I have been with my man for 5 years and my man was with his ex-wife for 3 years (dating/marriage). We are not yet married. He has her yearbooks from school, pictures of her life with and without him, their marriage album, her old breast pump, and an assortment of other items. I personally think that if you have more than what fits in a small shoe box, then you have too much.
2006-06-30 14:07:27 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think you should compromise..let him keep the pictures,but definately get rid of the old breast pump...is this guy for real ? ..Pictures,,evereyone has pictures..they were part of his life,and you married him accepting him knowing that she was once part of his life..sounds like you need to let go a little yourself..and get on with it..but the "breast pump" thing really boggles the mind..maybe he doesen't even know he has it ..
I would be more concerned about how your life with this guy is rather than worry about "things" that he has..don't be so materialistic.
2006-06-30 14:14:05 · answer #1 · answered by Dfirefox 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is strange how some people will hold on to their pasts. I would talk to him about how you feel. He may not realize that these things are bugging you. Things like yearbooks and picture albums should be returned. Maybe if you tell him that maybe now is a good time to return them he will. That or box all of the crap up and put it in the attic and forget about it! Out of sight....out of mind!
2006-06-30 21:11:04 · answer #2 · answered by swtz69drmz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I could understand him having ONE pic but not their marriage album , her yr books, and her breast pump? what the heeeck is that?? That is toooo much. I think that u need to talk to him and he needs to realize that is his past. You are his future. There is a reason why she is his ex. He needs to be taking pics of u and him not gazing at his ex. How would he feel if you had an old box full of old memories of ex's??
2006-06-30 21:15:04 · answer #3 · answered by Roxy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmm.. thiers 2 sides to this one. The breast pump I am not sure about unless it was because of a kid they had. who cares about the yearbooks and pictures of her as long as not nude ones. It's his. You are to much it shouldnt bother you. She was part of his life and all. If he does get rid of them then he should mail them or deliver them to her! They are personal items. When my husband had some items he chose to get rid of we brought them to his ex and told her that since he didnt need them they should go to her or her family because they had her picture or whatever. She was happy he was mature enough to give them back and offer them to her.R U jealous for some reason? Just let him be. He's with you not her. it dont matter what he has. his memories not yours and you have no right to make him get rid of them! That is abuse!
2006-06-30 21:20:46 · answer #4 · answered by mcalano77 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What if he never lets go and he really loves her still but loves you just as much maybe that picture reminds him of where he missed up with her and he is using it to remind him so he doent lose you toooooooooooooo dont be beguilded be your own *** u mption my friend whos he with well then may it is something that he will let go of after you have let go of all the concern about his ex why waste all that time thinking about him and that damm picture when you could be enjoying eachothers love GET REAL
2006-06-30 21:17:37 · answer #5 · answered by EZE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree its OK to keep Memorabilia however it should be in a closet and out of sight. That's way too much to be kept.. Sounds like he just hasn't let go yet.. Is there a place he could store the things. Like in a garage or somewhere else other than the house. Talk to him find out why and what he is hanging on too.
2006-06-30 21:13:54 · answer #6 · answered by MARY S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A breast pump....eww....he needs help. Ask him if he would like to talk to someone since he obviously cannot let go yet (I mean seriously..a breast pump!?!?!?!?) I could see keeping some photos because he was married to her, but you have to learn to move on and he needs to learn that. If he wants to talk to someone get him with a pastor or a counceler to talk to. The sooner the better and when he gets help he may feel better himself.
2006-06-30 21:11:42 · answer #7 · answered by daredevil_girl013 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is trippin, he needs to get rid of that stuff. First of all, what does he want with her breast pump? Is he usinng it for a masturbation tool? Let him know that this is really bothersome for you. If he isnt willing to give them up, in my opinion, he has given her up either and might not ever. This is borderline compulsive behavior in my opinion. He may even need some help.
2006-06-30 21:13:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if the photos relate to other members of his family, fine...like holidays, birthdays, etc.......but the breast pump is bizzare. The other items, depending on what they are, could probably go too. I wouldn't worry about say...a wristwatch she gave him for his b'day, but he should get rid of things like wedding bands, etc....and the breast pump. odd.
2006-06-30 21:15:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are right. A very small shoe box. I would tell him that he is crossing the line and hurting you and that he needs to let go of the past or let go of you.
2006-06-30 21:11:35 · answer #10 · answered by Melissa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋