yesterday when i talked about my sibling problems i forgot to mention that when my brother and i fist fight and i do tell my mom and she NEVER listens. I dont want to be mean to my older sister but she is so annoying always talking about how she didnt eat anything all day just to eat more.She depends on her sleep medicine to lose weight but wont go outside and excercise. My little sisters are still so annoying. I was trying to get them to do their chores but they kept fighting each other and arguing with me. My mom is always depending on me to handle their behavior, its like im the adult. my stepfather is always asking me these stupid questions that dont even makes sense. like questions he knows the answers to. I dont have time to wast on his ignorance. He is always trying to boss people around and call them lazy when all he does is eat sleep watch TV and go to work. I cant yell at him cause my mom will yell at me. I cant deal with this family so can you tell me how to handle it?
2006-06-30 16:41:21 · 4 answers · asked by MizzQ-T 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
okay, well i havent read your first post, but based on what you wrote here...
Im thinking you're perhaps the middle child, and its almost certain that you will always get the blame for what the younger siblings do, although it isnt your fault. I'm a middle child too, so i think i understand how you feel.
Middle children are always caught in the 'middle child syndrome', where you have an older sister, who of course, as the eldest gets fluffed over because whatever they do, they're the first to experience it, and a younger brother, who, as the youngest will get fluffed over. (and in my case, my parents favour boys, so he is favourited, again) And you're caught in the middle.
Well, i guess there really isnt a 'solution' to these sorts of problems, but as you grow older, you'll just come to accept it i guess.
BUT if it is really disturbing you, then you should definetly see a counsellor about it. Although, depending on your parents, they might feel accused of bad parenting or whatnot if you do. So do it in the most gentle way possible.
Try talking to your mum first, try get her to understand how you feel. If you're somewhat close to your sister, try talking to her about it too. Sometimes, siblings really come through for each other.
As for your stepfather, theres nothing you can do except just ignore any ignorant remarks from him. If you answer back, you'll be deemed disrepectful, and also puts your mum in a hard position.
The bad thing in life is that you cannot chose your family, so make up for it with making really good friends who you can share your problems with.
Goodluck, and all the best. Hope this helped in any way possible.
2006-06-30 16:58:19 · answer #1 · answered by amyt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whoa. Sounds like you have sibling problems big time. I completely understand where you are coming from. I am the 3rd daughter out of 5. Being in the middle is a very rough spot to be in. My mother always put me in the position of looking out for my older sisters & my younger sisters. It was so frustrating. My oldest sister would always fist fight with me. One day when I got of the school bus she was out side waiting for me. She had picked up a block of wood and was chasing me down to hit me with it. Finally she caught up with me put thankfully my aunt grabbed her just in time. Things were so rough at home that I moved out on my own when I was 15. I don't know how old you are put you are going to have to stand up and fight. I know you mentioned that you fist fight with your brother, but with you oldest sister you need to ignore her. That is the one thing that noone wants to happen to them and that is to be ignored. Do you know that you can have your brother arrested for hitting you? I didn't know it at the time but I could of had my sister arrested but instead my mother put her in a home for a year after my sister claimed she was raped by my mothers boyfriend. Nevermind on that.
My oldest sister always finds some reason or another to fight with me, the last time we talked was in January and I am still ignoring her and she can't stand it. She sends messages to me, which I ignore then she sends more. I finally started sending them back. You need to find a counselor to talk to about your brother & your step-dad. Do you & your sister have fist fights or just more like mental anguish on your part?
I think that your step-dad & brother have some tention between them so they take it out on you & your sister doing the things she is doing is her way of avoiding the situation that you have been drawn in to. She doesn't do anything to help you because she doesn't want to be apart of it and the same with your mom but your mother should protect you. It is not easy because, we as children, do not know what is going on behind closed doors. My step-dad always fought with my mother, he would break bones etc. last year, my mother almost died & when I went to see her when she got out of the hospital my step-dad literally bashed my head against the front door, of course he didn't get arrested because I was at their home. go figure.
And maybe your little sisters are annoying to you because you are so frustrated with what is happening to you, maybe they are trying to distract you or protect you in the only way that they know how.
2006-06-30 17:06:17 · answer #2 · answered by ~Sheila~ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How old are you for starters? Need to know this before I can give you advise of what to do.
2006-06-30 16:53:43 · answer #3 · answered by SapphireB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds crazy, you can legally move out when your 17
2006-06-30 16:46:22 · answer #4 · answered by babygirl_mandy82 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋