the other day i let my son go with his dad and later that afternoon he calls to tell me that my son had and accident and im thinking he pissed on himself or something but he told me that my son got hit by a bike and has a cut on his head i told him to bring him home right then but he didnt he brought him three hours later after i looked at the cut and called his doctor i took my baby to er where he had to get 4 stiches and today his dad called askin to him and i told him no cuz i dont trust him with my son no more was u wrong for saying no
2006-06-30 12:07:22 · 13 answers · asked by sexy_enchanted2320032005 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Nope. If he needed stitches and that ****** didn't bring him back for three hours, he doesn't deserve to see him unless he can be more responsible. And why didn't he take him to the doctor?
2006-06-30 12:12:21 · answer #1 · answered by strawbrrybabe 3 · 5⤊ 3⤋
Fathers don't see things the same way mothers do. He may not have thought the cut was a big deal. You can't expect fathers (especially if this is his first kid) to be as frightened at the sight of their kid's blood as a mother would be. Accidents happen, especially while kids are playing, and especially to boys.
I think not letting the father see his kid is an overreaction. Talk to the father. Find out what happened. Tell him you're concerned because the cut needed stitches and he didn't take your son to the doctor. The two of you should decide what it would take for him to win back your confidence and trust, and then the two of you should do it for the sake of your son, who needs both parents.
2006-06-30 22:44:26 · answer #2 · answered by Sarah N 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think you're wrong, but i do think you overreacted just a little bit. You have to remember that accidents happen. And its not only your son. Im sure the father is just as worried about his well-being as you are. Kids fall all the time, its part of life, its how they learn. And its not as if he didnt tell you, i mean he called and told you right away, and her must have assessed the damage and deemed it not to be as one that needs series attention, your son is fine now, being new parents is difficult, no one said it would be easy. All anyone expect from you and your husband is doing the best that you can do. If we protected our children from everything in life, they would not be exposed to germs, and hence their immune system would not strengthen, the same way if we didnt allow them to walk around the house, due to "possible hazzards" they would never walk at all. It seems that you over reacted slightly, and the father probably misses his son, so you should give him another chance.
2006-06-30 19:17:36 · answer #3 · answered by Mezee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In a normal world, NO YOU ARE NOT WRONG for wanting your son and worrying that his brain isnt hanging out of his skull. Its one thing to tell you what happened and that he will take him to go get taken care of but another thing in general to tell you that type of information and make you wait and then when YOU end up being the one to take the baby to the ER, how are YOU going to explain the reason you werent there reporting that type of accident over 3hours ago??!! My ex would so have his behind in court the next day!
2006-06-30 19:34:42 · answer #4 · answered by prncssniki 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Apparently you look right but I suggest you to look into the matter, What made him to bring the son 3 hrs late? May be its a traffic problem or something else. Once you know all the details, only then you'll be able to decide whether it was right or not.
2006-06-30 19:14:22 · answer #5 · answered by Alee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even though accidents do happen, I think you're doing the right thing. The next time you let your son see's his daddy, you should be there to supervise. Don't let them be alone until you feel that his dad is very cautious and watches him carefully.
2006-06-30 19:13:36 · answer #6 · answered by Cami 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should talk to him about being responsible...But kids are kids...all sorts of things happen...Your son could have done something to cause the accident. Other than that, if this is the first time soemthing like this has happened, i would give hime another chance
2006-06-30 19:11:41 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. I think you need to have a long discussion with daddy about his responsibilities while they child is with him. He apparently needs some ground rules and maybe even a parenting class. Not taking the child to the doctor for medical treatment of a wound that severe is child abuse and he needs to know that.
2006-06-30 19:13:40 · answer #8 · answered by ronrlogan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, i think you did the right thing if you asked him to bring him home right then and there and 3 hours later he arrives and you have to take him to the ER and he has to have stiches i wouldnt trust him either
2006-06-30 19:41:05 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope girl, he should have bought your baby to you when you said to. And how and the world did he get hit by a bike, he must won't watching your baby.
2006-06-30 19:26:18 · answer #10 · answered by janel1994 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it was an accident. If you think that he did it, and you dont trust him, by having seriaous reasons then you should think twice.
2006-06-30 19:11:29 · answer #11 · answered by Nostromo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋