really depend on him.
2006-07-01 00:19:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you're not being selfish. I mean some guys find it hard to father girls for some reason it is annoying. You have agreed that he is not your father anymore and he has failed to be there for you. You're not alone. He should have been there for you but he wasn't. Maybe he didn't grow up in a home of affection, or maybe he's too busy, or maybe he's one of those guys that don't know what to do with girls.
2006-07-01 00:15:45 · answer #7 · answered by Rachel M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, congratulations on making it through school! Party! But sorry to hear that your dad let you down. It sounds like you have already written him off, but with him calling to say he would be there got your hopes up. I think you still want him to be proud of you, and even if he wasn't there, I hope he gave you a "pat on the back" for doing such a great job. Good luck!
2006-07-01 00:18:30 · answer #8 · answered by henry_sako 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a right to your feelings, and that is a great disappointment for you! However, there may be a very good reason for his abscence on your special day. Try to calm down, and wait to talk with him about it. Be honest with him, and share how that made you feel. Your feelings aren't childish, they're hurt right now, but talking about it will help you overcome this. Good Luck, and Congratulations on your accomplishments.
2006-07-01 00:26:09 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That happened to me. Yeah becuz that is one of the important events in ur life. My dad didn't show up either for my graduation. I'm sorry that happened to u. It hurt me for the longest time.
2006-07-01 00:16:51 · answer #10 · answered by Mickey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋