Should my mom say something to a woman at church that has accused me of something that I didn't do?

Question

I was accused of putting a picture of a woman's kid on the internet but I didn't do it and now my mom is wanting to get ahold of her or say something to this lady that I think she might regret on Judgment Day? Does anybody think she is right to do this or just let it blow over? I would never do something that I would regret especially like put a six yr old girl's picture on the internet. I don't know what to do cause I am worried that my family is going to be banned from coming to this church if my mom says something to this woman on church grounds? I need opinions on what to do about the whole situation.

Answer 1

Accusation, source of accusation, is mentioned in John 5:45. God's grace (which came by JC) does not accuse, rather it's Moses' law which accuses, law being accuser of the brethren.

Law and Grace are also compared in John 1:17, and as if lie and truth are being compared.

As for being right to make others wrong, such is a blame game played by scape-goats vs dumb-sheep, which only inducts all players on both sides into a hall of shame rather than a hall of fame. Such a sides war is divisional rather than peaceful. Paul says mark and avoid them which cause division: Rom 16:17. For Christ (the end of the law: Rom 10:4) is our peace who hath abolished the law: Eph 2:14.

Not to mention we are exhorted not to mind "high" things, nor be "highminded", which is to say never mind being right of such left/right, for even the right side thereof gives place to the left; And the God of all grace, truth thereof "God cannot lie", does not give place to law and lie thereof. Which is to say this God (Majesty) on "high" (Heb 1:3) in the (plural and divided) "heavens" (Heb 8:1) is divisional, having law to the left hand, grace to the right hand. Above such ("higher than the heavens") is "the only true God" of false/true Gods, "the only wise God" of foolish/wise Gods, "the living God" of dead/living Gods, "that God" of this/that Gods.

And "that God" is light having "no darkness at all", which is to say "the God of all grace" has no law at all, which is to say God's grace has no accusation(law) at all, which is to say the truth has no lie at all.

To wit: "that God"(of this/that Gods) was in "Christ"("the end of the law") reconciling the world unto himself("the God of all grace"), NOT imputing their trespasses unto them: 2Cor 5:19. Which is to say that God does not law impute sin to anyone, since law imputed sin makes sinners all, none righteous, no, not one; and God is one. So law imputed sin makes God, all the kingdom of God within you, a sinner; Not to mention law imputed sin has a death sting to it, which law is the "strength" of: 1Cor 15:56. Which is to say law is the "strong man" to bind to spoil the hse of law: sin and death thereof law. Whatsoever ye bind (or loose) on earth, it shall be bound (or loosed) in heaven. Yet any heaven having both law and grace (to the left and right) to bind or loose is a "divided" heaven or a divided God, and such gives place to division, for even what's right thereof gives place to what's left, which is how some folk (the somewhat, I know not what) give place to other folk being 'left behind'.

Above such, which is to say "above a servant" (even above the servants of righteousness of servants of sin vs servants of righteousness), it's all right and no left behind at all.
http://www.godshew.org/TwainShew6.htm#Servants
http://www.godshew.org/AboveAServant.htm

Above this vs that is "that God" only, "the blessed and only Potentate", and at "the throne of grace" only "mercy" is obtainable; Since the will of God is: "I will have mercy, and not sacrifice", which is to allegory say I will have grace, and not law. And the promise (eternal life) notably comes "after" doing the will of God (to have grace and not law), just as perfection (all grace and no law at all) comes after err.

The God of all grace make you perfect(merciful)
after ye (do err) suffer awhile (1Peter 5:10).

Let us go on unto perfection, by leaving the principles.

The "grace" of our Lord Jesus Christ with you all. Amen.

Answer 2

This could cause some real problems within your church if people start taking sides. I think you should go to the leader of your church and talk privately. Explain the situation and your concerns. Church leaders have more experience than you in dealing with matters like this and may be able to get everything resolved without causing a lot of arguing.

While I understand the need for forgiveness, someone who is wrong needs to ask for that forgiveness. (The Bible talks about this in many places.) If you have been wrongly accused, she needs to apologize to you and confess the mistake to anyone else she talked to about it so your name is cleared. And then you and your family need to forgive her.

Answer 3

Well i think your mom should try to have a calm talk w/ the woman who said that. I know it might be hard, but sometimes even the best Christians loose their cool. Also just pray about it for a while. Try to forgive the woman who said that. You never know she might be the one to get scolded on Judgement Day. But whatever happens i think you are really cool for trying to find an answer instead of blowing up in the womans face. That takes a lot of selfcontrol. I know a lot of so called Christians who don't even care, they will just blow up anyway. Just so ya know-i totally believe your story. I hope everything works out for you. I wish you the best of luck! :-)

Answer 4

Matthew 18:15

Answer 5

I believe in being up front. It sounds as if your Mum is going to speak to this woman anyway. She is protecting you and as a parent she has the right and the God given responsibility to do that. How your Mum chooses to stand up for you is out of your control and so are the consequences.

The important thing for you is that YOU are being totally honest with your Mum about what has happened. If you haven't been honest then you need to tell your Mum straight away. If you have done the wrong thing you might get into trouble but if you get caught after lying about it you will get into even bigger trouble.

Answer 6

Wow. THis is a big problem. If your mother thinks that she should say something to this lady then advise her to talk to the priest or minister.

If she refuses you might want to talk to the priest or minister and tell them what is going on. Before that you may want to have a talk to the women you is accusing you of putting the picture up. Ask her where her proof is and how she knows that is true. Try to convince her to believe you.

Good luck and God bless you for caring for your mother

Answer 7

Your mother should get together with her at a par or restaurant and really tell her what happened. Don't do it during or after church. Do it somewhere else on another day. But you really need to tell her. That isn't fair to you if you let her accuse you like that. She might need to worry about judgment day.

Answer 8

Your mother does not have to do it on the Church grounds, but can invite the woman to the restaurant or show up at her door.
Try to find some proof that you did not do it, but convince her. Many times people accuse us of things because they don't know better.

Answer 9

I think that you should speak to your mom and tell her that you would prefer to handle the situation. To convince her that you know what you are doing, you may have to have a plan of action (tell her what you intend on saying). Do you know who put the picture on the internet? Whatever you decide to say, remember to keep your voice level and polite, even if the six-year-old's mom begins to get angry and raises her voice. I think you probably already knew that, though, based on the content of your question.

Answer 10

talk to the pastors and elders of the church.. I agree with people that says you have to talk to this lady and ask forgiveness to each other..as if we have problems, elders are there to pray for us and pastor to keep the church in unity and peace and good relations with everyone by the grace of the Lord.
there are lot things going on in the church.
it is your faith and your mom's that really matters.
I hear lots of negativity and problems, conflict, and sometimes I am the one who have issues.. it is because the Devil wants no peace and He would do everything to destroy people relations to turned away from each other..
Only God knows the truth... it is GOD business to work in our life not us who wants to put it in our hands..
If they banned you, churches doors are always open.ask for forgiveness to this person and leave the rest to our Lord.. don't let the garbage keeps open, someone would dig it up again and again....

blessings !
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Answer 11

Tell your mom not to worry about it. Tell her to not go out of the way to stir up the pot up. The other lady is upset of what happened, and shes attacking you for doing it. That isn't right, but hopefully soon enough she will realize it wasn't you. Maybe talk to the woman yourself ((outside out of church)) suggest that she go to the police because they can track that kind of stuff down. Tell her that it wasn't you, and that you hopes she finds the perpetrator. Remind her about judging people lest she be judged ((I'm not sure exactly how it goes) and good luck.