I need to know what makes a guy happy. I've been through a ton of relationships and I've tried my hardest to make them happy, but it doesn't seem to work.
2006-06-30 15:08:57 · 28 answers · asked by Katie, Goddess of Happiness 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You can help a guy be happy but you ca not make him happy. You can do the usual sexual things but eventually that will get dull then you are sunk. You need to find what void he lacks in his life and find a way to fill it. To be like air to the lungs or blood to the body. when you can provide something to his live that makes him want to get up with a roar each day and mad because he has to go to sleep for fear he will miss something. Chances are YOU will never be cheated on because he will love having you around so much, he will fear ever being with out you.
2006-06-30 21:10:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I hope this advice will come in handy.
1) Guys hate women who are clingy and needy.
2) Please, give your mouth a rest sometimes (no, that's not a thinly-veiled sexual innuendo). We hate it when women just can't let 10 seconds go by without saying something. I once had dinner with a girl I really liked but she never stopped talking. It was exhausting. I don't know when she had time to eat. Imagine you are walking among the majestic forest of Sequoia National Park. Constant jabbering will only diminish the experience.
3) Guys like girls who have their own interests. We are drawn to you because you are interesting, and have life experiences to offer. Pursue outside interests, study something.... a foreign language, martial arts, scuba diving.... anything. Don't try to be a shadow to your boyfriend. Cast your own shadow!
4) While leaving a movie theatre last weekend, I heard a guy telling his friend about a girl he liked, but he added "I don't think I want to be with someone who likes me more than I like myself". Heed this caution. Don't be a doormat. Don't throw yourself at him. Guys like the chase. A guy should always think he's the lucky one.
I hope this helps. Good luck. And remember, a woman of accomplishment will always attract guys, even if they are not the most attractive. Some guys find Paris Hilton appalling because she is so plastic and one-dimensional.
2006-06-30 22:24:12 · answer #2 · answered by pachl@sbcglobal.net 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
RyJa's answer is probably closest to the truth. From what you say, 'tons of relationships' and trying to make them happy doesn't work, we have to assume that you would like to settle with one for a while. You should.
It's awesome when you hook up with someone and after months or years, they still like you or even love you.
By saying 'trying too hard' you might be trying the wrong things too hard. Trying to hold on too tight and too soon -- bad. Trying hard to listen and act very interested in what he does or what he wants to do -- good.
Wanting to know where he is every minute of the day? Hmmm. Guys? Right, bad.
Be a bit mysterious (don't tell too much or do too much too soon).
Be a friend.
I hope some of this makes sense to you. I had to go into the older memories of my brain to recall what drove me away from girlfriends in the past.
2006-06-30 22:19:55 · answer #3 · answered by Gary R T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This might sound bad, but guys want to be taken care of. Pampered even. I do a lot to keep my wife happy, mainly bring home a big enough check so she can stay home with the kid. But she keeps me happy too by making sure I always have clean underware, food/beer in the fridge, and all the bills get paid on time.
2006-06-30 22:17:04 · answer #4 · answered by asw1212 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Examin the past relationships and you may find a pattern. It could be the same type of boy that isn't healthy for you or anyone.Concentrate on your happiness. If you are happy then others happiness takes its natural course.Good luck.
2006-06-30 22:22:52 · answer #5 · answered by firestarter 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men want to be in charge without having to struggle for it. For a woman to know that they are not equal to men (since we both have our strengths and weaknesses), is to be a most desirable candidate for selection, to sound scientific (or like an ***). As a man, I know that women will do things that I am not able, but I expect that my female partner has the same respect for me. Sufferage was for women to be equal, not for them to have a "minority advantage" over men.
2006-06-30 22:14:18 · answer #6 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, be a lady with a lady's manners, dress, and decorum. 2nd, be true to yourself---don't settle for 2nd best EVER. 3rd--don't worry about this. If you follow the 1st and 2nd suggestions, the rest will take care of itself. The guys will find you. We guys want QUALITY (not garbage).
2006-06-30 22:15:51 · answer #7 · answered by snddupree 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, thats the guys job. We have the torcher of not being able to pick our guys. But guys have the torcher of haing to make us happy. lol They are suppose to buy us food at dates (no 50/50) and they are suppose to be romantic to make us happy, they are suppose to make US happy. Of course we make them happy in some ways, qith gifts sometimes too, but its mostly their job to make us happy.
2006-07-01 22:21:10 · answer #8 · answered by dotbrie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not us, its the guys. Cause I am 5'9 blonde hair -green eyes, pretty. I cook, clean, do my man's laundry & meet him sometimes with a cup of coffee in the am. Have great sex, but he does not want to live together.. I should stop being so good to him.
2006-06-30 22:12:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys are different than women.
Sex, respect, accomplishment, relaxation.
There is not a lot of complicated feelings going on upstairs.
We do not like drama at all.
Hope that helps.
2006-06-30 22:11:49 · answer #10 · answered by Texas Cowboy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋