My husband and I are discussing the possibility of adopting a baby. We have 3 children ages 4, 3, and 11 months. And they are all biologically both of ours. I want a fourth baby. And I feel that there are children out there that need a family, so why have another one when we can fill that need for one child. Anyway, I guess I want to hear people's opinions about the idea, especially if you have been involved in an adoption in your own life. We intend to adopt a caucasion baby internationally. Caucasion, because I already have 3 caucasion children and I don't want the child to feel different due to that. And international so that it will be a child that may not otherwise get adopted. Any thoughts, websites, etc. are appreciated. Thanks.
2006-06-30 08:51:10 · 16 answers · asked by AmandaHugandKiss 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I'm in the same place in my life right now. My husband and I have been married for nearly 13 years and we have 4 beautiful biological children (Ages 12,6,5 & 2). I had my tubes tied after my 4th child - now would like to have 1 more. Recently, I have thought that I would like to adopt also.
2006-06-30 10:03:56 · answer #1 · answered by Amy 3 · 9⤊ 0⤋
your child is your child wheyher by blood or by choice - I think it can be a special way to say to some one we chose you.
I think adopting is great and you are right there are many children out there that ned a mom or a dad or both and if you can give one of them a home & a family all the power to you.
You may find non caucasion children from other countries more often then a caucasian one so you may have a bit of a wait. I know people who had 3 sons and adopted a little girl from China - she may not look ike her brothers but she knows that thy are all 1 big happy family with 3 brothers to watch out for her an to bring hom efriends fo rher to date ... 8o)
Good luck
2006-06-30 09:03:26 · answer #2 · answered by Tea Bee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Great idea!
However, if you adopt from Russia or a place like that, you want to make sure you get a child in good health. I've heard horror stories from the doctors I work with about people who are assured their children are healthy, but when they get them to the US and to a US doctor, they find out the child is HIV positive or something terrible like that. Also, many of these countries tell you the children are vaccinated, but they're not - the shots are either never given or they're just injected with saline.
However, the majority of people I know who've adopted from Russia, China, and Guatamala have happy healthy great kids!
Good luck!!
2006-06-30 08:59:04 · answer #3 · answered by zippythejessi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is an excellent & extremely unselfish idea.
Many people never think of adoption when they are able to have their own biological children.
Not only does your idea fulfill your desire for another child but it helps make a child, whose prospects would otherwise be terrible, part of a loving family with a future.
Congratulations. i hope you & your family are all very healthy & happy. The world needs more people like you.
2006-06-30 09:00:12 · answer #4 · answered by monkeyface 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps you could talk to some of the terrified 16-year-olds on Answers? The ones that ask "Will vinegar kill my baby if I drink it??" Those babies are looking at pretty grim futures, if not NO futures, right here in this country...
However, you might be able to save one of them, if you say, "HEY, don't get an abortion. I WANT YOUR BABY!"
You might have to talk to a few different people, but I'm sure some little girl (whose parents didn't instill in her "safe sex" ideas, or whose boyfriend said he'd "pull out") would be willing, and relieved, to help you help a baby.
It's admirable that you're considering adoption, I would LOVE to adopt one day...
I'm not saying it's bad that you're going international, but hell, there's ALOT of unwanted babies floating around in teenagers right here. (I am assuming you're US based, so sorry if I'm mistaken)
Those are my thoughts, you wanted thoughts :) GOOD LUCK, and SOME BABY SOME WHERE WILL BE HAPPY NOW!!!
2006-06-30 09:10:28 · answer #5 · answered by happy-dance 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've never done it, but bless you and your husband for being so thoughtful! I think it is a great idea, and an excellent reason. That is such a beautiful gift, to give a child a chance who might not otherwise. I say go for it and best wishes!
2006-06-30 08:55:52 · answer #6 · answered by prettypixie1997 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The child would feel different anyway. He/She wont speak English. The childs race should not matter if you really wanted to give a child a family. Sounds like you are doing it more for yourself.
2006-06-30 08:59:19 · answer #7 · answered by KathyS 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can financially and emotionally handle the new addition then go for it. I would do it myself but at the moment I don't have the money to do it yet. Any child will be blessed to be a part of your family.
2006-06-30 08:59:46 · answer #8 · answered by a1cat.rm 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You wonderful people, this world needs more folks like you. Someone who could have there own and choosing to adopt, God Bless.
2006-06-30 08:56:22 · answer #9 · answered by Granny 1 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is great that you want to adopt. I know it can be a long and costly process to adopt internationally. Good luck in your endeavor. My prayers are with you.
2006-06-30 09:00:11 · answer #10 · answered by Gigi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋