should i call him?

Question

i love my ex and he called me the other day. i want to call him back and c what he is up to and how he is doin.

Answer 1

just remember why he became your ex,.......
totally depends on how you guys broke up

Answer 2

I guess it all depends. More info needed. If you still have feelings for him and you think you may want him back but he does no feel the same way, then NO! If you want to just call him back and be friends, then SURE, WHY NOT? Unless he has moved on and it might put the new relationship in an akward position especially if the new woman is jealous. Is this ex-husband or ex-boyfriend. I think that makes a difference of course too. I was ex-husband. If it is a ex-boyfriend, then I would say move on for yourself, you obviously had some problems strong enought to break you up.

Answer 3

Will he call again? Why was he calling in the first place? Was it something you should stay away from?

Sometimes it's best to figure out what you want out of it first, do you want to get back together with him? Why did you break up in the first place?

Answers:
If he still likes you he'll call again, don't be afraid to pick up the phone. (If he left a message asking you to call him back, don't be shy, pick up the phone but keep it short, something like "hey I just figured that I'd call you back, I didn't want to be rude and I can't talk long, I was just wondering what was up, ask him to call you back later)

If he was calling for a booty call chances are he's not worth calling back, if he's calling to tell you that he misses you or wants to remain friends it might be worth it to keep him around.

If you think at all he was something that should be kept at a far far distance (say on the other side of the world?) from then I wouldn't call him back at all, it's your call, just make sure you know if it feels right in your gut.

Next, what do you want, and what does he want? Normally you can quickly judge this (especially after dating for a long period of time) but if not give him a call and be honest about what you want, because afterall if you haven't talked to him in a decent time, what is telling him the truth going to do, make him run?

Lastly, and maybe most importiantly Why did you break up in the first place? If it is something that was reoccurring it will more than likely happen again (although he might be an angel for the first few months, make you get attached again, and then start doing whatever it is he does again). If it was a one time thing maybe it's right to give him a chance. Keep these two rules of thumb in your mind though 1. People who abuse do not change. period. 2. Cheaters can't keep it in their pants, and that one time he cheated on you is just the one time he was caught. Don't let him fool you, he's not going to stop.

Good luck!

Answer 4

I say call him, if you still care about him that is? Me and my ex have been in an off and on relationship for almost 7 yrs. We go through our moments where we don't talk say for a couple of months even a yr one time, and when he calls I question myself about the same thing, should I call him back? I do and I never regret it. We're still involved,though not in a relationship per say. We don't have the boyfriend girlfriend label but we know we're going to end up together and have even talked about marriage.
Whatever you decide I wish you good luck!

Answer 5

I say be brave and call. He called you first. If you don't call him, you will keep wondering about him. Feel it out. You may realize you don't love him as much as you think. OR you may find that you two should continue to explore the feelings you have for eachother. He obviously thinks about you....why else would he have called?

Answer 6

Do NOT NOT NOT call him.If he gets the idea you are chasing him he will run. Don't even ask a mutual acquaintance about him. Your only chance of getting him back is if you are lucky enough he gradually gets to miss you. He will not miss you if you call him, never.

Answer 7

Call him back! If he called it shows that he still cares about you! Call and see how he is doing. It is normal and healthy to talk to your ex.

Answer 8

well i always seem to have a hard time not calling them.. but mine are just a boyfriend that decided i am not what he wanted.. i want to be good friends before anything else.. and i thought he was such a nice guy... butt they have needs that comes before a good woman...well but this is your ex, but you still love him.. hope he still loves you... why not call him...i do not see the harm he called you... good luck

Answer 9

ooo always tricky. call him but be aware u could get hurt. if he asks u to hang out ( and u want to) say ur busy the first day he suggests u 2 get together ( don t want to look too available) but ehn the next time he suggests it say yes. but make it casual, maybe hang out iin a group.

Answer 10

Then call him, maybe there is a chance to rekindle that old flame. Whats the worst that could happen?

Answer 11

I think you should. It sounds like you two are still friends and there is no harm in just saying hi and how you doing. Just make sure if feelings do arise that they are mutual.