Me and my ex of 2 years have not been together for over 2 years but he still calls me everyday and talks to me for hours, he has a girlfriend by the way and I am fine with that anyways he is my best friend and I am by far his, we get along better than any two people ever and he still says that he loves me. I need to know why does he love me but will not be with me even when I know I am the closest thing to his heart and I am not just saying that because I think it he tells me all the time. He is not secretive about any of it. So guys perferably why do you think it is that he won't be with me?
2006-06-30 14:48:19 · 11 answers · asked by zodia 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I guess you need to start drawing the line here and figuring out if you want a "friend" for life or a life partner. Life is full of booty calls and people that just sleep together as a convienience. Some guys are just better at getting their way in the way they speak to women is all. I'm assuming your still single, or he would not be calling you every day? If I were his girlfriend, I would be pissed off for him sidelining and callin his ex all the time. Come on, wouldn't you if you were on the other end of this? Make him either poo or get off the pot....dump the other girl and date you exclusively or its time to close this chapter in your life. Your hearts up for a buncha bruising otherwise girl. He won't be with you bye the way because your not standing up for yourself and being a stand alone girl....get out there and start dating!!!
2006-06-30 14:56:46 · answer #1 · answered by msjinx39 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he wants to have his cake and eat it too. Maybe not. I had a girlfriend for over 4 years but after the first 2 years it seemed like all we did was fight unless we were making love. We loved each other but just could not be together. We went our seprate ways and then a few years later got back together. It was good for awhile and then the same **** started again. We finally figured out that we are better off as friends then being together for some reason even tho we really care about each other. We talk a lot but not every day and still tell each other our problems....as long as he is not still trying to sleep with you while he has another girlfriend and she KNOWS that he talks to you then i wouldnt worry about it.....if his girlfriend DOES NOT know about you then maybe you should be glad your not with somebody who would cheat on you.
2006-06-30 14:59:40 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said that he is not secretive, that being the case, ask him if he loves you so much, and spends so much time talking to you, why are the two of you not together?
It sounds like he may be getting from you what he cannot get from his girlfriend and he is getting from her what he cannot get from you. If you still want to be his gf than you shouldn't waste so much time on him unless he is willing to drop the other girl and take you out. If not you should find someone who can fill all of your needs or do what he does, have him and a bf. It may be hard to find a bf who won't feel threatened by that. Good luck to you!
2006-06-30 14:59:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He won't be with you because he's currently nailing someone hotter than you.
Drop this guy like a cold. Screw the "best friend" act. He's playing you. You aren't the closest thing to his heart becaues he now has a girlfriend. He's trying to get some action from his ex and still keep a relationship with his currently girlfriend.
That is a trainwreck waiting to happen. You're a fool if you want him back.
2006-06-30 14:52:44 · answer #4 · answered by The B Man 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he's keeping his options open. Maybe he feeds his real girlfriend the same line, or other girls. Maybe he won't be motivated to change the situation until it isn't so good for him. That saying about having cake and eating it, too... yah, I think that applies, though I think it is a strange saying. Maybe you need to move on instead of clinging to a "friendship" that makes you question your self-worth. I agree that friendship is a wonderful type of love, but if this friendship is getting "twisted" it could be plain old manipulative. Good luck.
2006-06-30 15:06:06 · answer #5 · answered by S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He likes to keep you hanging in the wings...it makes him feel good that no matter what he does to you...your still there waiting and hoping...he cares about you sure but not enough to make you his girlfriend...he's done that with someone else...but he loves you enough to talk to you when he feels like it...ex is an ex for a reason...and in years down the road you will thank god soooo very much that you married who you will and not him....guarenteed...been there done it!
2006-06-30 14:53:32 · answer #6 · answered by tweetz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it must be that he is a faithful and committed guy. since his current girlfriend didn't do anything wrong. he is still going tobe with him. plus you don't show much affecting to give him the power he need to be a bad guy is breaking up with his current girlfriend.
2006-06-30 14:51:53 · answer #7 · answered by ken401lam 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to like you , in two ways one is because your body or because the way talk , and been understanding
two he must be wants some thing just to have fun
what i can say try to understand his point and your idea put to gather and talk about it.
2006-06-30 14:56:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems to me that you may have been the first woman he ever loved.
2006-06-30 14:51:49 · answer #9 · answered by catmanbigwil 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes friendship is more giving and loving than anything else.
2006-06-30 14:51:19 · answer #10 · answered by tweeterbird73 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋