I have the most beautiful, fun and loving daughter in the world and I love spending time with her, but lately every morning when we get back home from dropping my boyfriend off at work, I just want to come back and go to sleep instead of getting up and playing with her. I could probably sleep all day if i was able to... and I feel like I should have more energy. What is wrong with me?
2006-06-30 15:54:49 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
she is 14 months old
2006-06-30 16:38:21 · update #1
No, you aren't a bad mom. You aren't superwoman either. Maybe there's an underlying reason why you are tired. Could you be pregnant again, or have a sleep disorder of sorts? Are you going to sleep at a reasonable hour? If you have trouble sleeping at night, try not drinking anything caffinated after 1:00 in the afternoon and doing some form of excercise every day. Just because you're tired doesn't make you a bad mother....just be sure your daughter is in a safe place when you nap and can't hurt herself. See the doctor if this continues because it may be a sign of something causing your lack of energy.
2006-06-30 23:00:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 9⤊ 1⤋
Theres probably nothing wrong with you like mostly others are saying you are just tired. My mom (im thirteen and have a sister) is always tired she has lots of things to do around the house and she works does bills helps clean. It could be a change in diet thats causing a sudden sleep maybe your daily routine just became more complicated and if you can try to get more sleep (you probably are but some people miss the obvious sometimes) lack of sleep will just make you feel cruddy during the day anyways. Try to get an extra hour of sleep at least but really I guess thats a matter of your opinion.
2006-06-30 22:59:57 · answer #2 · answered by dudemanofdoom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all I wouldn't call you a bad mom, Just a lazy mom. If you can spend the time driving your boyfriend to work, which requires time in traffic and focusing on the road, then you should be able to continue to stay up and give that Beautiful baby that will not remain 14 months forever the time as well. Believe it or not, time is of the essence. You have to mold and nuture that little baby. And if you miss out now, you don't get that time back. Remember, kids don't stay kids forever. Take a look in the mirror and think about how much time has passed with you and your mom. If you can't remember, then imagine what she will think about you one day. Time and children are precious use it and teach them wisely. Because remember you reap what you sow. And no time and attention spells disaster for your relationship in the very near future.
2006-06-30 18:23:57 · answer #3 · answered by D's Baby 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whats wrong with you....well the reason why you probably don't want to get up in the morning and play with your child is because you are up all night with your b/f. Why is he living with you anyway. Where is her dad. Why would you bring a man into the house that you are not married to. What if ya'll break up and then what.... thats just another man that left "me and mommy" then you get a new b/f and then maybe ya'll break up too then.... sooner or later you have a kid with issues.... looking for love in all the wrong places.... trust me I know I had many friends with these problems and now they go from man to man b/c no one can show them real love and stick around...... so maybe you should stop letting you b/f sleep over and think loooong and hard before you bring yet another man into your little girls life then maybe you would be able to get up in the morning and put you little girl FIRST and play with her and spend valuable time with her....
2006-06-30 17:30:49 · answer #4 · answered by KaseyLaine 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not a bad mom, I do the same thing (tired all the time). Well it turns out that I have a medical problem (go figure). You should talk to your doctor about being tired a lot. Also one thing you could do if your tired and your daughter wants to play is child proof the house so she can only be in one room then lay on the floor or on the couch while she is playing. Your not playing with her but you are spending time with her.
2006-06-30 17:45:15 · answer #5 · answered by Confused 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you are not a bad Mom, and there is nothing wrong with you, you're simply experiencing what I refer to as the "OMG am I doing the right thing?" stage, of which you can exterminate by being proud of the decisions that you make, so the next time you drop your boyfriend off at work, take your wonderful daughter to a movie, or shopping... before going home.
2006-06-30 16:05:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sweetheart nothing is wrong with you. Society stereotypes that a woman has to be a superwoman. Take care of her needs, her children's needs, her man's needs, and be a working mother. Some women are naturally BLESSED with the talent. Sweetheart, there is nothing wrong with you. You are perfectly normal. But maybe you should set a side a day only for the two of you to hang out. Although i understand your situation, your daughter is just a child, who doesn't and wont understand why you stopped giving her attention. Children needs to feel love. So set aside some mother and daughter time. It is really important that you do this OK.
2006-06-30 16:02:44 · answer #7 · answered by multiculturalmami 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This doesn't make you a bad mom! You love your daughter and you most likely see to ALL of her needs. So you are a little fatigued, maybe you should see a doctor to find out if there is anything wrong with you physically. Just try to take better care of yourself, so that you can have the energy you need to be there for you little angel.
2006-06-30 16:17:44 · answer #8 · answered by save_me_now 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no you are not a bad mom.. i was 33 yrs old when i had my now 15 yr old son.. i came from a full time job into being a mom to 3 kids my daughter was 9 yrs old,, my 1st son was 6 and here was a baby 5 days old.. born 4-17-91..
i spent alot of time with my son ..but ask your boyfriend and your family for help.. it sounds like you are drained from being a mom and you need to see your dr for a b-12 shot.. which will help you out as you are tired alot..
i would suggest drinking tea in the am hours and taking a vitamin pill to help wake you up!
you didnt say how old your daughter is .. it might helps us yahoo members in giviving you more advice!
2006-06-30 16:26:59 · answer #9 · answered by workingmomw4 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A nap a day is a great energizer, but other than that, refuse that urge to sleep during the day and spend time with your daughter. As much as you can. Get good sleeps at night and eat fruit and good foods.
Your a good Mom if your asking this.
2006-06-30 16:03:42 · answer #10 · answered by hyperactivesleep 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋