I'm home for the summer, if I didn't have to, I wouldn't be here because we just don't get along. And, I know it's my fault for not changing the way she wants and being stressed. She bites,hits,scratches,kicks,etc. when she gets mad.She screams at me and I try to stop her by grabbing her arms, but I lose my temper and start yelling too. I didn't use to "fight" back in the past, but recent years, I don't know what's wrong with me. Just now, it happened again. I think I bruised her leg while trying to protect myself from her kicks(she was on the sofa, i was on the floor). She said i did that with my knees. I didn't mean to though. It only gets worse when I try to stop her, so I know I shouldn't, at least not physically. And I hate that I don't have more control. Any suggestions on how I can curb my reaction so that I can just let it blow over? It's not an everyday thing that she gets angry with me. But, I don't want to hurt her, even if it is unintentional.
2006-06-30 09:11:40 · 8 answers · asked by wrldcup 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Wow. Your Mom is messed up. She needs counseling about other ways to express herself. Under no circumstances should a parent EVER do those kinds of things to a child on a regular basis. You also have the right to call social services and report to authorities about how she treats you. You have every right to beat her back, but I'd try taking the higher road. Work hard to get her some real help to stop the violence, and in the meantime, distance yourself from her when she hits you, or tell her firmly that you don't like that and ask her to please stop. You'll only make it worse by striking her back. Good luck.
2006-06-30 09:18:07 · answer #1 · answered by jas2world 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well i am sorry 2 hear about the way u r being treated by ur mother. and all i can say is just 4 u 2 keep on praying and asking god 2 help u out of this situation and 2 help ur mother also. but all u have 2 do is when she stars 2 get anger or u feel the tension in the house just leave and go 4 a walk and pray about th situation and grantee u that GOD will mai\ke awy 4 u.
2006-06-30 16:17:16 · answer #2 · answered by princesspooh1987 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The two of you seriously need to get into family counseling or a good church that preaches the Word, or both!!! It sounds like mom is extremely explosive and has trouble controlling her anger issues. You are playing into it by reacting to her explosivity. When she starts screaming and kicking, hitting, etc. just go outside and get away from her. You can count to 10, or 20, or 100 or whatever you need to do to force yourself not to react to her. If she comes after you when you've gone outside to get away from her, then you need to call the police. Nobody has the right to abuse another person. She needs to know that there are consequences for her actions.
2006-07-07 15:48:09 · answer #3 · answered by Samba Queen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to remember that your Mom has no right beating you up either. I think whaat you do is defend yourself. You should try talking with a school counselor. I know school is out but you can call the school and tell them and maybe they can help. If nothing else helps call someone so that you will be in a home that is safe. Do not think it is your fault. You were and ARE defending yourself. Remember that. Good Luck and I will pray for you. Strength girl , you have it, use your mind!!
2006-06-30 16:36:49 · answer #4 · answered by aieliariaann 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
man i am sorry, i hope this stops.. remember that it is not your fault and that your mom is the one being abusive. i know you dont want to hear this but you relly need to tell someone such as the police or a teacher anyone. this is not a healthy enviroment for you to be in. no one deserves this. you are only protecting yourself the way that she taught.
2006-06-30 16:38:50 · answer #5 · answered by jean22005 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have been raised this way. It is going to be so hard for you not to fight back. Its instinct to protect yourself from being hurt when being attacked. Its sad you have to do this from your own mother is there any other family member that you can get help from?
2006-06-30 16:17:20 · answer #6 · answered by shrnstum 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a mother out of control. Let her put a mark on you and call the cops, you watch how fast the hag bag changes her tune.
2006-06-30 16:16:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't let her hit you it's wrong, she needs countceling get it for her or tell her you will call the abuse center she'll might change her ways
2006-06-30 16:32:36 · answer #8 · answered by kayla 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋