I been with my BF for 4 yrs and i love him but he has been pressuring me to have sex. iwant to save it for marriage. we got engaged a yr ago then he took the ring back cause I wont have sex with him. he will not marry me and no whe is cheating on me & wants it over. SHOULD I HAVE SEX WITH HIM-WILL THAT MAKE HIM STAY AND BE FAITHFUL 2 ME? OR Will he use me & dump me. I love him but I dont want to give up my virginity & nothing and be used and tossed & more hurt. What should I do? what will he do if i do it with him? he mistreats me now doesnt spend any time with me, calls me a ***** now & then- & when we are intimate but havent gone all the way-he doesnt want to see me after that! thats why I hold back cause how makes me feel after we get sort of close. im scared if i go all the way he will leave me. Are my fears warranted?
2006-06-30 14:28:04 · 16 answers · asked by star4 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
will ilose him either way regardless if i have sex with him or not!
2006-06-30 14:28:46 · update #1
This guy sounds like a jerk and yes he will use you and then dump you. If he does not love you enough to respect your wishes you need to get rid of him. I'm very proud to see someone who waits til they are married to have sex. You Go Girl!! I know it must be hard because you love him but you will find someone who respects you and your values. Don't let this man pressure you into something you don't want to do.
2006-06-30 14:36:12 · answer #1 · answered by weeze 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He isn't worth your time! Either way he will leave you he is just trying to get a free ride out of you first. I think it is really great that you are waiting and if he wont wait with you it is because he does not love and care about you. I don't know why you even stayed with him as long as you did. He should never call you names or take back your ring that is psychological abuse. You shouldn't be afraid to leave him because he is trash and you can do so much better! Your dream guy could be out there right now, but you wont ever meet him unless you end the ABUSIVE relationship you are in. Please do yourself a favor you are too good for him!!
2006-06-30 14:38:17 · answer #2 · answered by Melissa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think I speak for everyone here, when I say, LEAVE HIM.
Okay, I have heard that you need to 'test drive'. But this is RIDICULOUS.
I dont think I have seen too many girls like you.
And you dont even have to think about caving in, And after reading your Q, I feel he is showing you a sneak preview of what he is going to be 20 years from now. And no, he is NOT going to stay in this relationship even if you wanted to have sex with him.
'Nuf said.
And heres a good honest piece of advice. Go as far away from him. Get a restraining order if he is plays funny. He is the kind of guy that would date rape a girl.
What I really dont understand is why are you even asking this? Did you read what you asked?? Didnt you see all the red flags in this situation??
If you give in to him, he is going to have you for breakfast, lunch and dinner and forget all about you, in 3 weeks time. I will Gah-ran-damn-tee you that your fears ARE warranted.
Take care girl and keep us posted.
All our love and care!!
2006-06-30 15:12:34 · answer #3 · answered by stillfreezing 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is this way now, maybe this isn't the right guy for you. If he can't respect that you want to wait after 4yrs and took the ring back too! I would go ahead and dump him. It will be hard cause you love him, but if you give in and he leaves anyway, you gain nothing and loose what you wanted to give your husband most. Don't give in if this is truely what you want to give your future husband on your wedding night.
2006-06-30 14:34:09 · answer #4 · answered by jessdjnick 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
5ft is nothing. It's short, not tall... Too tall would be like 6ft at your age. I was taller than my Mum at 12, and I'm a girl. At your age, I was 5"2 but now I'm 15 I am 5"4, and not growing anymore. But you'll grow. You're only young.
2016-03-26 23:33:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats horrible. If I were you, I would just end it now. You may love him, but if you do give your virginity to him, and he leaves you, you will be devistated. Believe me, if he does not treat you right, then whats the point of staying. Just ask yourself: If you have sex with him, and he stays, what makes you thikn that he'll leave you alone after that. He'll walk all over you, and treat you like dirt. But you have to listen to your heart. Do you love him enough to stay with him even after all of this? But if you don't think you can take it, leave now. Just do what you truely want to do. Don't let him pressure you either. If you want to have sex with him, then go ahead, but he has no right to force you to it. Just be honest with yourself. When you do that, you'll realize what you have to do.
2006-06-30 14:40:26 · answer #6 · answered by Kay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
for the love of god, don't sdleep with him.even if you don't wait until marriage, what's the point of waiting if you're going to regret it, since isn't that the point of waiting, not regreting? he's a jerk and if he really loved you he would wait. I had one ex cheat on me and leave me for her b.c I wouldn't sleep with him, and then I met a wonderful guy who's the only guy I've been with, and I'm the best sex he's ever had.we've been together 5 yrs. you are so better without him. trust your gut. he's bot worth it. stay true to your heart, ok? trust me.
2006-06-30 14:35:04 · answer #7 · answered by melb_222 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he truely Loves you, he would respect you and wait until he marry's you.Be strong and wait, if he really Loves you he will marry you.lf he could just walk away from you just because of sex it's not a real Love coming from him. So hold out and pray for him.
2006-06-30 14:36:50 · answer #8 · answered by catsclaw 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if he don't respect you or your opinions you should dumped him no one can make you do something you don't want to do so either look him straight in the eye and talk about your feelings and how you want things to be or dump him I know that there are greater guys out there for you. and remember never let anyone make you do what you don't want to do.It is going to be hard but sometimes you have to let go
But that's just my opinion hope it helps have a great day
2006-06-30 14:32:23 · answer #9 · answered by Maria 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Babe, if he really loved you and wanted to settle down with you, he wouldnt put you under so much pressure to have sex with him; he would wait until you are ready. Its a 2 way thing, & please dont let him psychologically bully or manipulate you into having sex with him. Sex is about physical & emotional closeness, it should be fun, not controlling, and if he doesn't understand that..............(Ill leave you finish that sentence)
Ahh that's my rant over with.....let me know....k
RD
2006-06-30 14:40:18 · answer #10 · answered by Raindog_UK 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋