What can I change to be rejected less?

Question

I've met so many people through out my life, hoping that maybe one day a relationship will develop. But I keep on getting rejected. How am I supposed to know what I need to change about myself to make people want to stay with me, to make people more attracted to me? It could be my looks, it could be my personality. Or it can be both. Maybe it's something else. How do I know? It's time for some changes. I'm sick of being rejected. So, how can I learn what it is that's turning people away from me?

Answer 1

Ask your friends that will give you a honest opinion for that. Or if your still friends with the people that rejected you before ask them why they rejected you then you could pinpoint what exactly was the factor making you get rejected. Then change it after, if it is your personality don't expect that you'll be able to change that so quick it's more of a progressive thing. I did that myself I was so shy but now I'm outgoing than I was before.

Answer 2

Well with out actually knowing you this is a really hard question to answer. But dating is a game of numbers and well rejection is part of that game. The thing you have to ask yourself is ¨is it worth 99 rejections to get 1 great girl?¨ If so then just keep at it. But remember to just be yourself. You should never change who you are or what you believe in for someone else.

Answer 3

Rejection sucks!

Confidence is #1 (Pride in what your good at, never let them see less)
Have a plan is #2 (always have a plan of engagement to lead)
Sense of humor and rap...know news, music, movies, jokes, sports (Learn how to entertain) (Find common bond/interests)
Don't have crushes...keep yourself emotionally distant until there is some interest on her part
Always approach a woman as a man first and then become friends
Looks will increase your acceptance. Hygeine, body, hair, clothes, car, money, education
Work your way up, start with more accessible girls and learn
Screw what friends say, it will take a year of boot camp to be a player (baby steps for regular guys)
Ignore studs...you will have to eat dirt to get what they get for free but that is life. Play your own course with blinders on.
Lighten up it is just a big game that you only lose if you don't try!

Answer 4

It seems that women (and men) tend to be turned off by someone who seems desperate. Conversely, women seem to be more attracted to someone who is comfortable with himself and doesn't worry too much about what people think. This may sound like a catch-22, but if you are worried about being rejected, then you will come across as too nervous and you will get rejected. Self-confidence is universally seen as sexy, shyness is usually not.

Eye contact and correct posture make you look confident; conversely, constantly looking at the floor (or your shoes) and slumping over makes you look like you lack confidence. If you seem to lack confidence, women will assume that you are bad with relationships (that’s why you lack confidence), and they will be more likely to reject you.

If you want a quick way to gain confidence, tell yourself that if one person rejects you, then it doesn’t matter because someone else will like you. If you are rejected by someone, it is just the opinion of that ONE person (who probably has her own issues – she’s probably rejecting everyone else too, so don’t take it personally.). Just talk to someone else as if it didn’t matter what the other person said.

Humor also seems to attract women; just don’t over do it, because trying too hard makes you look immature or desperate. Everyone seems to like someone who is funny and can make a conversation.

Answer 5

If you have to take away from yourself to make half of a couple-- then it's not a good match. Eventually you will find someone that loves you for who you are. In the meantime, don't worry about finding the one and spend more time doing things you enjoy and just being yourself. Most likely, the person of your dreams will find you in places you feel more secure.. If you're trying to be somebody else, then the person you're with knows you as that person- and when the real you shines through (and it will, trust me) they won't love you the same anymore because it wasn't you they loved to begin with. If you don't act like yourself you're never going to meet anybody that likes you because YOU are hidden behind the mask you wear.

Answer 6

Being rejected is the price for playing the game. If you play, you're going to get burned. Keep getting burned into the right girl comes along and hooks up with you.

Don't take the rejection personally.

Answer 7

Make sure that when you meet with a woman that you are well hygiene everything else is secondary. It's not looks it's the charisma you give off - feeling comfortable giving off confidence when your with the opposite sex that attracts them or keeps them coming back for more. Be yourself if they like you they like you if they don't they don't - take that attitude it will make you look more positive.

Answer 8

Self confidence is the biggest factor. Looks don't matter as much as self confidence and personality. I've seen some UGLY dudes with some HOT chicks.

Answer 9

You should always be yourself, there are more than enough people to go around so be yourself, cause if your not when you meet somebody and then you try to be yourself, they might not like you, but if you act like yourself, nothing will go wrong. If you look nice when you meet somebody, you don't just talk about yourself, you be nice, then your bound to meet somebody who likes those characteristics which people do. just hang in there, be patient and always be there to give a helping hand, people will respect you.

Answer 10

Certain men or women send vibes out to the opposite sex which just scream desperate!!!...I would suggest being content with the relationship, just as it is, let things fall naturally...comfortably. Don't look for it, it'll happen.