im in a long distance realtionship but i feel that his not being loyal to me or honest an then his answering machine when he doesnt pick his cell a girl comes up an says this is his girlfriend i told him that what was up with that an he said it was his sister should i believe him or not
2006-06-30 17:12:28 · 10 answers · asked by funnygirltobewith 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Nah, it sounds like he isn't being honest with you, and that is a major component in a distance relationship. If he's lying to you now then it will only get worse as time goes by and he gets away with more. Also, once a cheater always a cheater. It sounds like you need to find someone a bit closer.
2006-06-30 17:17:40 · answer #1 · answered by Chris G. 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
there are several terms in ur problems. those are 'long' , 'distance relationship' , 'loyal / honest' , 'another girl' , 'his sister' & finally 'believe' . according 2 ur confession, u are too serious in this kind of long distance relationship. u 1st mind it that 'out of sight, out of mind' except 4 some different cases. it might be that u recently felt that he is not loyal to u anymore. that means b4 that u had a warm relation with him. there must have some kind of gap that didnt yet covered from any of both of u though it seemed that u had tremendous enthusiasm abt him. u didnt mention that whether he is now neglecting u or not. he already made a treachary according 2 ur confession but still u couldnt decide whether u should go ahead or stop. relation cant stay without the equal cosmic flow from both the related persons. love can derail someone from the perceivable logical paths. u believed him b4 but now u r being hesitated. similarly, its quite obvious that he might also understand ur current status after that incident. if he is still loyal 2 this relationship, he would try 2 convince/response u either directly or indirectly depending upon his personal attributes, otherwise he is just neglecting u. therefore, b4 taking the final decision, just try 2 investigate abt him with this current incident, try 2 recall his personal point of view or analyze him as much as u can. a relation is not created 2 be broken, feel the situation & definitely try 2 understand urself.
2006-07-01 00:56:34 · answer #2 · answered by kazi dipu 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow, thats a tuffy. i dont know. it is definetly something that i would demand to know more about. depends how long you have been dating. my husband and i have almost always had a long distance relationship. he does long haul trucking. but we have been together now 11 years. our love is still fairly strong. most days. there ofcourse is ups and downs, but whenever i may have suspected anything fishy while he was away, he always knew how to have me beleive i was the only one. special things. sending flowers, texting unexpectedly, calling in the middle of a work day. just cute small surprises. nothing to big just a quick thought of me. let him know that you need this to reafirm his love. if he loves you as much as he says he does then he wouldnt mind taking the time to make you feel like #1. if he cant then if the relationship hasnt got to much of you already into it then dont hesitate to find someone that will. you may not think so now, (as i did many years ago) but the perfect one is out there for you. i lost what i thought was the love of my life. started dating at 12 years old and it went off and on until i was 22. 10 years i thought he must love me to death. well after many times finding out he loved alot of girls, i finally gave up. and have never been as happy as i was when my husband and i met. you come first and you are #1. make sure your happy because life is to short not to. i hope that this helps you some.
2006-07-01 00:31:25 · answer #3 · answered by bigfamily777 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no because i had that same thing happen to me kinda. see my ex was like he love me and all of that but then one day i called his cell and a girl picked up i thought i had the wrong number so i hung up and called right back it was the right number and it also was his girlfriend for a year before he even got wit me but any way i think that your man think that just because you were your at that he can so what what ever he wants and don't believe that his sister because a boy wouldn't have his sister on his answering machine because they would think it messes up there game trust me i know i have ten brothers and I'm the only girl but yeah don't trust him because if he ain't getting it from you hes getting it from some body
2006-07-01 00:24:16 · answer #4 · answered by divapoopylou 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. Besides, what good is a long distance relationship anyway?
2006-07-01 00:14:40 · answer #5 · answered by Laura S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to ask to talk to the girl again so his sister can admit to you that she was lying. but if your not up for that and if that doesnt work then f*ck it. no bf should be having that kind of sh*t coming up or slipping up. its not exceptable at all!
2006-07-01 00:26:48 · answer #6 · answered by xbinary_dreamsx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't believe him. Why would his sister say that she's his girlfriend. I would forget about him and find someone else.
2006-07-01 00:14:43 · answer #7 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why are u in a long distance relationship? unless its for a little bit, but uh i say dump him
2006-07-01 00:17:29 · answer #8 · answered by Nameless K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO I WOULD NOT BELIEVE THIS QUITE YET, FIRST OF ALL
WHY IS A GIRL ANSWERING HIS CELL AND SAYING THIS IS
THE GIRLFRIEND.. I WOULD REALLY TALK TO HIM. SOMETHING IS NOT QUITE RIGHT.
2006-07-01 00:17:06 · answer #9 · answered by jazzsinger 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when you have the feelings that you don't trust him, its all over. if there is no trust there is no relationship
2006-07-01 00:16:11 · answer #10 · answered by wright 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋