do you guys think its ok, to move a child ( a friend child)in your house without it being ok with your girlfriend that is 5months pregant? and when your partner that you been with for 8 years tell you that its not ok, you tell her oh well deal with it.. the child need help, so he's staying...
2006-06-30 13:00:48 · 7 answers · asked by playtowinjas1 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
he told me that he hope i can sleep a night, because i am heartless, for not wanten the child to stay... what the hell is that.. what i should change my life for someone else child? wtf
2006-06-30 13:16:07 · update #1
heavens no! its not ok to say that to your partner about anything and especially not something as huge as taking on the responsiblity of a child, this should definitely be a decision that is made as a couple and his perspective is absolutely ridiculous. sorry to hear that you are pregnant if you weren't i'd say if you are respected that little and your feelings are that irrelevant you should leave anyway, its not a relationship, in a relationship both peoples opinons count. there is no way i would take on someone elses problem child. not to mention having a bad kid around will be a horrible influence on your child! my kids never gave me trouble ever until they went to school and were exposed to other peoples brats they learn all kinds of bad things from them. i would definitely make him aware up front that he made this decision on his own and he'll deal with the kid on his own, that you will not participate because you don't count in this decision anyway, no babysitting, no bathing, no anything having to do with the kid, maybe thats mean to the kid but hey its not your kid and its not your job.
2006-06-30 13:06:56 · answer #1 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
nicely presented up children who've been taught to take care of and understand their elders would volunteer to assist their moms flow. nicely, that's the way issues should be, yet in on the instantaneous's international the actuality is in many circumstances diverse. youthful ones are self-absorbed or in many circumstances merely to busy to make larger kindness to others. some children sense no certain felony responsibility to assist father and mother for a myriad of motives, no longer the least of that's the shortcoming of interest and help they sense they have received contained in the previous. There are 2 methods of coping with the remember. (a million) Pay someone which could help you and take the price out of what the youngsters desire to inherit. (2) Bribe the youngsters with the promise of a case of beer and a pair of pizzas. both methods artwork. What i'd desire you would evaluate is the outcome of feeling undesirable because of the options your children make. you've given them the prospect to be of service. in the adventure that they don't desire, it really is their loss better than yours. Forgive, forget and flow on.
2016-10-14 00:29:39 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think maybe you should get your partners approval to have the child move in. I also think maybe a trial period of a month or so to see how it goes is good, then maybe 3 months. If everybody gets along well then ok, if not then maybe changes are in order.
2006-06-30 13:05:03 · answer #3 · answered by kurticus1024 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like you have a good heart but you may have to choose between the child and your girlfriend. 8 years is a long time to just give it up. You,re asking alot of her too.
2006-06-30 13:15:12 · answer #4 · answered by big jack 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find out what's going on with the child's living situation before you move them in with you. If someone forced "anybody" to stay with me and didn't ask permission I would ask questions. If there is no better place I would call Foster home.
2006-06-30 13:09:26 · answer #5 · answered by ♥c0c0puffz♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should try to compromise tell her it will only be for a little while or something
2006-06-30 13:04:39 · answer #6 · answered by casandra m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no it's not ok
2006-06-30 13:03:36 · answer #7 · answered by batinara 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋