As a Christian,how can you face your spouse after cheated on her/him and how to pray to GOD?

Answer 1

Seek counseling immediately. AACC can help you find a Christian counselor. I don't understand from your question whether you have cheated or been cheated on by your spouse.

This is tough to answer, and much depends on the nature of the relationship you have and other factors. I think your spouse should know. You may need to get into counseling first in order to have a support system in place when the fireworks go off. You may need to tell him/her first, because if your spouse finds out you've already been to counseling, he/she may feel betrayed further. Hard to say. Pray for forgiveness, that God will strengthen and encourage your spouse, and for wisdom in knowing how to proceed.

If you are the offending party, you're going to have to face up to it. That means answering the questions and giving your spouse space to feel his/her feelings. You have known about this, and he/she has not. It will take time and it's perfectly normal for feelings to fluctuate.

Do not demand forgiveness or expect it too soon. You'll need to show that you are trustworthy (fruits worthy of repentance). Remember that forgiveness is a process and not a magic spell that takes the pain away. This may be an arduous process, but it can be worth it.

There are some really good books and resources, but I highly recommend counseling. You need someone who can sit down with you and help you process everything. You may need to go separately before it's okay to try to work through things together.

AACC to find a counselor: http://aacc.net/resources/find-a-counselor/

Books:

Hidden Keys of a Loving, Lasting Marriage, by Gary Smalley: http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0310402913/qid=1151721150/sr=2-1/ref=pd_bbs_b_2_1/002-2437303-6036011?s=books&v=glance&n=283155

Torn Asunder: Helping Couples Recover From Infidelity, by Dave Carder: http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0802471412/qid=1151721623/sr=1-1/ref=sr_1_1/002-2437303-6036011?s=books&v=glance&n=283155 - this is the workbook, but it will give you an idea what the book is like. Hopefully you can find the book on eBay or another online bookstore.

Boundaries in Marriage, by Henry Cloud and John Townsend: http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0310243149/qid=1151721831/sr=1-4/ref=sr_1_4/002-2437303-6036011?s=books&v=glance&n=283155

This is a difficult task to undertake. Do all you can to strengthen yourself and your spouse. Get as much help as you can and is appropriate.

May God bless your efforts to restore your marriage to what He wants it to be.

Answer 2

Praying will not do anything! You have to communicate with your spouse and see why they did it, their could be problems in the relationship or within that person. Stop looking for something external like god, you need to talk to your spouse. If problems still persist seek counselling.

Answer 3

You cannot recieve forgiveness without asking for it, I think praying to god about it might give you the answers to how to deal with your spouse. Stop cheating, nothing outside your marriage is so good that its worth causing someone else pain.

Answer 4

You have to forgive them because if you don't forgive others, God can't/won't forgive you of your sins. You also have to show them the love of Christ. If they cheated, then something is wrong and they need to know the way. Concerning praying to God: let it loose. God is like a best friend who wants to listen to you, whether you are having an awesome day or if you want to cry your eyes out. God knows how you are feeling already, He just wants you to tell Him.

Answer 5

People don't pray to God to forgive them. They are the ones that feel guilty, and want to forgive them selves. Try to find a way to forgive your self. Don't tell your husband anything, because it would only hurt him more. Instead, try to make it up to him, and never say why you are doing what you are. We all make mistakes, that is why we are called humans, not gods. Forgive your self.

Answer 6

I bet you pass judgment on other and swear to be a conservative it is hypocritical you can't be a christian and willingly break a commandment.
Tell the truth to your spouse then wait to be jjudged by your God and hope you have done enough begging for his forgiveness.

Answer 7

God is in the forgiving business
the bible says that when we are sincere in asking to be forgiven
that he freely forgives
Jesus died on the cross for all of our sins
Jesus took on our sin
all of it so we could have eternal life
now peeps on the other hand.......
thats alittle more difficult
christian counseling
reading the word together
spending more time together
praying together
lots of prayer.
blessings to you!
:)

Answer 8

didnt god tell u no adultress and all that. u are living proof christians dont truely belive in god. cuz if they did they would be trying so hard to not do these things. but if u were a muslim there would be a forgiveness cuz u use to be a non muslim when u did this and allah is most grecious most merciful.

Answer 9

I dont think you can. You can be forgiven by God and your spouse. But Your relationship will be destroyed-it can not be put back together.

Answer 10

ask for forgiveness to God and your spouse so that LORD would forgive you,,remember the Lord's Prayer.. forgive our trespasses as we forgive those who trespass against us.. how should we be forgiven if we don't forgive...
it says we should forgive 777 times...
Let the lord work in her/him ...ask the Lord to help your spouse to forgive you
and submit the rest to the Lord ...
what is important is our relation to GOD,, and He would do the work in our life...in our spouse.. pray for each other ...
if we don't forgive the person we would live in bitterness, if he/she cheated it is the LORD who would do the work to cleanse him/her and help us in our marriage...
you can talk to your pastors or elders, they gonna pray for you and your spouse..or marriage counsellors..
bless you all..