I just quit my job cause I was overstressed ( working 16 hrs daily).And now, I am looking for another one. I am married and want to keep working to help my husband pay the bills and have a better economy as marriage,but all my girlfriends are saying that I am 31 and I should focus on having my first baby instead of thinking in being sucessful at work? I do not only want to work for sucess but to have all that I didnt have and that they were born with. Thoughts?
2006-06-30 12:28:08 · 11 answers · asked by confuse06 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
I am not expecting yet.
2006-06-30 12:29:00 · update #1
i do want to have a baby...I just believe that we are not ready yet.
2006-06-30 12:34:48 · update #2
Do what makes you happy. The fact that others are pushing their own agendas on you just tells you that they are not really your friends. A friend is someone that supports, encourages, holds you accountable and enjoys and loves you for who you are NOT for who they want you to be. If you do want children then you should think about the timing. Though modern science is helping older women have healthy babies it is better to have them before you are 35. I had my first at the age of 36 and have a healthy happy little girl. However, I was considered "high risk" and my doctors kept a close watch on my pregnancy all the way. Relax and take things as they come AND get on the same page as your husband. The two of you will be in this parenting thing together for a l-o-n-g time. If you want to be a parent, be a parent. If you don't, don't. Ignore the garbage from the outside and be happy working or not working with or without a baby.
2006-06-30 12:37:24 · answer #1 · answered by ProfPbdy 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Do what feels right for you and your husband. You two know what's best for your marriage. Personally, my goal in life wasn't to be a successful business woman, I didn't want to be a doctor or lawyer or teacher. I've always wanted to be a great wife and even better mother. That's not to say being a professional isn't important. Obviously it is and if I didn't have the choice and was told I had to stay home, I would go out into the professional world just to prove I could. My husband and I married at 19, I was in the Navy and he's a Marine. We were more mature than most our age and didn't party or drink or really do most of the things people our age were doing. We planned on waiting to have kids until I got out of the Navy but God had another idea. Our son was born ten days shy of being born nine months after our wedding. It's been hard. Children always are and we don't make much now that I've gotten out (I got out early to be with my son). We do own our own home and other than our home loan, we have no debt. We are very happy and expecting our second child.
The point of the story is, society said we shouldn't get married and start a family yet. Statistics have been against our marriage from day one. But it was right for us.
Do what you know is best and have your family when you and your husband are ready.
2006-06-30 19:49:22 · answer #2 · answered by proud_usmc_wife04 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's wrong at all. Some women prefer to put their careers first. (For several reasons...want to be financially stable before they have a baby, they just love to work, or they don't want kids at all or at least, not until later).
My only suggestion for you is to be especially careful if/when you do have kids. The older you get, the higer the likelihood is that you'll have a baby with downs syndrome or other chromosomal defects.
Once a woman's body reaches 30, the quality of her eggs starts to deteriorate slightly. Once she reaches 40, that's when women become high risk because the chances of having a downs baby doubles.
Not trying to scare you into having children when you're not ready for them...just trying to inform...that's all. :)
2006-06-30 21:40:18 · answer #3 · answered by brevejunkie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had my 1 & only (Little Angel) when I was 40. I wish I could stay home, but I can't, I'm all she's got. I wish I was at list 5 yrs younger. Do what u have too. It takes 2 incomes to make it now days, In less 1 makes real good money. Good Luck!!
2006-06-30 22:07:19 · answer #4 · answered by Just me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can have a good job and still have a baby all your doing is trying to provide for your baby and husband. and be very succuseful. its just you have to work a little harder. tell your friends to do what they want but you know that you can do both and you have your husband to help you out.
2006-06-30 19:38:27 · answer #5 · answered by jam 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Screw society!! Don't have kids until you have a career. Everyone is telling you do it *** backwards, trust me, I know. I have two kids and am a single mom. It is sooo hard. You being married is great but do yourself a favor and go for the career first.
2006-06-30 19:36:10 · answer #6 · answered by tlc 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some woman are baby crazy, i mean seriously. look at all the girls with the word mom or someones mommie in thier name. its like all they think of. just do what you want and be happy. and be careful what you wish for cause you could end up with twins like me.
2006-06-30 19:56:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dance to your own music. March to the beat of your own drummer. It's you who is living your life, no one else.
2006-06-30 19:34:40 · answer #8 · answered by oldman 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no you are not wrong. not everyone wants to have children and that is totally fine. i think its great that you have goals set for yourself and you are going to achieve them. dont listen to your girlfriends, do what you think is best for YOU.
2006-06-30 19:32:53 · answer #9 · answered by krystal 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
good answers before mine....all i can add is...you will know when you're ready. please don't let other people's ideas influence you. good luck to you
2006-06-30 21:40:42 · answer #10 · answered by Jones 4 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋