and u really didnt like him,nothing wrong with him,u just didnt click, but ur friend is dating his friend,how do i get rid of him with out hurting his feelings?any suggestions would be appreciated
2006-06-30 10:43:58 · 38 answers · asked by Sherry Baby ( Ethan's Mama ) 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well if i went on a date with a guy . i would be very confused and I am sure me friends would be talking about me
just tell I'm sorry and tell your friend no more double dates as you coming to Ireland to be spoiled . and have some fun
2006-07-04 10:01:50 · answer #1 · answered by brian_the_lion2000 3 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Feelings get hurt either by the truth or by just creating a small lie, that's something to keep in mind. You're probably better off by telling him the truth, but could do it gently. Something like "You're cool but right now I'm not really into dating anyone at the moment, we could still hang out maybe?" gets you off wisely. Just make sure that you don't lead him to hints where he could be left off with the idea of a possibility with you.
Talk to your friend also, make sure that you keep all the people that got involved, with their facts straight up, so that there are no misconceptions about this, and you don't get to be the bad lead in all of this.
2006-06-30 10:52:06 · answer #2 · answered by cucajoe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You only went out on one date, it seems. This is NOT a "relationship" or anything close.
There's no need to go into any explanations. Just politely refuse his future invitations. Neither he nor you owe the other anything, and he has not right whatsoever to invest any expectations in you.
Don't say anything unkind or critical about him to your friend. If your friend asks, you might make some response similar to what you explained in your post here, but beyond that there's no call to say much.
You have a life and things to do anyhow, so don't waste too much time worrying about this guy. Good luck, and too bad about the World Cup.
2006-07-02 00:56:08 · answer #3 · answered by Der Lange 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fact that your friend is dating his friend should be irrelevant...and most of the time when someone is let down, feelings are going to be hurt (unless they didn't care for you either)...
Be honest (but tactful, not harsh)...I wish more guys that had given me the brush off over the years, or took me out and then disappeared, had just been honest and said "I just don't think we're a good match"...if you can't handle the downside of dating (breaking up, letting someone down) then you shouldn't date at all imo...
2006-06-30 10:48:04 · answer #4 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been in that boat.
Easiest method is just not to call or make an excuse or two. Hopefully he'll get the message without hurting too badly. If he persists then you just gotta come out and say you're too busy for a bf at this time.
White lies are helpful so he doesn't get hurt.
2006-06-30 10:47:53 · answer #5 · answered by Scooter 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thank him for the date and tell him that there is nothing wrong with him but you guys just didnt click
2006-06-30 10:47:14 · answer #6 · answered by Jon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
EASY EST THING TO DO IS GET YOUR FRIEND TO BREAK IT OFF WITH HIS FRIEND, REALLY, JUST SAY THIS LARRY, BOB, FRANK WHAT WAS YOUR NAME AGAIN O THATS NOT IMPORTANT I REALLY DIDNT HAVE THE BEST OF TIME WHEN WE WENT OUT ON THAT DATE WE HAD IF YOU COULD CALL IT A DATE, I KNOW YOUR FRIEND IS DATING MY FRIEND SO IF WE CAN JUST LEAVE IT AT THAT, YOU CAN STILL BE MY FRIEND LARRY I MEAN FRANK OR IS IT BOB, ANY WHO, THANKS, SEE YA AROUND, IF THAT DOESNT WORK GET CALLER ID, ITS THE GREATEST INVENTION SINCE SLICED BREAD AND WHEN YOU SEE HIM IN PUBLIC US THE OL HI BOB FRANK LARRY THING IT WORKS, NOTHING PISSSES A PERSON OFF MORE THAN GETTING THEIR NAME WRONG, O OR THAT HONESTY THING WORKS TOO, TRY IT, HAND HAVE A NICE DAY!!!
2006-07-01 03:39:52 · answer #7 · answered by texasbar 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just ignore him, he'll get the hint after a while. That's what I do with girls anyway. Either that or tell him you are going out with "insert guy name here" tonight and already made plans. Make sure he knows you don't want to be tied down. Oh, and put me next on your list!
2006-06-30 10:47:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Explain it to him just like you did here. He has done nothngi wrong to make you not like him, he is just not clicking for you. You think he is a great person and you think he'll make some girl very happy, but as you get to know him better it just feels like a neutral friendship, you aren't interested in him but you aren't disinterested in him either.
2006-06-30 10:47:01 · answer #9 · answered by cisco_cantu 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be honest about it. chances are he could be feeling the same as you, and wondering how to bring it up. if, on the other hand, he does get hurt, the honesty will allow him to get over it sooner. playing games will only draw things out. worse comes to worse, if he's a total jerk about it, then it doesn't matter, and good riddance.
at any rate, honesty is the best policy. the fact that your friend is dating his friend is irrelevant.
2006-06-30 22:47:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just keep making excuses to not be available (not lame ones like I'm giving my cat a perm on Saturday night). Eventually he WILL get the hint. Men and their spun-glass-fragile egos can't handle rejection - even the subtle sort.
2006-06-30 10:47:30 · answer #11 · answered by Brutally Honest 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋