whenever i go out of my way to help someone, afterwards they always seem to have their hand out looking for more. whether it be money/help fixing their car/house you name it. why can't they just say thank you and be done with it. they are just so into themsevles and if i need help no one is their. i thought thats what freinds do.
2006-06-30 10:56:28 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Pick your friends more wisely, and don't let yourself get into situations where you get used. "No" is the smallest and most powerful word. Use it.
2006-06-30 11:00:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
It does seem to work that way, doesn't it? I don't know, maybe we shouldn't expect assistance from anyone when we need it, then we all would appreciate it when someone does step up to help. Fortunately, not all people take others for granted. There are true friends out there, sometimes we just have to look a little harder....:)
2006-06-30 18:05:12 · answer #2 · answered by BlueAngel 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yup. Lot's of people are versy selfish. They'll just keep taking as long as you're giving.
But our success as a community of people depends in some part on our ability and willingness to help one another. Like anything, this can be exploited.
Choose by your standards who you feel is exploiting you. Then let them know. I'd be surprised if any of them are surprised. We all know we have to give to get.
2006-06-30 18:01:44 · answer #3 · answered by dropdagloves 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
bcuz they;re lazy. they figure if you're willing to do these things for them now, why not let you keep doing them in the future? you fixed their wallpaper? great, you can do it again next time there;s something wrong with it. you loaned them $20 for gas. they'll come back to you again next time they need a fill up. seems apparent they're not really friends but are just taking advantage of you and your generosity. lose them and find new ones. otherwise they'll keep doing this forever without end. and if YOU complain they're not helping you out when you need them, they'll question your "friendship" and what it means to them. i had a roommate for 10 years who was supposedly a friend. everytime we moved, he was coveniently absent during moving day. and when I complained why he wasn't there, he said he had better things to do. don't speak to him anymore. lose them, or be their bi*tch for ever.
2006-06-30 18:04:53 · answer #4 · answered by DIE BEEYOTCH!!! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes people don't realize that they take their loved ones for granted. At least know that you are a good person and you did help them but you can also put your foot down if you don't want to be taken advantage of.
2006-06-30 17:58:56 · answer #5 · answered by Pinky 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there are 2 types of friends... friends that help you move and friends that help you move a body. i try to have only 3 friends, true friends the body movers. i know a lot of people and i try to help anyone who asks. but i expect nothing in return from them. i trust to karma to help find someone to lend a hand in my time of need.
2006-06-30 18:04:40 · answer #6 · answered by Casca 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well my hands hurt right now can I borrow yours for um manipulating myself?THATS A REAL HAND OUT BUDDY
2006-06-30 17:59:25 · answer #7 · answered by Førsâkëñ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hear you. I don't know why people do that except that they're just spoiled brats who lack consideration. Those people won't even get it if you confront them about it. Just say "no" next time.
2006-06-30 18:06:18 · answer #8 · answered by Mimi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It has to do with Sigmund Freud and the Super Ego!
2006-06-30 17:59:30 · answer #9 · answered by OneRunningMan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oddly, people who are so into themselves don't see very clearly while they're in there. Try a little introspection.
2006-06-30 17:59:46 · answer #10 · answered by Beardog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋