is my situation hopeless?

Question

hi,im 28 i have mental health issues which im presentley dealing with with the aid of a social worker, ive been refered for psychotherapy. but im living in a flat( apartment) with alot of youths who live locally. that hang around in gangs and they act very antisocially and aggressive and i feel threatened by them because they virtually live in my back pocket. i feel scared by them and they make the environment very provocating and threatening. and with me having problems with anxiety and controling my anger its making life even tougher to deal with. the youths shout and 'growl' obscenities. they act like they own the place and the area. they blast music r n b out at full volume all the time all times of night. im trying to hang in there and find somewhere else to live.. but i really dont need this when i have my own issues to deal with. : (

Answer 1

Call the police. No one needs that garbage.

Answer 2

Praying, while those intentions sound "nice" won't change a thing.

This is what you need to do.

1)A psychotherapy is fine, but you should also be evaluated by a psychiatrist. An adjustment or additional medication may improve things for you.
2)Your environment is very important. Find another place to live immediately. Even for people not dealing with mental health issues, a bad environment is very hard to deal with. Again, move. Even if you have to life with a friend of family for a while until you get a new place, do it!
3)A huge part of most mental health conditions is the feeling that your situation is hopeless is very common. Your situtation is never hopeless, regardless of what it might seem like. Again, it is never hopeless!
4)Spend as much time away from the bad place as possible. Go to the public library. If the library where you live isn't a good place, find a better library in a great part of town and visit there. You can walk off the street to any public library and enjoy the resources.
5)Spend time with friends and family who's company you enjoy. Those that have depressing conversations and don't make you laugh, forget those, only people who can lift your spirits!

If all this sounds like too much work, just take it one day at a time and work on improving each of those areas. Remember that small changes over time make a big difference.

Answer 3

I don't know if you're saying they live with you, or near you. If they live near you, have someone move in with you temporarily that you trust, and explain your situation, so they're aware of what they're walking into. That may help ease some tension, a bit. You could always connect with a local church and ask the pastor if there are any members that would be able to give you room and board until you find a better apartment. That's all I can think of, in the meanwhile, keep the phone near you, the police is only a call away for your safety. Good Luck!

Answer 4

hey hang in there just a while longer until you can move on. Maybe try to be gone as much as possible and stay out of the activies that they do. With your anxiety you should be on meds. if not then you need to talk to your Dr. about it and give them some time to work. I deal with anxiety and it took about 3-4 months for my meds to really kick in and help a lot I had to change them a few times to find the ones that worked for me and I will tell you that If I hadn't had just hung in there I would have left my husband and been miserable just hang in that is the best advice I can give you by the way I am 29 and just started dealing with my issues about a year ago although they had been there for almost 3. So good for you for taking the steps that need to be done

so I wish you the best and HANG IN THERE

Answer 5

No You're situation is not hopeless. Hang in there, I bet you're stronger than you think. And if you feel like you're losing control. Pray and ask God to help you. Start praising God and guess what 'll happen those voices of those nasty people with not seem as loud. Your spirit will rise above the noise those boys are making. Just keep looking for a new place and Know you've weather the storms already,used your experience from weathering the storm and used it to make yourself stronger and Hold your head up High. I have faith you can get thru this shining so you'll be able to help others later down the road.

Lynn

Answer 6

Did you ever think of moving to the midwest, It is a slower pace here in the heart land, if you need employment , watch the local situation. SE Iowa is kinda bad at the moment, but some companies likeTyson, and Farmland are hiring and paying decent wages .

Just a idea, just sounds like you need a slower paced life style.

Answer 7

Your situation is not hopeless. You are in an unfortunate situation. Look for other housing as soon as possible. Try to dwell on taking one day at a time. Moment by moment. There is a better way.I know it's difficult but considering your financial situation, you gotta try to stay focus. I've been there. If you need to talk, I have a support group online or you can IM me. lighthouse_halo

Answer 8

Wow, for someone in your situation you seem like a very intelligent and grounded individual. Perhaps the best thing to do is to talk to your social worker about your situation and how it is making you feel. Ask for other options on where you you can live and work together to come up with a possible solution. :)
good luck

Answer 9

hi there! am sorry to hear about that. Well, its either you moved out or they. You are still in processing in curing yourself or shall i say overcoming your difficulties. But if theres no other way you could moved out or they,i guess a "sit and talk together would help. Point out which is affecting you and disturbing your health and let them know how you are having the difficulties in dealing with it. At the same time, they can continue their so called activities but, in a time that it could disturb you less. Talk to them in a nice way and maybe , everything could be settled. Sometimes we think the worst one when it could be easier when its done. Goodluck!

Answer 10

focus on that light at the end of the tunnel--you WILL get outa that flat soon, you WILL!--and then make calls starting TOMORROW to find a new place that will be a step up for u to live in. hold up your hope, baby, you can do it, and make sure 2 tell ur counselor/dr about your living situation so they can give u specific strategies 2 deal wit these jerks until u can move out. you can do it, you really can. believe in yourself and hold strong!

Answer 11

i think once you find another place to live and you are able to concentrate on your own problems without some one elses pressures and problems you will be able to resolve your problems because you want to (the fact that you have already reached out for help proves that) but until you find that place you will have to try to hang in and dont give up its not hopeless its just gonna take a little time and patience good luck!